aggressiveness comes from self defence

[sociopath]

truth nuke hopefully the crowd agrees or if they don't actually tell me a reason why they don't agree

 

[Randomized Shame]

Why would it be self defense?

 

[sociopath]

Why would it be self defense?

because you have to bark to be noticed and not get kicked around like the dog you are

 

[Deleted Member 86539]

truth nuke hopefully the crowd agrees or if they don't actually tell me a reason why they don't agree

Let me guess, you are from eastern europe?

 

[Blackpillirony]

truth nuke hopefully the crowd agrees or if they don't actually tell me a reason why they don't agree

Wut ?

 

[sociopath]

Wut ?

a lot of people become very aggressive to another person to protect theirselves instead of being normal and saying how they feel rationally

 

[Randomized Shame]

because you have to bark to be noticed and not get kicked around like the dog you are

Hostility normally develops when boundaries are crossed several times, or when straight abuse happens. If you noticed you're equating aggression as a way to protect yourself, you need to be around people who don't get enjoyment out of kicking you.

 

[sociopath]

Hostility normally develops when boundaries are crossed several times, or when straight abuse happens. If you noticed you're equating aggression as a way to protect yourself, you need to be around people who don't get enjoyment out of kicking you.

I need to kick someone

 

[twinkdestroyer]

aggressiveness comes from insecurity, among other things like having a bad self esteem

 

[Randomized Shame]

a lot of people become very aggressive to another person to protect theirselves instead of being normal and saying how they feel rationally

Aggression is unregulated emotions and stress. You'd be wasting your time trying to regulate on someone else's behalf.

 

[sociopath]

Aggression is unregulated emotions and stress. You'd be wasting your time trying to regulate on someone else's behalf.

yes I am wasting my time with everything

 

[Schizotypalcel]

Hostility normally develops when boundaries are crossed several times, or when straight abuse happens. If you noticed you're equating aggression as a way to protect yourself, you need to be around people who don't get enjoyment out of kicking you.

The issue is trauma, the kicked become the kickers. An aggression sparks not out of the present but past intentions that caused trauma. A barrier is then created, a demeanor that they seen as to strong for them to handle they adapt to because they dealt with a person which such terrible motives or unintentional.

It's a cycle, a constant demeanor like this displays damage, insecurity, dirty bandaging.
You can't put a bandage on a wound if you don't know where you are bleeding from.

 

[Randomized Shame]

The issue is trauma, the kicked become the kickers. An aggression sparks not out of the present but past intentions that caused trauma. A barrier is then created, a demeanor that they seen as to strong for them to handle they adapt to because they dealt with a person which such terrible motives or unintentional.

It's a cycle, a constant demeanor like this displays damage, insecurity, dirty bandaging.
You can't put a bandage on a wound if you don't know where you are bleeding from.

Correct.

What's an interesting thing about trauma is you can recognize it so clearly in some aspects, but not others. We can recognize that being stabbed (metaphorically of course) is bad, and that person is "wrong" to stab us. We also can recognize that stabbing others is bad, and therefore we shouldn't stab others. But what we define as stabbing changes a lot after we've gone through trauma.

It's hard for us to admit that we've hurt others, and one of the things I had to learn in therapy was accepting I've just done bad and wrong things. No ifs, no buts. No "But I was also going through a hard time" and any other excuse. The reason why I had to be "no bullshit" with myself about my hurt to others is because I couldn't move on if I couldn't accepted some things are just wrong. That stabbing someone is just wrong. I showed myself sympathy for my abuse, but I had to accept that I've hurt others because of it.

 

[Schizotypalcel]

It's hard for us to admit that we've hurt others, and one of the things I had to learn in therapy was accepting I've just done bad and wrong things. No ifs, no buts. No "But I was also going through a hard time" and any other excuse. The reason why I had to be "no bullshit" with myself about my hurt to others is because I couldn't move on if I couldn't accepted some things are just wrong. That stabbing someone is just wrong. I showed myself sympathy for my abuse, but I had to accept that I've hurt others because of it.

Well said.
I struggle myself with not wanting to hurt others with words (maybe why i try so hard to be blunt and down right mean sometimes to avoid caring about that feeling), it's a selfish game because i'm not good at hiding shit. A double edge sword and this is good wisdom none to less, i will take this hidden advice and put it to use.

 

[Deleted Member 86539]

I need to kick someone

kick yourself in the head you insufferable brat. You aint no sociopath, you are just an edgy teenage girl that barely left elementary school few years ago. Begone you utter clown! Your parents should take away your internet access