CHAT i need help

[Forsaken Destiny]

this isnt rlly looksmaxxing but more of just personal advice. im 5'7 at 14 and ive always been known for being the"short" "bop" and the "ugly" kid even tho im not even that ugly, and the bop thing was just a short period of time becuase i just got out of a 6 month rls. im insecure about my teeth, my past, my personal views on others and its just getting bad at this point. ive been playing baseball for 11 years now and its terrible these past few weeks. my coach doesnt put me in the positions i want and ive just been doing terrible. i always think i can do better so thats why i get so insecure about my looks. my now girlfriend of like 3 months or something expects a lot from me. i give her all the attention i can give her tho. every moment i can, every day, every minute. but i feel like once i dont give her that attention shes just gonna move on and find someone else or lose feelings for me. nowadays your either a "lovebomber" if you dont try too hard or too little, and if your too perfect they'll find someone else whos "better" for like 1 month and then they come back. my last relationship wasnt too intimate, we didnt actually do anything but it was a little much than we should have and thats on a more mature level. 3 months after the rls ended she told her sister (that goes to my school) that i "hurt" her. this caused everyone in school to think i "SA'd" her and no one liked me. this made me have connection issues and not want to do anything else with anyone for a bit. i made my dad call hers and confront her about it and it seems like everythings going okay now about that specific thing. i stress about the food i take, my grades, sports, my family home, and on top of that i have to take in my own personal problems. i take medication, i try to stick to something but i just cant. im not depressed because it seems like most of the time im just out of it, not thinking, not day dreaming, just simply not thinking. i need some help on what i should do at this point. and how i can be confident in myself. this community really made me think im uglier than i thought i was and that was the only thing i thought i was good enough in.

 

[semen demon]

this isnt rlly looksmaxxing but more of just personal advice. im 5'7 at 14 and ive always been known for being the"short" "bop" and the "ugly" kid even tho im not even that ugly, and the bop thing was just a short period of time becuase i just got out of a 6 month rls. im insecure about my teeth, my past, my personal views on others and its just getting bad at this point. ive been playing baseball for 11 years now and its terrible these past few weeks. my coach doesnt put me in the positions i want and ive just been doing terrible. i always think i can do better so thats why i get so insecure about my looks. my now girlfriend of like 3 months or something expects a lot from me. i give her all the attention i can give her tho. every moment i can, every day, every minute. but i feel like once i dont give her that attention shes just gonna move on and find someone else or lose feelings for me. nowadays your either a "lovebomber" if you dont try too hard or too little, and if your too perfect they'll find someone else whos "better" for like 1 month and then they come back. my last relationship wasnt too intimate, we didnt actually do anything but it was a little much than we should have and thats on a more mature level. 3 months after the rls ended she told her sister (that goes to my school) that i "hurt" her. this caused everyone in school to think i "SA'd" her and no one liked me. this made me have connection issues and not want to do anything else with anyone for a bit. i made my dad call hers and confront her about it and it seems like everythings going okay now about that specific thing. i stress about the food i take, my grades, sports, my family home, and on top of that i have to take in my own personal problems. i take medication, i try to stick to something but i just cant. im not depressed because it seems like most of the time im just out of it, not thinking, not day dreaming, just simply not thinking. i need some help on what i should do at this point. and how i can be confident in myself. this community really made me think im uglier than i thought i was and that was the only thing i thought i was good enough in.

work on things little by little, trying to fix all your problems at once is going to stress you out even more
I'm sorry you got accused of the whole sa thing and how your girlfriend treats you
I completely understand how u feel doe, ts is easier said than done but don't overthink too much. other people's opinions are gonna make you feel more insecure if u think abt it too much so if people want to view you in a certain way then let them (as long as it's not anything too crazy) because you know you're not a bad person so why would you let people make it seem like you are?
with looksmaxxing this community is rlly toxic imo you should take whatever advice that seems helpful then leave, rotting on places like this is just going to make things 10x worse
hope things get better for u dood

 

[foidslayer]

ngl dnr

 

[trvecel]

 

[Deleted Member 104212]

5’7 is short at 14?

 

[trvecel]

5’7 is short at 14?

Id say so lowk

 

[foidslayer]

Id say so lowk

its average tbh

 

[Forsaken Destiny]

5’7 is short at 14?

where i live, everyone is 6'0+

 

[Forsaken Destiny]

ngl dnr

dnr?

 

[semen demon]

5’7 is short at 14?

it's not THAT bad at his age

 

[Deleted Member 104212]

where i live, everyone is 6'0+

at 14 n***a? I was probably 5’6

 

[foidslayer]

at 14 n***a? I was probably 5’6

depends on the country here everyone is 6'0+ too even at 14

 

[trvecel]

where i live, everyone is 6'0+

n***a lives in agartha

 

[Forsaken Destiny]

at 14 n***a? I was probably 5’6

lol yeah idk why they so tall frfr

 

[Forsaken Destiny]

n***a lives in agartha

lmfao

 

[Deleted Member 104212]

depends on the country here everyone is 6'0+ too even at 14

do they just grow early or continue to grow? Because I’m 6’2 rn

 

[foidslayer]

do they just grow early or continue to grow? Because I’m 6’2 rn

yes they do, i was 6 foot in 8th grade now im around 6'3

 

[Inanimate Pragmatist]

this isnt rlly looksmaxxing but more of just personal advice. im 5'7 at 14 and ive always been known for being the"short" "bop" and the "ugly" kid even tho im not even that ugly, and the bop thing was just a short period of time becuase i just got out of a 6 month rls. im insecure about my teeth, my past, my personal views on others and its just getting bad at this point. ive been playing baseball for 11 years now and its terrible these past few weeks. my coach doesnt put me in the positions i want and ive just been doing terrible. i always think i can do better so thats why i get so insecure about my looks. my now girlfriend of like 3 months or something expects a lot from me. i give her all the attention i can give her tho. every moment i can, every day, every minute. but i feel like once i dont give her that attention shes just gonna move on and find someone else or lose feelings for me. nowadays your either a "lovebomber" if you dont try too hard or too little, and if your too perfect they'll find someone else whos "better" for like 1 month and then they come back. my last relationship wasnt too intimate, we didnt actually do anything but it was a little much than we should have and thats on a more mature level. 3 months after the rls ended she told her sister (that goes to my school) that i "hurt" her. this caused everyone in school to think i "SA'd" her and no one liked me. this made me have connection issues and not want to do anything else with anyone for a bit. i made my dad call hers and confront her about it and it seems like everythings going okay now about that specific thing. i stress about the food i take, my grades, sports, my family home, and on top of that i have to take in my own personal problems. i take medication, i try to stick to something but i just cant. im not depressed because it seems like most of the time im just out of it, not thinking, not day dreaming, just simply not thinking. i need some help on what i should do at this point. and how i can be confident in myself. this community really made me think im uglier than i thought i was and that was the only thing i thought i was good enough in.

Too young. Leave the internet as a whole, leave youtube, leave social media and this forum. At best stick to spots like ebay or archive sites for the sake of gaining books, tapes, writings, audio or whatever other meduim you need to learn from or to relax. You will understand once you grow older, now you just must recline and focus on what is in your lap, not what is far away.