Do you ever forget the first?

[Nenestar]

My only LTR ended 2 years ago, and it's been 1 year since I had any contact with her.

Yet, every single day I get multiple thoughts and memories of her. They aren't even clouded by emotion, just observations, and a little dissociation about what my life once was (much better).

Is this normal? Is my brain fucked? Do I need to find someone new to get her out of my mind for even just 1 day?

 

[glamourpursuer 2.0]

you'll never forget her

 

[Dandelions]

It’s normal, don’t worry! That being said, my condolences to your next girlfriend!

 

[roveaa]

Can't relate never had LTR

 

[Dandelions]

Can't relate never had LTR

My brother just another me.

 

[AJis18]

My only LTR ended 2 years ago, and it's been 1 year since I had any contact with her.

Yet, every single day I get multiple thoughts and memories of her. They aren't even clouded by emotion, just observations, and a little dissociation about what my life once was (much better).

Is this normal? Is my brain fucked? Do I need to find someone new to get her out of my mind for even just 1 day?

Never had a first not yet but I'll NT max and I'll make it through

 

[princeps]

good reason never to have an ltr

 

[moggerofhumanity]

As normal as it gets tbh. No, I don't think most ppl forget their 1st ever.

 

[Nenestar]

It’s normal, don’t worry! That being said, my condolences to your next girlfriend!

I'm not that obsessive!

you'll never forget her

yes, but I would like a one day with not a single thought of her

Never had a first not yet but I'll NT max and I'll make it through

You'll get one

good reason never to have an ltr

Nah, few thought a day is much better than living with a fully-rotted mind

 

[glamourpursuer 2.0]

I'm not that obsessive!

yes, but I would like a one with not a single thought of her

You'll get one

Nah, few thought a day is much better than living with a fully-rotted mind

im so obsessive if i ever got into an ltr and she brokeup with me my mind would expolde

 

[Nenestar]

im so obsessive if i ever got into an ltr and she brokeup with me my mind would expolde

My mind exploded for a few months, it was really bad.

 

[princeps]

My mind exploded for a few months, it was really bad.

but is it better to have loved and lost or to never love at all?

 

[Nenestar]

but is it better to have loved and lost or to never love at all?

Better to have loved by a huge margin.

Life really isn't the same after you experience it (in a good way)

 

[rilkeanheart]

damn ts is brutal, you’ll forget tho
i already forgot my first ltr tbh like if i look back rllyyyy hard i can remember how i felt
but u will eventually just see it as neutral and u will have to PURPOSELY remember

i think its normal, everyone responds to these things differently

 

[height]

1.Failure to mate
2.Lowering status
3.Lowering confidence
4.Rumination
5.Abandonment trauma
6.Loss of innocence
7.grief
8.Unfullfilled promises
9.Betrayal
10.Avoidance
11.Shame
12.Connection of crying or sadness to longing
13.Lack of self worth
14.Loss of libido

Men are pussies and don't talk about or even recognize their feelings. Go check reddit there are subs with a ton of stories like yours.

Don't take drugs, physically exhaust your body, sleep well and don't consume content. Whatever it's uncool. You're uncool right now