Even if I’m ugly, is it really that bad to tell a girl she is pretty?

[Deleted Member 106619]

If I tell a girl “hi you’re pretty, can I give you my number?”, why is that so bad? I was searching this on reddit and they get EXTREMELY angry about it like
“I can’t believe some fucking CREEP was eyeing me up while I was in PUBLIC”
Like what the fuck?
Is it seriously that bad?
Obviously they don’t feel this way about Chad, but why is it so bad to say it that way? A free compliment and an offer that gives her an out without needing to outright reject me.
How the fuck is this even a problem?

 

[Penalizer69]

Because they assume you are a ist or something like that. If the roles were reversed you'd probably feel the same, it's instinct I think

 

[Reid]

Tell her this, ya prick.
Ya really damn smokin’, ya twat. Take yer clothes off, ya twat.

 

[Blond Hair Black Lungs]

It's a primal response, she's scared of you.

 

[Deleted Member 106619]

Because they assume you are a ist or something like that. If the roles were reversed you'd probably feel the same, it's instinct I think

So genuinely what do they expect me to do?


Women get angry if I find them attractive.
Women get angry if I leave them alone and pay for sex.
Am I really expected to just light myself on fire or something?

 

[Clqs]

It's a primal response, she's disgusted by you.

Fixed it

 

[Blond Hair Black Lungs]

Fixed it

She could be also disgusted, but that's besides the point of the thread. As a man you're a stronger animal, it's really her primal brain trying to not get in trouble. Women are scared of men.

 

[Penalizer69]

So genuinely what do they expect me to do?


Women get angry if I find them attractive.
Women get angry if I leave them alone and pay for sex.
Am I really expected to just light myself on fire or something?

I'd say if you're unnatractive the best thing in terms of girls, is to either betabucks untill you can ascend (if you can) and/or wait untill you meet a girl organically since dating apps won't work and it's risky to approach. If anyone says anything who gives a shit?

 

[Deleted Member 106619]

I’ve never asked out a woman before but sometimes I just see a girl and feel so much longing.
The pretty girl at the movie I saw the other day was alone. In my head I immediately started having the usual “oh man she’s just like me”
fantasies

where she’s lonely and would give me a chance despite my fucked up mug, and everything would just fall into place

I told myself if she walked past me when we exited I would say something but she didn’t and I just left.

 

[Deleted Member 106619]

She could be also disgusted, but that's besides the point of the thread. As a man you're a stronger animal, it's really her primal brain trying to not get in trouble. Women are scared of men.

They aren’t scared of men or violence tho. If chad threatens to kill them their pussies turn into the pacific ocean.

 

[Deleted Member 106619]

I'd say if you're unnatractive the best thing in terms of girls, is to either betabucks untill you can ascend (if you can) and/or wait untill you meet a girl organically since dating apps won't work and it's risky to approach. If anyone says anything who gives a shit?

I won’t be able to ascend unfortunately

I just want to at least try to ask out a woman once and see if fate will finally throw me a bone. Like playing the lottery when it seems like everything else has failed

 

[Deleted Member 106619]

So basically if women are going to be upset with me either way I should just say something completely unhinged is what everyone is saying

 

[BecomingX]

Fuck no n***a I do it all the time and im not even in the best place rn in terms of looks. this is why im taking the nt pill. When I began complimenting women, I made them uncomfortable because I was hoping that they would carry on the conversation. That's not how shit goes. you sort of have to rehearse what you want to say/how you want the interaction to go before you do it.

 

[Deleted Member 106619]

Fuck no n***a I do it all the time and im not even in the best place rn in terms of looks. this is why im taking the nt pill. When I began complimenting women, I made them uncomfortable because I was hoping that they would carry on the conversation. That's not how shit goes. you sort of have to rehearse what you want to say/how you want the interaction to go before you do it.

Edit. Didn’t finish

 

[Deleted Member 106619]

Fuck no n***a I do it all the time and im not even in the best place rn in terms of looks. this is why im taking the nt pill. When I began complimenting women, I made them uncomfortable because I was hoping that they would carry on the conversation. That's not how shit goes. you sort of have to rehearse what you want to say/how you want the interaction to go before you do it.

I sometimes see people suggest to compliment something on her, but that seems so artificial to me and easy to see through. Like the reason I even thought about it is because she’s a cutie. Idk though. Regarding continuing a convo, what can you really say?

 

[Deleted Member 46433]

youve never asked out a girl? like youve never approached a girl?

 

[Deleted Member 106619]

youve never asked out a girl? like youve never approached a girl?

That is correct. Never in 27 years

 

[Deleted Member 46433]

That is correct. Never in 27 years

maybe you should try then. you say youre so lonely but you also seem too afraid to try to fix that

 

[BecomingX]

I sometimes see people suggest to compliment something on her, but that seems so artificial to me and easy to see through. Like the reason I even thought about it is because she’s a cutie. Idk though. Regarding continuing a convo, what can you really say?

Just be honest about your intentions. Say "Hey I think you're really pretty, (insert very specific thing you like about her), I was wondering if I could get your number or maybe even take you out on a date sometime?"

 

[iletheile]

Tell her this, ya prick.
Ya really damn smokin’, ya twat. Take yer clothes off, ya twat.

Not even kidding this might work on some

 

[aesense]

I would just politely tell you I have a boyfriend or something. There’s no need to make a scene and embarrass someone.

 

[Deleted Member 106619]

maybe you should try then. you say youre so lonely but you also seem too afraid to try to fix that

It’s hard. I am not even joking when I say the thought of speaking to people is enough to make me quiver in fear.

My last attempt at asking out a girl was 2017. I walked up to her after class and I said “hey, can I ask you something”

When she gave me her attention, I froze.
The words simply could not escape my mouth. My teeth began chattering. I lost my train of thought entirely. The fear was overwhelming, something primal. Her friend started laughing. When I was able to move again I ran out of the class. I cried when I got home.

 

[Deleted Member 106619]

I would just politely tell you I have a boyfriend or something. There’s no need to make a scene and embarrass someone.

I feel like that’s more reasonable. Do you figure most normal women would be like that? Reddit women seem particularly man-hating

 

[aesense]

I feel like that’s more reasonable. Do you figure most normal women would be like that? Reddit women seem particularly man-hating

I’m not sure, it would depend more on the setting. But personally I don’t believe in putting down those who are already having a hard time.

 

[Deleted Member 106619]

I’m not sure, it would depend more on the setting. But personally I don’t believe in putting down those who are already having a hard time.

Thanks for the input. I may give it a shot in the future if I lose about 20-30lbs

 

[aesense]

Thanks for the input. I may give it a shot in the future if I lose about 20-30lbs

Yeah don’t give up.

 

[6'7whitechad]

If I tell a girl “hi you’re pretty, can I give you my number?”, why is that so bad? I was searching this on reddit and they get EXTREMELY angry about it like
“I can’t believe some fucking CREEP was eyeing me up while I was in PUBLIC”
Like what the fuck?
Is it seriously that bad?
Obviously they don’t feel this way about Chad, but why is it so bad to say it that way? A free compliment and an offer that gives her an out without needing to outright reject me.
How the fuck is this even a problem?

i was in school this foid obnoxiously yelling i hate chopped ppl then cackling like a witch

are all foids this gen this cruel and retarded?

 

[Kingdom of Lotharingia]

If I tell a girl “hi you’re pretty, can I give you my number?”, why is that so bad? I was searching this on reddit and they get EXTREMELY angry about it like
“I can’t believe some fucking CREEP was eyeing me up while I was in PUBLIC”
Like what the fuck?
Is it seriously that bad?
Obviously they don’t feel this way about Chad, but why is it so bad to say it that way? A free compliment and an offer that gives her an out without needing to outright reject me.
How the fuck is this even a problem?

It's offensive because it reminds them that they are chopped too.

 

[Deleted Member 106619]

Yeah don’t give up.

 

[aesense]

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[Deleted Member 46433]

It’s hard. I am not even joking when I say the thought of speaking to people is enough to make me quiver in fear.

My last attempt at asking out a girl was 2017. I walked up to her after class and I said “hey, can I ask you something”

When she gave me her attention, I froze.
The words simply could not escape my mouth. My teeth began chattering. I lost my train of thought entirely. The fear was overwhelming, something primal. Her friend started laughing. When I was able to move again I ran out of the class. I cried when I got home.

i understand you have social anxiety, but you spend so much time analyzing women's behaviors and values when youve never even spoken to them. you should at least try before you start to be influenced by what everybody else is telling you will happen

this actually is a thing that happens to a lot of incels. the reason some have trouble with relationships isnt because they keep trying and failing, its because theyve been told so much shit that they believe it, and theyre too discouraged to just try.

 

[Sammy]

you gon get pepper sprayed or shot depending where you live