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Let’s break this down.
Success with dating is not a single trait; it's a combination of traits. Of course, some jerks have girlfriends-most of the time because other good traits counterbalance this or they attract a partner that enjoys getting hurt. On the other hand, socially awkward or struggling men don't do themselves any favors when they grow bitter and hateful; this only makes things even worse.
Not all women respond similarly to similar behavior-some women are repulsed by jerk-like behavior, some are attracted, and most fall somewhere in between. Women are not a monolith, nor do they share one uniform preference, and to use rare examples, like those who idolize criminals, to represent all women is just wrong.
Most people are neither wholly good nor wholly bad; their mood, context, and environment influence how they act. What people say online often isn't reflective of who they are in real life. This is hypocrisy on both sides: some of the women who complain about men still pick transactional relationships with powerful guys and ignore "good guys" without status. Men often convince themselves that being misogynistic is appealing when they're really just paying to be accepted.
Behavior counts: you act like a bad guy to women, and low-self-esteem ones are the only ones who'll tolerate that kind of behavior, which in turn justifies your beliefs and keeps you in this circle. However, being a "nice guy" who only flatters women and trying to please them isn't attractive either; it's insecurity and lack of real value. The other pole-being a jerk who puts down women in order to seem more valuable-works on some people but will always show them your real self.
The most attractive men aren't doormats, but neither are they jerks; they're real. They're confident without being mean, kind without being self-sacrificing, able to joke and flirt without fear, and willing to walk away if someone isn't interested. That's what women mean when they say they want a "nice guy."
If the so-called "evil pill" ideology were true, those who promote it wouldn't still be alone. It is not that hard to understand why they are unable to sustain a real relationship: their personalities and behavior drive people away. Nobody wants to date someone who is sexual all the time, manipulative, resentful, or emotionally abusive. You cannot say your strategy works if your life proves it does not.
“LA FINE”- The end.
Let’s break this down.
Success with dating is not a single trait; it's a combination of traits. Of course, some jerks have girlfriends-most of the time because other good traits counterbalance this or they attract a partner that enjoys getting hurt. On the other hand, socially awkward or struggling men don't do themselves any favors when they grow bitter and hateful; this only makes things even worse.
Not all women respond similarly to similar behavior-some women are repulsed by jerk-like behavior, some are attracted, and most fall somewhere in between. Women are not a monolith, nor do they share one uniform preference, and to use rare examples, like those who idolize criminals, to represent all women is just wrong.
Most people are neither wholly good nor wholly bad; their mood, context, and environment influence how they act. What people say online often isn't reflective of who they are in real life. This is hypocrisy on both sides: some of the women who complain about men still pick transactional relationships with powerful guys and ignore "good guys" without status. Men often convince themselves that being misogynistic is appealing when they're really just paying to be accepted.
Behavior counts: you act like a bad guy to women, and low-self-esteem ones are the only ones who'll tolerate that kind of behavior, which in turn justifies your beliefs and keeps you in this circle. However, being a "nice guy" who only flatters women and trying to please them isn't attractive either; it's insecurity and lack of real value. The other pole-being a jerk who puts down women in order to seem more valuable-works on some people but will always show them your real self.
The most attractive men aren't doormats, but neither are they jerks; they're real. They're confident without being mean, kind without being self-sacrificing, able to joke and flirt without fear, and willing to walk away if someone isn't interested. That's what women mean when they say they want a "nice guy."
If the so-called "evil pill" ideology were true, those who promote it wouldn't still be alone. It is not that hard to understand why they are unable to sustain a real relationship: their personalities and behavior drive people away. Nobody wants to date someone who is sexual all the time, manipulative, resentful, or emotionally abusive. You cannot say your strategy works if your life proves it does not.
“LA FINE”- The end.
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