Experience Girlfriend breakup.

[Deleted Member 74057]

I had a 1year serious relationship, but I was sexxing her and hanging out almost every day for a whole 6 mo prior without making it official. I unfortunately got way to attached and made her my everything hanging w friends less and less which made her unattracted obv (I was in love and didn’t realize till after)

Everyone will have there own unique experiences and nothings black or white obviously. But she fell into the stereotypical party type.

After me continuously allowing her to do what she loves because we’re young and not married I lost so many hours of sleep. Checking locations worrying it was a disaster. I will NEVER put up with this again I’m not a fool and am gonna call her a whore and cope. It’s clear that I needed to do more work or find someone who respects me. Just wanted to put it out here and see if anyone else went though something similar.

 

[CJ Central]

Situations like these prove looks aren't the only part of the equation.

 

[Penalizer69]

If she did all that stuff she didn't love you take this as a win. Think about it 50 years down the line you could've been on ur death bed knowing your wasted ur time with someone who didn't love you, now you have a chance at real love and happiness. I wish you the best luck in ur future and in ur healing journey

 

[Deleted Member 70339]

dnr don’t care about your gf

 

[Ben07]

Dnr but u can get better fr

 

[Deleted Member 74057]

If she did all that stuff she didn't love you take this as a win. Think about it 50 years down the line you could've been on ur death bed knowing your wasted ur time with someone who didn't love you, now you have a chance at real love and happiness. I wish you the best luck in ur future and in ur healing journey

Tysm, it’s hard for me to admit this thinking of all the good gestures and thoughtful things she did for me and even money spent on holidays my birthday etc but in the end you are right no doubt or atleast i loved her more and wanted more commitment

 

[Deleted Member 47925]

This is just plain disrespect.

You don't lose sleep over someone who wouldn't lose a shoe for you bro.
You gave her time, attention, consistency which is rare nowadays, you prioritized her even at the cost of your own mental/wellbeing and distance from friendships. She's ignorant to the sacrificing of yourself for her. Not valuing shit, not love at all just disrespect.

And bro letting her 'do what she loves' and having it cause a constant state of distress isn't doing anyone a favor and making you look like a cuck with shit assertion skills. How do you maintain a one sided relationship? You weren't controlling either bro, you were loyal and or hopeful man. But she used your obvious scheme of vulnerability and turned it into a free fucking pass to act single while enjoying the glory of possible status with a relationship and benefits. That's a obvious dealbreaker.

I feel bad cause it seems like you just got into a love with one sided commitment and i'm sorry about that bro, hope all is well and shit. Call it cope, call it realization bro, the point is, you remembered your worth finally.

And i've never been in a relationship but bro if you're checking locations and shit, i 100% bet you're already losing more than just sleep thats just chopping your mental health and your character down.

Crazy rant but sometimes you need to reflect, yk?

 

[Deleted Member 74057]

thanks for the well said reply. That hit hard, but I did forget to mention I always told her it upset me and she did stop going out as much until eventually I dumped her. After a month no contact I took her back and she completely stopped… well yea that lasted 2mo and than she did it but more spaced out and eventually she walked out on me

 

[Deleted Member 47925]

thanks for the well said reply. That hit hard, but I did forget to mention I always told her it upset me and she did it go out less and less but eventually I dumped her. After a month no contact I took her back and she completely stopped… well yea that lasted 2mo and than she did it but more spaced out and eventually she walked out on me

At least it's over, you will find a piece to that puzzle with these new found skills of trial and obvious errors. Hope you the best in the long run man.

 

[Deleted Member 74057]

At least it's over, you will find a piece to that puzzle with these new found skills of trial and obvious errors. Hope you the best in the long run man.

absolutely thank you

 

[Deleted Member 47925]

absolutely thank you

No problem bud.