How to think positively? I can't.

[000x6:::]

These never get me much commentary so it's hard to really want to say much but I find that everything going on in life, mine at least, is negative. Advice on how to switch perspectives?

I'm not attractive, rated ltb 99% of the time with facefat and no matter how much weight I drop, I still look bloated. People shamed and harassed me for years.

I used to find going outside and hiking the woods to be peaceful but now there are lonestar ticks and other problems, greens and fruit produce have something wrong with it rn based on spirals online(literally don't want to eat anymore), outside smells entirely of smoke, and I can't go out to do something fun without spending money. Not because I can't control myself but because there is literally nothing to do. Mall? Walk around or spend money. Fair? Money. Thrift? Money. Gym? Membership is money. Other stores? Money. Cost is everything. Only thing that's free is to walk.

Friends are borderline impossible to get. Good ones. Anytime I befriend someone they only discuss drama, their romantic interests, and how they're getting screwed over by a guy. If I befriend a boy, they often take it that I am romantically interested in them. I am not.

My only focus is school and I have no time to do the things that used to make me happy such as coding, painting, writing, or reading.

Every single day I am deeply saddened and find nearly everything to be pointless. Some of the content I see just says to stick around so you can laugh at a joke you've never heard before, listen to a new song, smell a new flower. But... is that really it?

I feel like I'm just stepping through life without joy. I am not happy. Do not know how to fix it. I thought changing my looks would help but all it did was get me awkwardly hit on a few times.

I've started eating healthy, I'm hygienic, and workout. Nothing helps.

Airball, genuinely what do I do.

 

[benny]

You seem young

If you are in highschool this is normal, I can promise it gets better as people mature

In the meantime, realize you are not your thoughts, don't give attention/energy to the negative ones, and appreciate the positive ones.

You got this!

 

[000x6:::]

You seem young

If you are in highschool this is normal, I can promise it gets better as people mature

In the meantime, realize you are not your thoughts, don't give attention/energy to the negative ones, and appreciate the positive ones.

You got this!

I am currently in college actually. People said it would be easier to make friends but it's relatively the same. People just split into groups more and drink more. They act mature but most I've seen aren't.

Highschool was actually insufferable and where I got the most harassed, glad to have graduated. Only benefit to college is that I pick my schedule.

 

[Penalizer69]

There's no such thing as positivity in a negative life only acceptance

 

[mimi_430]

if it makes you feel better, there are many many people who feel the exact same way as you

 

[000x6:::]

There's no such thing as positivity in a negative life only acceptance

Right, so how do you accept it and want to even continue with life?

I understand this is the way it is. Corruption, judgement, violence, all of it. But there are people who are still happy, make something of themselves. They are confident or even admired. How do you shine and find peace in a corrupt world.

 

[Inanimate Pragmatist]

These never get me much commentary so it's hard to really want to say much but I find that everything going on in life, mine at least, is negative. Advice on how to switch perspectives?

I'm not attractive, rated ltb 99% of the time with facefat and no matter how much weight I drop, I still look bloated. People shamed and harassed me for years.

I used to find going outside and hiking the woods to be peaceful but now there are lonestar ticks and other problems, greens and fruit produce have something wrong with it rn based on spirals online(literally don't want to eat anymore), outside smells entirely of smoke, and I can't go out to do something fun without spending money. Not because I can't control myself but because there is literally nothing to do. Mall? Walk around or spend money. Fair? Money. Thrift? Money. Gym? Membership is money. Other stores? Money. Cost is everything. Only thing that's free is to walk.

Friends are borderline impossible to get. Good ones. Anytime I befriend someone they only discuss drama, their romantic interests, and how they're getting screwed over by a guy. If I befriend a boy, they often take it that I am romantically interested in them. I am not.

My only focus is school and I have no time to do the things that used to make me happy such as coding, painting, writing, or reading.

Every single day I am deeply saddened and find nearly everything to be pointless. Some of the content I see just says to stick around so you can laugh at a joke you've never heard before, listen to a new song, smell a new flower. But... is that really it?

I feel like I'm just stepping through life without joy. I am not happy. Do not know how to fix it. I thought changing my looks would help but all it did was get me awkwardly hit on a few times.

I've started eating healthy, I'm hygienic, and workout. Nothing helps.

Airball, genuinely what do I do.

I always say, we lost more at Trianon and Mohacs.

 

[000x6:::]

if it makes you feel better, there are many many people who feel the exact same way as you

But what can they do about it? You know? How do you not stay the same

 

[Penalizer69]

Right, so how do you accept it and want to even continue with life?

I understand this is the way it is. Corruption, judgement, violence, all of it. But there are people who are still happy, make something of themselves. They are confident or even admired. How do you shine and find peace in a corrupt world.

It's not like you can change things. You just have to learn to detach and accept things as they are while making the best out of life you can

 

[000x6:::]

It's not like you can change things. You just have to learn to detach and accept things as they are while making the best out of life you can

How do you detach from the things you care about? How do you make sure it doesn't clog your mind

 

[Penalizer69]

How do you detach from the things you care about? How do you make sure it doesn't clog your mind

You can care about something and be detached from it. Detachment isn't about not caring it's about accepting the fact that you can always lose something. I'd suggest looking into Buddhist philosophy for a real explanation on it all.

 

[TheEthnicGod]

i cry
im angry
im happy

everyday its a cycle i want to escape

 

[000x6:::]

You can care about something and be detached from it. Detachment isn't about not caring it's about accepting the fact that you can always lose something. I'd suggest looking into Buddhist philosophy for a real explanation on it all.

I'll be sure to look into it. Only so much time in the world, gotta use it

 

[mimi_430]

But what can they do about it? You know? How do you not stay the same

life is unfair i guess and sometimes we can't do anything about it