I always found it hard to build deep bonds with people

[milkjar]

before someone says "your not a sociopath bro" I don't mean it in a edgelord way "omg i'm so different and don't have emotions"I know I'm just a normal ass n***a, but seriously i've never been able to have a deep connection with someone like that, everyone just meets my already low expectations of them, and if they don't, I have to fake acting like I care about them or support them, it doesn't feel genuine I have to force it and it's not like I dislike them or anything, I just can't bring my self to genuinely feel that way about anyone

 

[milkjar]

@giga.mia @Genetics how do you feel when it comes to this

 

[milkjar]

@apatheia @snow @Aluc

 

[snow]

The world is whatever u perceive it so if you see reality a certain way thats how it’s gonna be for you

 

[Randomized Shame]

This is going to sound ridiculous but do you also feel detached from your caregivers?

 

[milkjar]

This is going to sound ridiculous but do you also feel detached from your caregivers?

to varying degrees, I'd say like 60% yes

 

[Randomized Shame]

Growing up I felt similarly, but I didn't realize I felt that way, I just assumed people always felt that way and just wasn't being transparent about it for some reason. I couldn't fully trust someone or fully be vulnerable with them because of the lack of connection.

In my case it stemmed from childhood neglect I guess. I have a complicated relationship with my caregivers, and even though I care and love for them I still recognize their style of parenting is what made me that way.

I obviously don't know your situation but instead of focusing so much on what you're experiencing and how you feel different, maybe trying to think about why. It kind of feels endless sometimes and you don't know where to start, and sometimes learning why is a good start.

Life does become better when you're able to form connections, so I think it's worth the investment.

 

[Schizotypalcel]

no @ no care milkfag

 

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