Story I am a very ill mannered person

[Exeggutor]

I am so reserved and introverted that I hesitate to interact with my neighbours. My neighbours are very upset with me.

My neighbour's children greet my mom but I don't greet their parents. I just ignore them and stay aloof. Neighbour is upset that her kids greet my mom but I don't greet her. I don't greet or say anything because I feel so uncomfortable.

I am not against them, I am just very avoidant kind of person. I don't come across as a friendly person at all. Whenever the neighbour is around me, I just avoid any interaction. I will feel very insecure if they try to talk to me.

If you want good relations with neighbours, you have to socialize with them. When you don't socialize with them, they see you as rude, hateful and disrespectful.

 

[vivi]

I am so reserved and introverted that I hesitate to interact with my neighbours. My neighbours are very upset with me.

My neighbour's children greet my mom but I don't greet their parents. I just ignore them and stay aloof. Neighbour is upset that her kids greet my mom but I don't greet her

I am not against them, I am just very avoidant kind of person. I don't come across as a friendly person at all. Whenever the neighbour is around me, I just avoid any interaction. I will feel very insecure if they try to talk to me.

If you want good relations with neighbours, you have to socialize with them. When you don't socialize with them, they see you as rude, hateful and disrespectful.

teehee

 

[Schizotypаlcel]

I am so reserved and introverted that I hesitate to interact with my neighbours. My neighbours are very upset with me.

My neighbour's children greet my mom but I don't greet their parents. I just ignore them and stay aloof. Neighbour is upset that her kids greet my mom but I don't greet her

I am not against them, I am just very avoidant kind of person. I don't come across as a friendly person at all. Whenever the neighbour is around me, I just avoid any interaction. I will feel very insecure if they try to talk to me.

If you want good relations with neighbours, you have to socialize with them. When you don't socialize with them, they see you as rude, hateful and disrespectful.

teehee morals

 

[rovea]

they see you as rude, hateful and disrespectful.

This is just what you think they think about you. They probably don’t even know you exist

 

[Exeggutor]

teehee morals

Since childhood I am like this. Not talking to outsiders or neighbours.

 

[fashist]

Why do you care tbh

 

[Exeggutor]

This is just what you think they think about you. They probably don’t even know you exist

They do know me and recognize me. My mom talks to her. I am often the topic of their discussion yet she never said anything about my personality.

She is not upset with mom, she is likely upset with me. Neighbours won't tell how they feel

 

[Deleted Member 84302]

larp psychopathy better next time

 

[Exeggutor]

Why do you care tbh

I don't want angry neighbours who hate us. She interacts with my mom. What will she think of my mom? That she never taught manners to her son?

 

[Exeggutor]

larp psychopathy better next time

Ofc I am not like others

 

[fashist]

I don't want angry neighbours who hate us. She interacts with my mom. What will she think of my mom? That she never taught manners to her son?

Yea why do you care blud

 

[Exeggutor]

Yea why do you care blud

I cannot stand people hating me and living next to me. Anybody will be happier if they have good relationship with neighbors.

What should I do that I don't get any neighbors? I am not fit to live in this society. In order to live in society you have to talk.

 

[intransit4you]

I am so reserved and introverted that I hesitate to interact with my neighbours. My neighbours are very upset with me.

My neighbour's children greet my mom but I don't greet their parents. I just ignore them and stay aloof. Neighbour is upset that her kids greet my mom but I don't greet her. I don't greet or say anything because I feel so uncomfortable.

I am not against them, I am just very avoidant kind of person. I don't come across as a friendly person at all. Whenever the neighbour is around me, I just avoid any interaction. I will feel very insecure if they try to talk to me.

If you want good relations with neighbours, you have to socialize with them. When you don't socialize with them, they see you as rude, hateful and disrespectful.

my entire life i've been the same way with people, so much to the point where 16 years later i still have yet to make a friend where I started the friendship...even online.

 

[Exeggutor]

my entire life i've been the same way with people, so much to the point where 16 years later i still have yet to make a friend where I started the friendship...even online.

Extroverts don't know how worse it is unless they come across a severe introvert

 

[intransit4you]

Extroverts don't know how worse it is unless they come across a severe introvert

they'll never get it, even if they're just shy towards people. I've been so ashamed at how bad I am at it i've spent years wondering if I am undiagnosed with something, no average person is like this after all

 

[Exeggutor]

they'll never get it, even if they're just shy towards people. I've been so ashamed at how bad I am at it i've spent years wondering if I am undiagnosed with something, no average person is like this after all

I should have got some treatment from counsellor during my early years. What stays in childhood continues in adulthood when you don't intervene.

A counselor who often comes to our school told my mom that I have some kind of disorder. He told my mom to do this do that. I don't know that much. I was like 5.

Some school staff asked my mom if I am disabled by speech or not since I hardly used to say anything at school.

 

[intransit4you]

atleast you got noticed multiple times, I never did and when I try it often goes ignored. but i guess that stems from the fact I feel like I was just born with awareness or like a conscience, its weird but that's the only way to describe it. I tell my mom these things that I resonate with and she only dismisses them, saying its not true. she doesn't even know me.

 

[yasycat]

well yeah you have an active choice in how you interact with them so you cant really complain when theyre unhappy with it
if you want people to like you, you have to make an effort sorry

 

[Pento]

I am so reserved and introverted that I hesitate to interact with my neighbours. My neighbours are very upset with me.

My neighbour's children greet my mom but I don't greet their parents. I just ignore them and stay aloof. Neighbour is upset that her kids greet my mom but I don't greet her. I don't greet or say anything because I feel so uncomfortable.

I am not against them, I am just very avoidant kind of person. I don't come across as a friendly person at all. Whenever the neighbour is around me, I just avoid any interaction. I will feel very insecure if they try to talk to me.

If you want good relations with neighbours, you have to socialize with them. When you don't socialize with them, they see you as rude, hateful and disrespectful.

How deplorable

 

[yasycat]

they'll never get it, even if they're just shy towards people. I've been so ashamed at how bad I am at it i've spent years wondering if I am undiagnosed with something, no average person is like this after all

this is the biggest differents between ND moids and foids
you guys can't just sit around and wonder why you're so awkward
i promise i know how you feel ive been in the same situation i ddint talk at all until i was 7 and didnt make friends at all until highschool but eventually around 13 or 14 you have to actually make a difference in your life if you want to be happy
not even in a mean way but there is a lot you can do for yourself socially, even if it's hard you're not stuck

 

[intransit4you]

this is the biggest differents between ND moids and foids
you guys can't just sit around and wonder why you're so awkward
i promise i know how you feel ive been in the same situation i ddint talk at all until i was 7 and didnt make friends at all until highschool but eventually around 13 or 14 you have to actually make a difference in your life if you want to be happy
not even in a mean way but there is a lot you can do for yourself socially, even if it's hard you're not stuck

I know I just don't care anymore, I always find a way to cope so I just let it happen, but I still feel like there's something mentally wrong with me
in the 7th grade I used to freak out about how many people I was connected with, I had this life-plan extending all the way till my 60s and I remember I did succeed in gaining friends and connections (6th grade 0 friends, 7th grade 15 friends) and I had to put crazy effort.

I've just accepted maybe I'm not the kind to have a bunch of friends, that im better off with my 5 main friends, but it also sucks cause I do better online, so I'm basically a loser

 

[Exeggutor]

this is the biggest differents between ND moids and foids
you guys can't just sit around and wonder why you're so awkward
i promise i know how you feel ive been in the same situation i ddint talk at all until i was 7 and didnt make friends at all until highschool but eventually around 13 or 14 you have to actually make a difference in your life if you want to be happy
not even in a mean way but there is a lot you can do for yourself socially, even if it's hard you're not stuck

I used to count how many words I spoke at school. I spoke like 80 words on an average. Most of the words I spoke were enquiry related.

I did some small talk with others but they were not my friends. I hardly had any friend and the friend is not a true one.

I have weird obsession with dates and years.

 

[yasycat]

I know I just don't care anymore, I always find a way to cope so I just let it happen, but I still feel like there's something mentally wrong with me
in the 7th grade I used to freak out about how many people I was connected with, I had this life-plan extending all the way till my 60s and I remember I did succeed in gaining friends and connections (6th grade 0 friends, 7th grade 15 friends) and I had to put crazy effort.

I've just accepted maybe I'm not the kind to have a bunch of friends, that im better off with my 5 main friends, but it also sucks cause I do better online, so I'm basically a loser

you have to put in effort at first but it becomes easier overtime
if anything is going to get you far, make you happy, and help you exceed it's social connection even if you deny it

 

[yasycat]

I used to count how many words I spoke at school. I spoke like 80 words on an average. Most of the words I spoke were enquiry related.

I did some small talk with others but they were not my friends. I hardly had any friend and the friend is not a true one.

I have weird obsession with dates and years.

yeah, youre probably autistic
takes some prozac and try harder it's hard but it's worth it
just mirror the way the people around you interact

 

[Exeggutor]

yeah, youre probably autistic
takes some prozac and try harder it's hard but it's worth it
just mirror the way the people around you interact

Some people even try to interact with me but I say just few words and then cut off the conversation as if I am not interested.

My ignoring others also seen as rude. I often don't greet people. Whenever some guest comes to home, I hide myself and stay away from scene.

 

[yasycat]

Some people even try to interact with me but I say just few words and then cut off the conversation as if I am not interested.

My ignoring others also seen as rude. I often don't greet people. Whenever some guest comes to home, I hide myself and stay away from scene.

then you can't complain that people don't like you idk what to tell you man
it doesnt even just seem rude - it is rude its proper etiquette to greet people and be friendly
nobody wants to do it, they do it because its polite and thats well understood

 

[yasycat]

Some people even try to interact with me but I say just few words and then cut off the conversation as if I am not interested.

My ignoring others also seen as rude. I often don't greet people. Whenever some guest comes to home, I hide myself and stay away from scene.

not sure why youre on a self-improvement forum if youre not working to improve yourself

 

[selank]

I am so reserved and introverted that I hesitate to interact with my neighbours. My neighbours are very upset with me.

My neighbour's children greet my mom but I don't greet their parents. I just ignore them and stay aloof. Neighbour is upset that her kids greet my mom but I don't greet her. I don't greet or say anything because I feel so uncomfortable.

I am not against them, I am just very avoidant kind of person. I don't come across as a friendly person at all. Whenever the neighbour is around me, I just avoid any interaction. I will feel very insecure if they try to talk to me.

If you want good relations with neighbours, you have to socialize with them. When you don't socialize with them, they see you as rude, hateful and disrespectful.

Istg normies think being quiet and reserved is a sin

 

[Exeggutor]

not sure why youre on a self-improvement forum if youre not working to improve yourself

I feel shy to face them, that is why I cannot greet them whenever they are around.

I came here more for looks and appearance since it's looksmaxxing.

 

[Gengar]

I am so reserved and introverted that I hesitate to interact with my neighbours. My neighbours are very upset with me.

My neighbour's children greet my mom but I don't greet their parents. I just ignore them and stay aloof. Neighbour is upset that her kids greet my mom but I don't greet her. I don't greet or say anything because I feel so uncomfortable.

I am not against them, I am just very avoidant kind of person. I don't come across as a friendly person at all. Whenever the neighbour is around me, I just avoid any interaction. I will feel very insecure if they try to talk to me.

If you want good relations with neighbours, you have to socialize with them. When you don't socialize with them, they see you as rude, hateful and disrespectful.

I don’t think that makes you ill-mannered. Her expecting you to greet her because her kids greet your mom is actually what’s ill-mannered.

 

[yasycat]

I feel shy to face them, that is why I cannot greet them whenever they are around.

I came here more for looks and appearance since it's looksmaxxing.

sorry man you just have to overcome your shyness it takes work youre not magically gonna stop feeling shy
part of looksmaxxing is making yourself more appealing to people and people arent going to feel attracted to you if youre off putting, even if you look good