I can help every human on earth but never me

[Carcinogenic]

why can i help basically everyone except myself

i can genuinely help random people with their problems, give them advice, talk them through shit and actually see what they need to do

but when it comes to me i just dont do any of that shit

its like i can look at someone else's situation objectively and immediately see what they're doing wrong / what could make things better, but when its my own life i just cant apply the same logic

i'll tell someone else that they're not worthless, that they can improve, that their situation isnt permanent etc

then look at myself and somehow none of that applies

i dont even think its that i dont know how to help myself, i think i just cant look at myself the same way i look at other people

anyone else like this

 

[Hypertrophy]

I'm pretty sure there is some kind of name for this phenomena

I feel the same way, I devote so much time to other people and can't find myself doing good for myself. Then I get in a bad mood because it makes me hate myself more and the person in devoting time to notices that and just thinks I don't like them or something

It's exhausting and honestly the best thing to do is break out of it and just do what you need to do, and I actually implement this into my life so Im not just giving worthless advice

 

[Carcinogenic]

I'm pretty sure there is some kind of name for this phenomena

I feel the same way, I devote so much time to other people and can't find myself doing good for myself. Then I get in a bad mood because it makes me hate myself more and the person in devoting time to notices that and just thinks I don't like them or something

It's exhausting and honestly the best thing to do is break out of it and just do what you need to do, and I actually implement this into my life so Im not just giving worthless advice

Do you have any strats on how to break out of the pattern bro, tbh im in desparate need

do you also sometimes feel guilty for other peoples problems and suffering even tho you have nothing to do with it?

 

[Hypertrophy]

Do you have any strats on how to break out of the pattern bro, tbh im in desparate need

You lowk just gotta be nonchalant and stop caring for people, if they're being difficult let them be difficult and ignore them while they fix themselves. Even if they leave who cares? Then you have hella more time to pursue yourself

But you must actually pursue something and not dick around which is hard but it gets easier with each day

do you also sometimes feel guilty for other peoples problems and suffering even tho you have nothing to do with it?

Maybe sometimes, I only really help people because I want to impress them with my expertise or to get something out of it later on

 

[Carcinogenic]

You lowk just gotta be nonchalant and stop caring for people, if they're being difficult let them be difficult and ignore them while they fix themselves. Even if they leave who cares? Then you have hella more time to pursue yourself

But you must actually pursue something and not dick around which is hard but it gets easier with each day

Maybe sometimes, I only really help people because I want to impress them with my expertise or to get something out of it later on

fair tbh i needa move out of my home soon i have to start in a non toxic enviornment

 

[Hypertrophy]

fair tbh i needa move out of my home soon i have to start in a non toxic enviornment

Cut off all those people holding you back rn or set new boundaries with them

 

[Carcinogenic]

Cut off all those people holding you back rn or set new boundaries with them

i am my only problem is that i am unable to work and therefore dont earn money and the process for disbillity is really slow

 

[Hypertrophy]

i am my only problem is that i am unable to work and therefore dont earn money

You could do other things like expand your knowledge on economics, biology, pharmacology, buncha shit. People who are knowledge fluent are cool and what people should strive to be

and the process for disbillity is really slow

Elaborate

 

[Carcinogenic]

You could do other things like expand your knowledge on economics, biology, pharmacology, buncha shit. People who are knowledge fluent are cool and what people should strive to be

i have the knowledge i need even too much tbh i excel at psychology and brain chemistry

Elaborate

Birth defects and also mentally ill and impaired and they needa check 1000 things and in that time i cannot work

 

[Dearpleasehelpme]

why can i help basically everyone except myself

i can genuinely help random people with their problems, give them advice, talk them through shit and actually see what they need to do

but when it comes to me i just dont do any of that shit

its like i can look at someone else's situation objectively and immediately see what they're doing wrong / what could make things better, but when its my own life i just cant apply the same logic

i'll tell someone else that they're not worthless, that they can improve, that their situation isnt permanent etc

then look at myself and somehow none of that applies

i dont even think its that i dont know how to help myself, i think i just cant look at myself the same way i look at other people

anyone else like this

help me

 

[Carcinogenic]

help me

if you need actual good help and advice i am the wrong person i have failed in life until now

 

[HelvetAyegba]

nobody can help but you yourself