Serious I CANT COPE

[rand anon]

How do u cope with having no irl friends/social circle? The only reason I got through my college yrs without socializing was cause I became a familiar face with service workers/student workers and we’d hve like almost daily chit chats. But I wasted away so many opportunities, whether it be acquaintances asking me to get food, housemates asking me to get beers with them, I said no to all of it out of social anxiety jfl. Prob would’ve ascended from inceldom by now too if I had just pushed myself to hang out with them jfl

Now that I’m out of school and jobless, how the hell can I get a social circle? Is it even possible to make lifelong friends once ur in ur mid 20s? I’m tired of rotting at home

Tagging my oldhead amigos @TonyDr @Chifuyu @Becky4L where did y’all make ur friends from?

 

[polgrev]

i think its hard because your out of school now
i would join a group, like a ski club or something (something that interests you)
that way you naturally have something to bond over with other people
your also young enough to be active

 

[Deleted Member 42785]

How do u cope with having no irl friends/social circle? The only reason I got through my college yrs without socializing was cause I became a familiar face with service workers/student workers and we’d hve like almost daily chit chats. But I wasted away so many opportunities, whether it be acquaintances asking me to get food, housemates asking me to get beers with them, I said no to all of it out of social anxiety jfl. Prob would’ve ascended from inceldom by now too if I had just pushed myself to hang out with them jfl

Now that I’m out of school and jobless, how the hell can I get a social circle? Is it even possible to make lifelong friends once ur in ur mid 20s? I’m tired of rotting at home

Tagging my oldhead amigos @TonyDr @Chifuyu @Becky4L where did y’all make ur friends from?

I'm still here too

Erase your fears and speak. Practice with acquaintances and then see if you can start a conversation with somebody new. The key to help you do that is finding something about them or that they have talked about and talk about it as well if it's something that interests you.

 

[saudade]

honestly as an adult the place to make friends is at work, and common interests like some sport or a different hobby

 

[knightmaxxer]

How do u cope with having no irl friends/social circle? The only reason I got through my college yrs without socializing was cause I became a familiar face with service workers/student workers and we’d hve like almost daily chit chats. But I wasted away so many opportunities, whether it be acquaintances asking me to get food, housemates asking me to get beers with them, I said no to all of it out of social anxiety jfl. Prob would’ve ascended from inceldom by now too if I had just pushed myself to hang out with them jfl

Now that I’m out of school and jobless, how the hell can I get a social circle? Is it even possible to make lifelong friends once ur in ur mid 20s? I’m tired of rotting at home

Tagging my oldhead amigos @TonyDr @Chifuyu @Becky4L where did y’all make ur friends from?

well personally the only way ive made friends outside of school is via hobby groups, for me its been reenactment, and reenactors become quick friends cus they gotta work together to make clothing authentic n shit. but i reckon hiking groups are good too as they basically force you to become friends with the other hikers

 

[rand anon]

i think its hard because your out of school now
i would join a group, like a ski club or something (something that interests you)
that way you naturally have something to bond over with other people
your also young enough to be active

Man I used to love skiing, haven’t been since I was like 18. That’s gonna be hard though, the closest would be Tahoe and that’s kinda far. My town/city doesn’t rly hve that much going on unfortunately so I’d prob hve to travel to find clubs like that

 

[rand anon]

I'm still here too

Henlo

Erase your fears and speak. Practice with acquaintances and

Well I’m currently looking for a job so don’t hve acquaintances rn unfortunately

then see if you can start a conversation with somebody new. The key to help you do that is finding something about them or that they have talked about and talk about it as well if it's something that interests you.

That’s kinda like cold approaching, I suppose I could try this. Idk where I’d do this though, and if it would be weird to just cold approach a dude lol

 

[TrueOgr3]

How do u cope with having no irl friends/social circle? The only reason I got through my college yrs without socializing was cause I became a familiar face with service workers/student workers and we’d hve like almost daily chit chats. But I wasted away so many opportunities, whether it be acquaintances asking me to get food, housemates asking me to get beers with them, I said no to all of it out of social anxiety jfl. Prob would’ve ascended from inceldom by now too if I had just pushed myself to hang out with them jfl

Now that I’m out of school and jobless, how the hell can I get a social circle? Is it even possible to make lifelong friends once ur in ur mid 20s? I’m tired of rotting at home

Tagging my oldhead amigos @TonyDr @Chifuyu @Becky4L where did y’all make ur friends from?

then get your revenge and listen to some heavy shit while u spend ur cash on hardmaxes

Make sure life gives you this money by events like a car crash or ect.
Like me.
Im chosen by life.

 

[Deleted Member 42785]

Henlo

Well I’m currently looking for a job so don’t hve acquaintances rn unfortunately

That’s kinda like cold approaching, I suppose I could try this. Idk where I’d do this though, and if it would be weird to just cold approach a dude lol

Not cold. Be able to tie in to what their saying and make sure you know what their talking about. This requires listening to them for a while to. Best way to do this is to go outside into public areas like pubs or something.

 

[rand anon]

then get your revenge and listen to some heavy shit while u spend ur cash on hardmaxes

Hardmaxxing can’t rly save me, my biggest failo is manletism. Getting LL would prob get me from 5’3 to 5’6 at most. Doesn’t seem worth it, also way too dangerous for me

Make sure life gives you this money by events like a car crash or ect.
Like me.
Im chosen by life.

Mirin

 

[rand anon]

Not cold. Be able to tie in to what their saying and make sure you know what their talking about. This requires listening to them for a while to.

Makes sense

Best way to do this is to go outside into public areas like pubs or something.

What if I don’t drink and stuff, any other places u recommend?

 

[Deleted Member 42785]

Makes sense

What if I don’t drink and stuff, any other places u recommend?

No drinking needed. Water is surely available. But restaurants, malls etc. would be ideal.

 

[rand anon]

No drinking needed. Water is surely available. But restaurants, malls etc. would be ideal.

How do u end those convos by befriending them though, without it being awkward. I mean it’s not like school or work or whatever where u hve a reason to keep in touch

 

[Deleted Member 42785]

How do u end those convos by befriending them though, without it being awkward. I mean it’s not like school or work or whatever where u hve a reason to keep in touch

Sometimes you don't need to say a word. With enough conversation it just happens and they ask you to come back if you do a good job. For it me it just naturally happens, no need for clarification.

 

[rand anon]

Sometimes you don't need to say a word. With enough conversation it just happens and they ask you to come back if you do a good job. For it me it just naturally happens, no need for clarification.

Mirin, idk if that’ll happen for me but ig I could give it a go

 

[TonyDr]

How do u cope with having no irl friends/social circle? The only reason I got through my college yrs without socializing was cause I became a familiar face with service workers/student workers and we’d hve like almost daily chit chats. But I wasted away so many opportunities, whether it be acquaintances asking me to get food, housemates asking me to get beers with them, I said no to all of it out of social anxiety jfl. Prob would’ve ascended from inceldom by now too if I had just pushed myself to hang out with them jfl

Now that I’m out of school and jobless, how the hell can I get a social circle? Is it even possible to make lifelong friends once ur in ur mid 20s? I’m tired of rotting at home

Tagging my oldhead amigos @TonyDr @Chifuyu @Becky4L where did y’all make ur friends from?

It's possible you need to join clubs and social circles. Try Dance clubs when you dance with someone else, pottery, cooking sessions, volunteering, volleyball etc

Clubs with a lot of guys AND girls

 

[Perceval]

It's possible you need to join clubs and social circles. Try Dance clubs when you dance with someone else, pottery, cooking sessions, volunteering, volleyball etc

Clubs with a lot of guys AND girls

tony dr dance club enthusiast

 

[TonyDr]

It's possible you need to join clubs and social circles. Try Dance clubs when you dance with someone else, pottery, cooking sessions, volunteering, volleyball etc

Clubs with a lot of guys AND girls

tony dr dance club enthusiast

@rand anon dancing clubs like : salsa, tango, samba, bachata or even swing. Solething you can do with a girl.
It will nuke your social anxiety w/ women

 

[Perceval]

@rand anon dancing clubs like : salsa, tango, samba, bachata or even swing. Solething you can do with a girl.
It will nuke your social anxiety w/ women

ok salsa lord

 

[Becky4L]

How do u cope with having no irl friends/social circle? The only reason I got through my college yrs without socializing was cause I became a familiar face with service workers/student workers and we’d hve like almost daily chit chats. But I wasted away so many opportunities, whether it be acquaintances asking me to get food, housemates asking me to get beers with them, I said no to all of it out of social anxiety jfl. Prob would’ve ascended from inceldom by now too if I had just pushed myself to hang out with them jfl

Now that I’m out of school and jobless, how the hell can I get a social circle? Is it even possible to make lifelong friends once ur in ur mid 20s? I’m tired of rotting at home

Tagging my oldhead amigos @TonyDr @Chifuyu @Becky4L where did y’all make ur friends from?

You could take pregab and just start talking to someone you cross paths with from time to time

Or make friends with people at a pub

Or I think there’s like friends apps
Like tinder but for making friends

 

[hurricane]

PM if you want to vent

 

[rand anon]

It's possible you need to join clubs and social circles. Try Dance clubs when you dance with someone else, pottery, cooking sessions, volunteering, volleyball etc

Clubs with a lot of guys AND girls

@rand anon dancing clubs like : salsa, tango, samba, bachata or even swing. Solething you can do with a girl.
It will nuke your social anxiety w/ women

I always saw flyers for the dancing club in college but never went jfl

Looks like I’ll need to get searching then, I live in a small city with not much going on. Worst case I’ll hve to commute to the bigger one nearby ig

Thanks Tony

 

[rand anon]

You could take pregab and just start talking to someone you cross paths with from time to time

The only substance I’ve tried so far was phenibut, didn’t rly do much for me. I’m assuming pregab is like much stronger? I’m just scared of long term damage to my brain

Or make friends with people at a pub

I don’t drink or smoke though, but @Quncho said it isn’t rly too weird to get water, so ig I could try that

Or I think there’s like friends apps
Like tinder but for making friends

Yeah I’ve seen like bumble bff and stuff, wouldn’t that also be looks based though

 

[Becky4L]

The only substance I’ve tried so far was phenibut, didn’t rly do much for me. I’m assuming pregab is like much stronger? I’m just scared of long term damage to my brain

I don’t drink or smoke though, but @Quncho said it isn’t rly too weird to get water, so ig I could try that

Yeah I’ve seen like bumble bff and stuff, wouldn’t that also be looks based though

Pregab isn’t that strong

Just get a coke and make it look like a jack and coke or soemtning

It’s not looks based I think you can just say your interests and connect with people alike Yoh

 

[Chifuyu]

How do u cope with having no irl friends/social circle? The only reason I got through my college yrs without socializing was cause I became a familiar face with service workers/student workers and we’d hve like almost daily chit chats. But I wasted away so many opportunities, whether it be acquaintances asking me to get food, housemates asking me to get beers with them, I said no to all of it out of social anxiety jfl. Prob would’ve ascended from inceldom by now too if I had just pushed myself to hang out with them jfl

Now that I’m out of school and jobless, how the hell can I get a social circle? Is it even possible to make lifelong friends once ur in ur mid 20s? I’m tired of rotting at home

Tagging my oldhead amigos @TonyDr @Chifuyu @Becky4L where did y’all make ur friends from?

One was via-via. The other one from high school. Talking about best friends btw. It’s possible to make lifelong friends in your 20s but you need a place which you will frequent lots and lots. Like a workplace or something.

 

[rand anon]

Pregab isn’t that strong

Just get a coke and make it look like a jack and coke or soemtning

It’s not looks based I think you can just say your interests and connect with people alike Yoh

Ig I can try it out then, thanks

 

[rand anon]

One was via-via. The other one from high school. Talking about best friends btw. It’s possible to make lifelong friends in your 20s but you need a place which you will frequent lots and lots. Like a workplace or something.

I see, maynn I should’ve tried harder in college. The few friends I had in high school hve all moved to different states, we keep in touch but not often

 

[Chifuyu]

I see, maynn I should’ve tried harder in college. The few friends I had in high school hve all moved to different states, we keep in touch but not often

Life gets in the way. I think workplace friends might be friends for life. My brother keeps in touch with his college friends but they see each other once a year.