i can't stand eating with other people

[Deleted Member 68760]

I'm as calm and reserved as it gets, but those sounds of everyone chewing and making noise with forks are making me want to punch them

is that normal? i'm talking about getting legit visceral reactions and cortisol spikes, not just about being slightly annoyed

am i a dog deep down?

 

[Randomized Shame]

Is it possible you're ND of some kind?

 

[Deleted Member 68760]

Is it possible you're ND of some kind?

not sure what that means. i have schizoid pd, ocd, gad diagnosed. at the iq of 144

 

[pompompurino]

not normal if you want to harm them, i think that’s a condition or something

 

[Deleted Member 68760]

not normal if you want to harm them, i think that’s a condition or something

obviously i can still control myself, but it requires effort and i cant wait for the meal to end

 

[Randomized Shame]

not sure what that means. i have schizoid pd, ocd, gad diagnosed. at the iq of 144

It's short for neurodivergent. The Schizoid PD and OCD is interesting, though.

I wouldn't say it's normal to feel this way. Most humans do not react strongly negatively to most casual sound stimuli. Counting eating is a common activity we do, it's not normal to have such a strong reaction to it. Normally if you react this strongly to it, even if it's just thoughts and not actions, it's normally a symptom of neurodivergence. It can be learned behavior, such as socially you've been taught it's an awful sound in childhood or something, but it's less likely.

 

[Deleted Member 68760]

It's short for neurodivergent. The Schizoid PD and OCD is interesting, though.

I wouldn't say it's normal to feel this way. Most humans do not react strongly negatively to most casual sound stimuli. Counting eating is a common activity we do, it's not normal to have such a strong reaction to it. Normally if you react this strongly to it, even if it's just thoughts and not actions, it's normally a symptom of neurodivergence. It can be learned behavior, such as socially you've been taught it's an awful sound in childhood or something, but it's less likely.

yeah, people genuinely can't believe this actually triggers me, but i have 0 reason to lie or overstate it

i hate any kind of noise in general too

 

[RhodoniteRed]

Can't stand eating with people for other reasons, like how fucking awkward it is to just sit there and eat food with someone

 

[Randomized Shame]

yeah, people genuinely can't believe this actually triggers me, but i have 0 reason to lie or overstate it

i hate any kind of noise in general too

What about it bothers you? If it's just sound in general then it's probably ND, I would assume. Have you ever looked into an Autism diagnosis? Schizoid PD and autism share a lot of similarities.

 

[Deleted Member 68760]

What about it bothers you? If it's just sound in general then it's probably ND, I would assume. Have you ever looked into an Autism diagnosis? Schizoid PD and autism share a lot of similarities.

the fact that people are unconsciously acting like animals. my cousins often try to troll me by deliberately eating like pigs, but that doesnt bother me at all since it's intentional. baffles their minds because they don't get the root cause of my problem with it.

i m not autistic

 

[Randomized Shame]

the fact that people are unconsciously acting like animals. my cousins often try to troll me by deliberately eating like pigs, but that doesnt bother me at all since it's intentional. baffles their minds because they don't get the root cause of my problem with it.

i m not autistic

Interesting. I've never heard a reason like that for disliking people eating. Why would it bother you that they act like an animal unconsciously? Wouldn't that imply you have an expectation for them to not act like animals?

 

[Deleted Member 68127]

I can relate. But for me sometimes the image in my head puts me off. Burps really disgust me, I get paranoid whenever I'm around someone drinking something that they will burp, so either I'm disgusted in my head and feel like vomiting, or I just leave. Same thing happens if anyone ever burps around me at any point.

I am generally squeamish with a lot of things like that. I remember seeing a friend chew with his mouth open when I was a kid, and that image disgusted me for years after and made me have issues eating with other people too. The noises that you mentioned as well.

It gets to the point where I am basically estranged from certain family members for not being able to put up with certain things.

Subhuman trait, ngl. Idk how I will handle eating with colleagues when I enter workforce, have to fix it

 

[Deleted Member 68760]

Interesting. I've never heard a reason like that for disliking people eating. Why would it bother you that they act like an animal unconsciously? Wouldn't that imply you have an expectation for them to not act like animals?

yeah. i'm generally allergic to animalistic, impulsive, low iq behavior of all kinds. specially producing necessary sounds, expressing yourself in worn out idioms, saying the most obvious things etc

 

[Deleted Member 68760]

I can relate. But for me sometimes the image in my head puts me off. Burps really disgust me, I get paranoid whenever I'm around someone drinking something that they will burp, so either I'm disgusted in my head and feel like vomiting, or I just leave. Same thing happens if anyone ever burps around me at any point.

I am generally squeamish with a lot of things like that. I remember seeing a friend chew with his mouth open when I was a kid, and that image disgusted me for years after and made me have issues eating with other people too. The noises that you mentioned as well.

It gets to the point where I am basically estranged from certain family members for not being able to put up with certain things.

Subhuman trait, ngl. Idk how I will handle eating with colleagues when I enter workforce, have to fix it

this guy gets it. exactly what i'm talking about

 

[SentimentaI]

I have the exact same thing, and so does my sister.