Experience i envy everyone who has parents

[Debons]

fuccckkk, you all dont know how lucky you are, JFL if someone "hates" their parents
im turning 15 in few days im literally living in random relatives houses and most of them dont even accept me im growing up without parents since im 8
im uzbek and im gonna fly to Italy and start my NEW LIFE but it would be so hard i have 0 things from my dad(i have no home and housing in any country isnt afforable i have to buy new house or be rentcel to the rest of my life) i really wish i had my dads home with me at least

BE GRATEFUL ALLL OF YOUUU..

 

[pogdude]

fuccckkk, you all dont know how lucky you are, JFL if someone "hates" their parents
im turning 15 in few days im literally living in random relatives houses and most of them dont even accept me im growing up without parents since im 8
im uzbek and im gonna fly to Italy and start my NEW LIFE but it would be so hard i have 0 things from my dad(i have no home and housing in any country isnt afforable i have to buy new house or be rentcel to the rest of my life) i really wish i had my dads home with me at least

BE GRATEFUL ALLL OF YOUUU..

tbh id rather have no mom over one that hits me, she doesnt even work or anything she just does nothing all day.

 

[Tumor]

Dnr

 

[Debons]

tbh id rather have no mom over one that hits me, she doesnt even work or anything she just does nothing all day.

at least she makes some food for you, clean your room, wash your clothes and shi i literally do it all by myself

 

[Randomized Shame]

at least she makes some food for you, clean your room, wash your clothes and shi i literally do it all by myself

So does the majority of the human population.

I lost my parents when I was <15, so I understand the sentiment in which you're expressing. However being abused is not a fair exchange for the normal independence that you and the rest of the human population would've gained naturally and eventually.

With that being said, it does suck to see people have the type of support from the families that you've been deprived of, normally no fault of your own. It makes sense why it'd make you envious because I was envious as a teen about it. I also resented my family for 'abandoning' me or not taking care of themselves and so on.

 

[prettybird]

fuccckkk, you all dont know how lucky you are, JFL if someone "hates" their parents
im turning 15 in few days im literally living in random relatives houses and most of them dont even accept me im growing up without parents since im 8
im uzbek and im gonna fly to Italy and start my NEW LIFE but it would be so hard i have 0 things from my dad(i have no home and housing in any country isnt afforable i have to buy new house or be rentcel to the rest of my life) i really wish i had my dads home with me at least

BE GRATEFUL ALLL OF YOUUU..

I’m sorry for your situation but it’s always super complicated

 

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I wish I grew up alone

 

[TonyDr]

fuccckkk, you all dont know how lucky you are, JFL if someone "hates" their parents
im turning 15 in few days im literally living in random relatives houses and most of them dont even accept me im growing up without parents since im 8
im uzbek and im gonna fly to Italy and start my NEW LIFE but it would be so hard i have 0 things from my dad(i have no home and housing in any country isnt afforable i have to buy new house or be rentcel to the rest of my life) i really wish i had my dads home with me at least

BE GRATEFUL ALLL OF YOUUU..

I'll be forever grateful to my mom, i hope she rest peacefully in heaven

 

[Debons]

I wish I grew up alone

trust me it really is NOT that good,it might be good after 18 but if under that why you think that??explain the point maybe this will chnage my mind and perspective of being alone

 

[Debons]

I'll be forever grateful to my mom, i hope she rest peacefully in heaven

sorry for your loss man, Moms are best thing God has ever created

 

[Deleted Member 76607]

trust me it really is NOT that good,it might be good after 18 but if under that why you think that??explain the point maybe this will chnage my mind and perspective of being alone

I don’t wanna truma dump I’m 20 now and I know what I’m saying if I got to choose I’d have chosen to grow up alone

 

[pogdude]

at least she makes some food for you, clean your room, wash your clothes and shi i literally do it all by myself

damn that sucks

 

[Randomized Shame]

trust me it really is NOT that good,it might be good after 18 but if under that why you think that??explain the point maybe this will chnage my mind and perspective of being alone

I know this is not the most satisfying answer, but the grass is always greener on the other side. Nobody wants to go through the trauma/pain they've gone through, and will always wish for a different outcome for themselves. You cannot comprehend a trauma you haven't experienced, and it's easier to wish for a world you don't have any understanding of.

One thing that helped me process the grief of my parents and grandparents was understanding that just because something is unfair, it doesn't mean that it's bad for me long term. It's hard to be an adult and not to have any parent you can call for help, but that does not necessarily make it bad, it just makes it harder for me compared to someone who may have parents. There's nothing 'good' to losing a loved one, but it does not necessarily make it 'bad'.

Things are just how they are. They don't change because it sucks. All you can do is focus on the things you can change, instead of focusing on the things that you can't.

 

[Debons]

I know this is not the most satisfying answer, but the grass is always greener on the other side. Nobody wants to go through the trauma/pain they've gone through, and will always wish for a different outcome for themselves. You cannot comprehend a trauma you haven't experienced, and it's easier to wish for a world you don't have any understanding of.

One thing that helped me process the grief of my parents and grandparents was understanding that just because something is unfair, it doesn't mean that it's bad for me long term. It's hard to be an adult and not to have any parent you can call for help, but that does not necessarily make it bad, it just makes it harder for me compared to someone who may have parents. There's nothing 'good' to losing a loved one, but it does not necessarily make it 'bad'.

Things are just how they are. They don't change because it sucks. All you can do is focus on the things you can change, instead of focusing on the things that you can't.

Thank you soo much man,im starting to understand, thanks for sharing mature mindset