I need a Indian woman

[lumen]

Ok bye guys

 

[Iluvodegaard]

Imma sleep I need this with 700 replies @nani3 @blanquita444 @RottingCarrie

 

[blanquita444]

I say stop dating for a year and just focus on yourself
Wait till you meet someone irl
Make sure they’re not a piece of shit before making things official and leave at the first red flag

what kind of redflags

 

[lumen]

what kind of redflags

Quick to anger, talking bad about other women, saying lowkey weird shit like making sexist jokes
When his car is his only personality trait
When he does something for you; pays for you at dinner for example then he puts it over your head like you forced him to do it
Cares about his appearance TOO much, insecure
If he ever calls you a bitch or a whore or something like that as a joke he’s done
That’s all I can think of off the top of my head right now
Those align with my mindset and boundaries though I don’t know what is okay with you

 

[lumen]

what kind of redflags

Oh also pay attention to how he handles stressful situations
If he’s tried to keep calm and resolve the issue or gets super mad, hitting things etc you’ll be the next he hit

 

[blanquita444]

Quick to anger, talking bad about other women, saying lowkey weird shit like making sexist jokes
When his car is his only personality trait
When he does something for you; pays for you at dinner for example then he puts it over your head like you forced him to do it
Cares about his appearance TOO much, insecure
If he ever calls you a bitch or a whore or something like that as a joke he’s done
That’s all I can think of off the top of my head right now
Those align with my mindset and boundaries though I don’t know what is okay with you

bro these are all things that have happened to me and i lowkey drop someone
only thing is appearance thing i get, although it depends if theyre just insecure abt themself or if they drag u down w them

 

[lumen]

bro these are all things that have happened to me and i lowkey drop someone
only thing is appearance thing i get, although it depends if theyre just insecure abt themself or if they drag u down w them

If a man (or a woman) is insecure about himself he will project all those things on you and be extremely controlling, you can’t build a secure and stable relationship off of a foundation like that

 

[blanquita444]

If a man (or a woman) is insecure about himself he will project all those things on you and be extremely controlling, you can’t build a secure and stable relationship off of a foundation like that

well im insecure about myself but im not controlling so idk?

 

[blanquita444]

well im insecure about myself but im not controlling so idk?

i feel like im not controlling tho is because my perspective is if they cheat they cheat if theyre loyal theyre loyal

 

[lumen]

well im insecure about myself but im not controlling so idk?

Hm yeah I agree with you too, im insecure to some degree as well and I don’t think im controlling
But I’ve met men that were so insanely insecure to the point of craziness
And I’m not talking about just looks I mean their financial stability, their social status, all those non-physical things that both men and women expect from men

For example, my ex ruined the relationship, treated me badly etc and told me it was out of insecurity, he though he wasn’t good enough for me, he though I can find better etc. He said he’s insecure he can’t provide for me financially as much as I deserve shit like that

Also if he wants to stop talking or leave and says you deserve better, just believe him and let it go

 

[blanquita444]

Hm yeah I agree with you too, im insecure to some degree as well and I don’t think im controlling
But I’ve met men that were so insanely insecure to the point of craziness
And I’m not talking about just looks I mean their financial stability, their social status, all those non-physical things that both men and women expect from men

For example, my ex ruined the relationship, treated me badly etc and told me it was out of insecurity, he though he wasn’t good enough for me, he though I can find better etc. He said he’s insecure he can’t provide for me financially as much as I deserve shit like that

Also if he wants to stop talking or leave and says you deserve better, just believe him and let it go

maybe youre right
this stuff always pisses me off cuz its like no matter how much i console them they never believe me

 

[lumen]

Hm yeah I agree with you too, im insecure to some degree as well and I don’t think im controlling
But I’ve met men that were so insanely insecure to the point of craziness
And I’m not talking about just looks I mean their financial stability, their social status, all those non-physical things that both men and women expect from men

For example, my ex ruined the relationship, treated me badly etc and told me it was out of insecurity, he though he wasn’t good enough for me, he though I can find better etc. He said he’s insecure he can’t provide for me financially as much as I deserve shit like that

Also if he wants to stop talking or leave and says you deserve better, just believe him and let it go

also if he ever gets mad at you and starts being aggressive, calling you names etc then calms down and says ‚sorry I was just so mad ’ leave immediately because sorry but we’re not toddlers and we’re grown enough to be able to regulate and control our emotions

 

[lumen]

maybe youre right
this stuff always pisses me off cuz its like no matter how much i console them they never believe me

Exactly, they’re stuck in that mindset and it won’t get through and you just exhaust yourself by playing a therapist

 

[blanquita444]

also if he ever gets mad at you and starts being aggressive, calling you names etc then calms down and says ‚sorry I was just so mad ’ leave immediately because sorry but we’re not toddlers and we’re grown enough to be able to regulate and control our emotions

frrr bro nah i automatically dip if he calls me anything i atleast have that much respect

 

[lumen]

frrr bro nah i automatically dip if he calls me anything i atleast have that much respect

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