Serious is love genuine?

[blanquita444]

im 16f and ive dated a lot of guys. idk i just feel like anytime i genuinely like someone theyre a slut/cheater or they think im beneath them. i dont think im a ltb so how can i cope. even my current bf said i wasnt a "very pretty girl." are all men like this? i know im not the prettiest but it hurts. ive probably dated 30 to 40 guys in my lifetime. i have 7 bodies. is there something im missing that guys like. i dont think my personality is that bad, im a little socially awkward and insecure sure, but i have pretty good music taste and stuff like that.... is it just because im not attractive enough or something else? other females advice would be appreciated. pls dont make fun of me genuine only pls
i never feel truly loved by anybody, atleast not the same way ive treated them

 

[Deleted Member 73026]

this has to be bait

 

[blanquita444]

this has to be bait

no lol, why do u think that

 

[Liliana]

im 16f … ive probably dated 30 to 40 guys in my lifetime. i have 7 bodies.

It seems you’re rushing into things
At 16 genuine and enduring love is uncommon

 

[Deleted Member 60441]

Lol

 

[blanquita444]

It seems you’re rushing into things
At 16 genuine and enduring love is uncommon

how long before i should have sex in a relationship? i stopped having one night stands bc fear of being made fun of plus its just nasty. i thought it was 3 months but should i wait longer?
i know it is but i really want to find someone

 

[Deleted Member 60441]

If you act like a whore expect to be treated like a whore
Muh feelings, muh others

 

[Spuffy]

partners should feel like equals in a relationship, so im sorry youve never had that experience. at your age it will be difficult to find people with the maturity to have emotional reciprocity or take the relationship seriously in general. maybe try to focus on yourself more and make yourself happy and more confident first anyways. yes, a partner should accept you fully, but you should want to always be working on yourself to be the best version.

and honestly, if my partner ever said something like that to me, we would just break up. it doesnt matter if its not true or if they didnt mean it-- you dont say stuff like that. some things, once said, stay with you. and i know im right because it clearly stuck with you

 

[blanquita444]

If you act like a whore expect to be treated like a whore
Muh feelings, muh others

i dont really act like a whore. i just move on fast. even the first guys i dated and when i was a virgin still treated me like shit

 

[Deleted Member 60441]

i dont really act like a whore. i just move on fast. even the first guys i dated and when i was a virgin still treated me like shit

16 years, 7 bodies, 40 dates
Muh affection, muh good treatment

 

[blanquita444]

partners should feel like equals in a relationship, so im sorry youve never had that experience. at your age it will be difficult to find people with the maturity to have emotional reciprocity or take the relationship seriously in general. maybe try to focus on yourself more and make yourself happy and more confident first anyways. yes, a partner should accept you fully, but you should want to always be working on yourself to be the best version.

and honestly, if my partner ever said something like that to me, we would just break up. it doesnt matter if its not true or if they didnt mean it-- you dont say stuff like that. some things, once said, stay with you. and i know im right because it clearly stuck with you

youre right thank you... idk i want to stay with him just because i dont see anybody better coming along anytime soon. plus he treats me like a human being and i dont wanna have to go through the next mile of assholes. hes making money to come see me and i feel like he respects me alot. if things get worse tho ill probably leave. also its hard for me to find guys that i have things in common with, i have some very niche interests when it comes to music/games/anime

 

[blanquita444]

16 years, 7 bodies, 40 dates
Muh affection, muh good treatment

and how many do you think the average adult woman has, or how many dates/crushes do you think theyve had ?

 

[Liliana]

how long before i should have sex in a relationship? i stopped having one night stands bc fear of being made fun of plus its just nasty. i thought it was 3 months but should i wait longer?
i know it is but i really want to find someone

Personally I could never be intimate with someone I don’t know deeply. There’s no fixed timeline for truly getting to know a person it might take two months or it could take a year
And yeah ONS are disgusting… if something starts with pure lust it’s not likely to turn into real love

 

[blanquita444]

Personally I could never be intimate with someone I don’t know deeply. There’s no fixed timeline for truly getting to know a person it might take two months or it could take a year
And yeah ONS are disgusting… if something starts with pure lust it’s not likely to turn into real love

so do you think i should be waiting longer before im intimate with somebody in a relationship? i wait 3 months minimum

 

[Spuffy]

youre right thank you... idk i want to stay with him just because i dont see anybody better coming along anytime soon. plus he treats me like a human being and i dont wanna have to go through the next mile of assholes. hes making money to come see me and i feel like he respects me alot. if things get worse tho ill probably leave. also its hard for me to find guys that i have things in common with, i have some very niche interests when it comes to music/games/anime

this is what i mean. dont worry about what comes after. do you have issues with being single or by yourself? nobody is forcing you to have a boyfriend so why settle for a guy who "treats you like a human being". but its ultimately your decision. i just think him saying that is weird and holds a lot of layers . its a small thing but commenting negatively on a partner's looks is really shitty to me, because there is never an actual need for that.

 

[blanquita444]

this is what i mean. dont worry about what comes after. do you have issues with being single or by yourself? nobody is forcing you to have a boyfriend so why settle for a guy who "treats you like a human being". but its ultimately your decision. i just think him saying that is weird and holds a lot of layers . its a small thing but commenting negatively on a partner's looks is really shitty to me, because there is never an actual need for that.

yeah my biodad wasnt there for me growing up and my mom works all the time so i didnt have much growing up. i was also homeless for a while growing up(8-11) so i dont like being alone

 

[Spuffy]

yeah my biodad wasnt there for me growing up and my mom works all the time so i didnt have much growing up. i was also homeless for a while growing up(8-11) so i dont like being alone

i understand. i was in a similar situation around the same age as well as family dynamic. it affects everybody differently, but at some point its more like self-harming when you just pick anybody who is half-decent to you. i would try to work on that, or maybe make more platonic friends. or get hobbies and such to help with that

 

[geneticCage]

Dating 40 guys at 16 yeah you deserve anything bad that will happen to you this is not the right age for serious relationships if you would want that

 

[Spuffy]

Dating 40 guys at 16 yeah you deserve anything bad that will happen to you this is not the right age for serious relationships if you would want that

i firmly believe no matter who you are you dont "deserve" to have a shitty relationship or be treated badly by a partner. if one is truly a horrible person they deserve to just be alone.

 

[Liliana]

so do you think i should be waiting longer before im intimate with somebody in a relationship? i wait 3 months minimum

Idk I’ve never been in a relationship so I can’t really say much
Ig you should do it when it feels right on your terms and not just to meet his expectations or make him happy

 

[Spuffy]

Idk I’ve never been in a relationship so I can’t really say much
Ig you should do it when it feels right on your terms not just to meet his expectations or make him happy

yeah, she shouldnt set a time limit. its silly because then you will have people who will just wait for that limit to be up

 

[blanquita444]

Dating 40 guys at 16 yeah you deserve anything bad that will happen to you this is not the right age for serious relationships if you would want that

i didnt date them all at once and they werent all at the same time period. i started dating ppl when i was like 11. also this includes crushes/ppl ive flirted w consistently

 

[geneticCage]

i firmly believe no matter who you are you dont "deserve" to have a shitty relationship or be treated badly by a partner. if one is truly a horrible person they deserve to just be alone.

What did she expect at 16 high chances she won't find anything very good
In my opinion she should find herself a good partner after she grows up and after she's atleast 18 and good luck with that (not ironic, I'm sincere there)

 

[Spuffy]

i didnt date them all at once and they werent all at the same time period. i started dating ppl when i was like 11. also this includes crushes/ppl ive flirted w consistently

i think you should only count actual relationships in order to be better understood

 

[Spuffy]

What did she expect at 16 high chances she won't find anything very good
In my opinion she should find herself a good partner after she grows up and after she's atleast 18 and good luck with that (not ironic, I'm sincere there)

i agree with you fully

 

[geneticCage]

i didnt date them all at once and they werent all at the same time period. i started dating ppl when i was like 11. also this includes crushes/ppl ive flirted w consistently

Well yeah dating and flirting is different if it's something like that I can understand it

 

[blanquita444]

i understand. i was in a similar situation around the same age as well as family dynamic. it affects everybody differently, but at some point its more like self-harming when you just pick anybody who is half-decent to you. i would try to work on that, or maybe make more platonic friends. or get hobbies and such to help with that

yeah ive been trying to have more friends but its kind of weird bcs of my interests also i dont like a lot of communities
im not really into normie stuff but im not super into incel shit either

 

[blanquita444]

i firmly believe no matter who you are you dont "deserve" to have a shitty relationship or be treated badly by a partner. if one is truly a horrible person they deserve to just be alone.

maybe but every relationship im in turns shitty

 

[blanquita444]

What did she expect at 16 high chances she won't find anything very good
In my opinion she should find herself a good partner after she grows up and after she's atleast 18 and good luck with that (not ironic, I'm sincere there)

idk i doubt it i see guys on here in their 20s brag about how many lists of girls they pull so i don't have a lot of faith

 

[geneticCage]

idk i doubt it i see guys on here in their 20s brag about how many lists of girls they pull so i don't have a lot of faith

Internet and reality are different things, you'll find a good partner one day

 

[blanquita444]

Internet and reality are different things, you'll find a good partner one day

i hope so

 

[over0]

If you act like a whore expect to be treated like a whore
Muh feelings, muh others

Yeah this guys are gonna know ur easy and use you for exactly that. common sense I fear

 

[blanquita444]

Yeah this guys are gonna know ur easy and use you for exactly that. common sense I fear

how to make them think im not easy?

 

[over0]

how to make them think im not easy?

Stop sleeping around but ur probably cooked since word has already spread I'm assuming even if you don't know

 

[blanquita444]

Stop sleeping around but ur probably cooked since word has already spread I'm assuming even if you don't know

i have stopped hooking up w ppl havent hooked up with anb since last yr

 

[over0]

i have stopped hooking up w ppl havent hooked up with anb since last yr

My advice would be just make sure you know the person and what you're getting into tbh don't rush into things

 

[blanquita444]

My advice would be just make sure you know the person and what you're getting into tbh don't rush into things

yeah i know but even when i dont rush it turns out shitty. i js dont know what to do anymore

 

[over0]

yeah i know but even when i dont rush it turns out shitty. i js dont know what to do anymore

You're young don't stress it. Guys around that age aren't mature yet or anywhere near

 

[blanquita444]

You're young don't stress it. Guys around that age aren't mature yet or anywhere near

should i ropemaxx i almost succeeded od on lean last yr

 

[over0]

should i ropemaxx i almost succeeded od on lean last yr

Fuck no you're 16, can get into relationships and you've said you're not ugly you'll be fine in due time for now find a hobby and good friends don't focus on ltr cause it's not likely for anyone

 

[blanquita444]

Fuck no you're 16, can get into relationships and you've said you're not ugly you'll be fine in due time for now find a hobby and good friends don't focus on ltr cause it's not likely for anyone

yeah ur right

 

[Liliana]

should i ropemaxx i almost succeeded od on lean last yr

Jeez why are you stressing so much? You’re still really young
The more you try to force it or obsess over it the more likely you are to end up disappointed

 

[Nenestar]

Pick an incel looking nerd as your next bf, he won't cheat, he can't. Problem solved.

 

[blanquita444]

Jeez why are you stressing so much? You’re still really young
The more you try to force it or obsess over it the more likely you are to end up disappointed

Pick an incel looking nerd as your next bf, he won't cheat, he can't. Problem solved.

dated this guy and he still called me a slut and insulted how i looked constantly
5'2 and overweight btw
i cant fucking win

 

[over0]

dated this guy and he still called me a slut and insulted how i looked constantly
5'2 and overweight btw
i cant fucking win

You shouldn't settle for less tbh ik alot of people do that cause they're afraid of being alone or don't know how to but a good quality relationship with ur looksmatch is worth waiting for

 

[Nihilus]

Dnr but yes love exists and it's a natural process
Nevertheless, love nowadays is quite distorted

 

[Nenestar]

dated this guy and he still called me a slut and insulted how i looked constantly
5'2 and overweight btw
i cant fucking win

Bro, he looks like a loser, wtf?

Just pick some quiet, shy guy.

Not a clown like that, jeez.

 

[blanquita444]

You shouldn't settle for less tbh ik alot of people do that cause they're afraid of being alone or don't know how to but a good quality relationship with ur looksmatch is worth waiting for

this is my current bf hes really sweet to me and stuff the only downside is that thing he said to me but i think i mightve taken it out of context im not sure... hes really into looksmaxxing as well we've been tg 3 months
5'8 16m 140lbs lean we think he'll reach 5'10 when pub stops

 

[Deleted Member 60441]

dated this guy and he still called me a slut and insulted how i looked constantly
5'2 and overweight btw
i cant fucking win

You don't have a good reputation, huh
I wonder why

 

[blanquita444]

Bro, he looks like a loser, wtf?

Just pick some quiet, shy guy.

Not a clown like that, jeez.

where bro?