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Looks don't matter very much to me

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Looks have only taken such a mighty presence in contemporary society due to the increase in pornography consumption and the general decline in traditional values and views. I'm not denying the involvement of looks towards attraction, but I even see through myself (as a young man) that my "attraction" is based on a lustful nature; I'm thinking about having sex with her, how she'd talk dirty to me.

Taking it back to pre-ww2 UK, for example, pornography was shunned; it was regarded as filth. Society at that time had a large religious backing, and with religion comes values and rules. You would, of course, want your partner to be attractive, but more so in the sense of a connective personality. We as humans are social creatures; we crave connection, mainly through communication and presence (this is why social media can be detrimental, as we lack face-to-face presence).

Saying, "Looks are at least 80% of attraction!" is an immature and lustful thought process in human nature. We crave our soulmate who holds us tight at night, and holds our hand whilst embracing the afterlife. Also, I don't care very much about "true human nature", that we seek a partner with the combined, greatest genetic potential for our children. Anyway, tl;dr: Looks matter, when in a non-erotic view (uncommon these days), and should serve secondly to true attraction, which is built on emotional connection, shared values, and presence.

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Too many words

But I kinda agree with the title
Read the tl;dr at least. :rolleyes:

Anyway, tl;dr: Looks matter, when in a non-erotic view (uncommon these days), and should serve secondly to true attraction, which is built on emotional connection, shared values, and presence.
 
Looks have only taken such a mighty presence in contemporary society due to the increase in pornography consumption and the general decline in traditional values and views. I'm not denying the involvement of looks towards attraction, but I even see through myself (as a young man) that my "attraction" is based on a lustful nature; I'm thinking about having sex with her, how she'd talk dirty to me.

Taking it back to pre-ww2 UK, for example, pornography was shunned; it was regarded as filth. Society at that time had a large religious backing, and with religion comes values and rules. You would, of course, want your partner to be attractive, but more so in the sense of a connective personality. We as humans are social creatures; we crave connection, mainly through communication and presence (this is why social media can be detrimental, as we lack face-to-face presence).

Saying, "Looks are at least 80% of attraction!" is an immature and lustful thought process in human nature. We crave our soulmate who holds us tight at night, and holds our hand whilst embracing the afterlife. Also, I don't care very much about "true human nature", that we seek a partner with the combined, greatest genetic potential for our children. Anyway, tl;dr: Looks matter, when in a non-erotic view (uncommon these days), and should serve secondly to true attraction, which is built on emotional connection, shared values, and presence.

:peepoLove:
Bluepill theory?
 
Looks have only taken such a mighty presence in contemporary society due to the increase in pornography consumption and the general decline in traditional values and views. I'm not denying the involvement of looks towards attraction, but I even see through myself (as a young man) that my "attraction" is based on a lustful nature; I'm thinking about having sex with her, how she'd talk dirty to me.

Taking it back to pre-ww2 UK, for example, pornography was shunned; it was regarded as filth. Society at that time had a large religious backing, and with religion comes values and rules. You would, of course, want your partner to be attractive, but more so in the sense of a connective personality. We as humans are social creatures; we crave connection, mainly through communication and presence (this is why social media can be detrimental, as we lack face-to-face presence).

Saying, "Looks are at least 80% of attraction!" is an immature and lustful thought process in human nature. We crave our soulmate who holds us tight at night, and holds our hand whilst embracing the afterlife. Also, I don't care very much about "true human nature", that we seek a partner with the combined, greatest genetic potential for our children. Anyway, tl;dr: Looks matter, when in a non-erotic view (uncommon these days), and should serve secondly to true attraction, which is built on emotional connection, shared values, and presence.

:peepoLove:
I still believe finding a partner who will save ur child’s gene is useful for subhumans like me but, yeah for the most part u are right
 
Probably, I was never a "blackpiller" anyway. I was just thinking from the top of my head, and if it sounded right, I wrote it.
Not every Looksmaxxer is blackpilled. There are 4 general pills in looksmaxxing. Bluepill, whitepill, blackpill, and the redpill.
 
Not every Looksmaxxer is blackpilled. There are 4 general pills in looksmaxxing. Bluepill, whitepill, blackpill, and the redpilled.
I know about all the pills; everyone believes in a different ideology, and in a way, each is right.
 
Looks have only taken such a mighty presence in contemporary society due to the increase in pornography consumption and the general decline in traditional values and views. I'm not denying the involvement of looks towards attraction, but I even see through myself (as a young man) that my "attraction" is based on a lustful nature; I'm thinking about having sex with her, how she'd talk dirty to me.

Taking it back to pre-ww2 UK, for example, pornography was shunned; it was regarded as filth. Society at that time had a large religious backing, and with religion comes values and rules. You would, of course, want your partner to be attractive, but more so in the sense of a connective personality. We as humans are social creatures; we crave connection, mainly through communication and presence (this is why social media can be detrimental, as we lack face-to-face presence).

Saying, "Looks are at least 80% of attraction!" is an immature and lustful thought process in human nature. We crave our soulmate who holds us tight at night, and holds our hand whilst embracing the afterlife. Also, I don't care very much about "true human nature", that we seek a partner with the combined, greatest genetic potential for our children. Anyway, tl;dr: Looks matter, when in a non-erotic view (uncommon these days), and should serve secondly to true attraction, which is built on emotional connection, shared values, and presence.

:peepoLove:
You know what I always say: the biggest reason people focus so much on looks is because most people today confuse lust with love. You can’t truly love someone just because of their face, love is something that’s tied to personality.

@Chifuyu @NumbThePain thoughts
 
You know what I always say: the biggest reason people focus so much on looks is because most people today confuse lust with love. You can’t truly love someone just because of their face, love is something that’s tied to personality.

@Chifuyu @NumbThePain thoughts
True tbh, but to get to love a person u need a baseline of looks and height
 
half of the people in this thread who agree with you will go on to laugh at people for being ugly
It's the sad way of life, the meagre are mocked. We laugh at those in perceivably worse situations as a sense of security ("Well, at least I'm not ugly!")
 
You know what I always say: the biggest reason people focus so much on looks is because most people today confuse lust with love. You can’t truly love someone just because of their face, love is something that’s tied to personality.

@Chifuyu @NumbThePain thoughts
Yep, exactly. This generation confuses lust with love.
 
True tbh, but to get to love a person u need a baseline of looks and height
That’s true, looks are a need. But here’s a real test to see if you truly love a girl, ask yourself, if you busted a nut, would you still want to hang around her, or would you be ready to bounce immediately? That’s where you see if it’s more than just physical attraction.
 
That’s true, looks are a need. But here’s a real test to see if you truly love a girl, ask yourself, if you busted a nut, would you still want to hang around her, or would you be ready to bounce immediately? That’s where you see if it’s more than just physical attraction.
My looks and height matters a lot to me than anyone else ngl
 
I agree, to be honest.

I noticed my life changed dramatically and got the better when porn was cut out from my life. I know that's not the main point of the post, but it made me view women and relationships very differently. I'm satisfied more now. I'm happier. I think it's because it allowed me to seek genuine connection instead of trying to recreate whatever I saw. My life is pretty good now.
 
I agree, to be honest.

I noticed my life changed dramatically and got the better when porn was cut out from my life. I know that's not the main point of the post, but it made me view women and relationships very differently. I'm satisfied more now. I'm happier. I think it's because it allowed me to seek genuine connection instead of trying to recreate whatever I saw. My life is pretty good now.
Good to hear, bro. Another point I should have included is that pornography portrays sex as something easy, meaningless and a "trophy."

In reality, it's a sacred thing. Men see a pretty girl and imagine her naked, because porn has made them believe that getting her naked will be easy.
 
Good to hear, bro. Another point I should have included is that pornography portrays sex as something easy, meaningless and a "trophy."

In reality, it's a sacred thing. Men see a pretty girl and imagine her naked, because porn has made them believe that getting her naked will be easy.
Absolutely. I used to be nervous around women because I just couldn't think straight. It was stressful how badly my brain told me I wanted this one thing. Sex was all that I wanted. I fought so hard for it and was an incel because of it. It was only when I stopped allowing sex or the thought of sex control my life, that's when I got everything I wanted... and more.

I've never been fond of the normalization that men should just sleep around. When I was addicted, that's absolutely the kind of mindset I had. It was hard to stop thinking that way because it was just normalized and I was told that's how I was meant to think and view sex. It's not, really.

Sex is important. But sex is a skill a person can learn. A personality is much more difficult to change. I was lucky to find someone I'm so compatible with, to be honest.

It's hard to say anything about it as a man because other men get upset at you for it. But it's sincerely the truth, in my experience.
 
Basically men don't want me cuz they're just horny mthrfckers
 
That’s true, looks are a need. But here’s a real test to see if you truly love a girl, ask yourself, if you busted a nut, would you still want to hang around her, or would you be ready to bounce immediately? That’s where you see if it’s more than just physical attraction.
damn
 
Looks have only taken such a mighty presence in contemporary society due to the increase in pornography consumption and the general decline in traditional values and views. I'm not denying the involvement of looks towards attraction, but I even see through myself (as a young man) that my "attraction" is based on a lustful nature; I'm thinking about having sex with her, how she'd talk dirty to me.

Taking it back to pre-ww2 UK, for example, pornography was shunned; it was regarded as filth. Society at that time had a large religious backing, and with religion comes values and rules. You would, of course, want your partner to be attractive, but more so in the sense of a connective personality. We as humans are social creatures; we crave connection, mainly through communication and presence (this is why social media can be detrimental, as we lack face-to-face presence).

Saying, "Looks are at least 80% of attraction!" is an immature and lustful thought process in human nature. We crave our soulmate who holds us tight at night, and holds our hand whilst embracing the afterlife. Also, I don't care very much about "true human nature", that we seek a partner with the combined, greatest genetic potential for our children. Anyway, tl;dr: Looks matter, when in a non-erotic view (uncommon these days), and should serve secondly to true attraction, which is built on emotional connection, shared values, and presence.

:peepoLove:
Doesnt apply to 90% of people
 
You know what I always say: the biggest reason people focus so much on looks is because most people today confuse lust with love. You can’t truly love someone just because of their face, love is something that’s tied to personality.

@Chifuyu @NumbThePain thoughts
That’s why going for someone purely because of their looks is a bad decision. Sure, it provides you short-term gratification but looks fade eventually. In the long-term, it’s a horrible strategy.
 
That’s why going for someone purely because of their looks is a bad decision. Sure, it provides you short-term gratification but looks fade eventually. In the long-term, it’s a horrible strategy.
70% personality and 30%looks is ideal tbh
 

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