Discussion looksmaxxing advice needed for women

[mylo]

im not overweight but im kinda puffy and not really toned plus I have struggled with ed's in the past and not fully recovered so how can I lose weight and keep it off for good also I dont really care abt the weight on the scale ii just wanna look toned and be the fittest version of myself

 

[sjnny404]

With keeping the weight down write down a list of healthy habits you can keep until you die of old age, habits that are sustainable for the long term

Incorporate them into your life one at a time and slowly

For the puffiness idk im in the same boat, my face holds a lot of babyfat that idk how to get rid of, a friend of mine had a lot of success with gua sha a lot of ppl thought she lost weight

 

[BigDihDiddy]

Start walking 10k steps a day it’ll increase ur health and make u lose weight

There are apps to track it

 

[nun]

regarding losing weight n stuff, especially if you have history with eating disorders of any kind— don’t do the whole counting your steps thing. i know it’s appealing and all but it depends on so many different factors and gamifies an already tricky mentality for somebody with ed history.

if you’re not overweight, your best bet would to incorporate more strength/muscle training while trying to maintain a reasonable range of calories. that’s for toning not weight loss though. idk your weight/height/age n stuff but you shouldn’t need to provide it here. there are calculators online. don’t do a calorie deficit if you struggle with ed stuff for many different reasons. your goal being health is good so focus on habits not numbers or changing the goals once you hit them. unfortunately you’ll feel the amount of weight you lose will never be enough.

- strength training, reduced cardio but obviously don’t get rid of it. endurance and stamina is important. don’t count every single thing you do either. it falls into a similar trap of gamifying your health. train to the near point of failure, whatever your limits may be. don’t push yourself further or youll get hurt obviously. rest days are necessary, i hate to say it. when in ed spaces this is a grave sin but you must.
- do healthier food swaps that taste good to you. a lot of ed spaces mention constantly doing food swaps due to calories BUT i mean in terms of ingredients and protein n stuff. it has to taste good too. if what you’re eating tastes like garbage you’re just gonna convince yourself to fall into old habits about restricting/purging/etc depending on what you deal with. but if it’s so good you find yourself binging, reduce the amount you buy n when you buy it. if i buy a box of protein bars and eat them all in 3 days n buy more the next few days, i wont learn to stop. buy a box and you cant buy any more until a specific time frame. e.g., 8 in a box means you wait a week / two weeks. a week is a bit more manageable for binging but ideally two weeks since you might not wanna eat one every single day depending what it is.
- stretch and drink water. sometimes when going from tons of cardio (im just assuming since this is preached as the way to lose weight but idk what you deal with specifically) to something like muscle training, it sucks so bad. it hurts and depending on your weight range n habits you’re trying to break, dangerous. be mindful that if you don’t stretch and try to do something after exercising, you need to be able to actually move LOL. it might not reduce pain per say but it’ll reduce tensing and keep your body from locking up etc.
- don’t weigh yourself. the ed goblins are gonna tell you to do it, but try not to. once a month is fine but more than that is excessive because the focus is health not numbers.
- don’t reward/punish yourself over everything you do or don’t do. it’s about sustainability, not making your vulnerable situation even worse and dangerous. but be realistic to you and your goals. if you wanna exercise x5 a week but can only do x2, that’s deadass okay. twice is better than 0 and 0 is still better than severely hurting yourself.

 

[Deleted Member 52842]

regarding losing weight n stuff, especially if you have history with eating disorders of any kind— don’t do the whole counting your steps thing. i know it’s appealing and all but it depends on so many different factors and gamifies an already tricky mentality for somebody with ed history.

if you’re not overweight, your best bet would to incorporate more strength/muscle training while trying to maintain a reasonable range of calories. that’s for toning not weight loss though. idk your weight/height/age n stuff but you shouldn’t need to provide it here. there are calculators online. don’t do a calorie deficit if you struggle with ed stuff for many different reasons. your goal being health is good so focus on habits not numbers or changing the goals once you hit them. unfortunately you’ll feel the amount of weight you lose will never be enough.

- strength training, reduced cardio but obviously don’t get rid of it. endurance and stamina is important. don’t count every single thing you do either. it falls into a similar trap of gamifying your health. train to the near point of failure, whatever your limits may be. don’t push yourself further or youll get hurt obviously. rest days are necessary, i hate to say it. when in ed spaces this is a grave sin but you must.
- do healthier food swaps that taste good to you. a lot of ed spaces mention constantly doing food swaps due to calories BUT i mean in terms of ingredients and protein n stuff. it has to taste good too. if what you’re eating tastes like garbage you’re just gonna convince yourself to fall into old habits about restricting/purging/etc depending on what you deal with. but if it’s so good you find yourself binging, reduce the amount you buy n when you buy it. if i buy a box of protein bars and eat them all in 3 days n buy more the next few days, i wont learn to stop. buy a box and you cant buy any more until a specific time frame. e.g., 8 in a box means you wait a week / two weeks. a week is a bit more manageable for binging but ideally two weeks since you might not wanna eat one every single day depending what it is.
- stretch and drink water. sometimes when going from tons of cardio (im just assuming since this is preached as the way to lose weight but idk what you deal with specifically) to something like muscle training, it sucks so bad. it hurts and depending on your weight range n habits you’re trying to break, dangerous. be mindful that if you don’t stretch and try to do something after exercising, you need to be able to actually move LOL. it might not reduce pain per say but it’ll reduce tensing and keep your body from locking up etc.
- don’t weigh yourself. the ed goblins are gonna tell you to do it, but try not to. once a month is fine but more than that is excessive because the focus is health not numbers.
- don’t reward/punish yourself over everything you do or don’t do. it’s about sustainability, not making your vulnerable situation even worse and dangerous. but be realistic to you and your goals. if you wanna exercise x5 a week but can only do x2, that’s deadass okay. twice is better than 0 and 0 is still better than severely hurting yourself.

excellent detailed answer

 

[Deleted Member 70402]

Try a body recomp. Hit the gym 4x a week and eat maintenance calories + high protein.
By high protein I mean (0.8 x current body weight in lbs) will be the amount of protein you need to build muscle.
For the gym, try a UB/LB split with adequate rest days and cardio.
You can use a TDEE calculator to find out how much calories you need:

TDEE Calculator: Learn Your Total Daily Energy Expenditure

Use the TDEE calculator to learn your Total Daily Energy Expenditure, a measure of how many calories you burn per day. This calculator displays MUCH more!

tdeecalculator.net

Regarding puffiness, make sure to drink 2L of water daily and think about cutting out/limiting sugar which can sometimes cause inflammation.