Most love doesn't last because it's passive

[huntergirl]

Passive means feeling attached to someone or maybe even connected in a way but you’re not really doing much to show it
You’re just kind of sitting there waiting for them to prove they love you and make you feel wanted
Not because you’re looking for love exactly but because you’re trying to fill this existential kind of loneliness

Now you might be thinking hunter wth is this overly emotional ramble? Idk tbh I just found myself reflecting on how much effort we pour into “looksmaxing” and perfecting our appearance all in the hope of being admired and desired then mistaking that attention for "love"
Cause I was reading something earlier where it said how most people focus on making themselves as loveable as possible rather than actually love

 

[Toggle9877]

Damm

 

[NewFuckingDay]

You don’t want my thoughts on this

 

[Hexum]

summary:
her latest e bf left her

 

[huntergirl]

You don’t want my thoughts on this

Yeah I do that's why I made this thread...

 

[Darkeningstar]

Shhh huntress, relax

 

[over0]

Attraction gets u in the door regardless, it's part of love

 

[ebony enjoyer]

nah + sounds like something youd hear a girl say on tikTok

 

[Tumor]

Hi

 

[Barbie]

making themselves as loveable as possible rather than actually love

tbh

 

[huntergirl]

nah + sounds like something youd hear a girl say on tikTok

It's something I read in the book the art of loving today

 

[huntergirl]

Hi

Hello

 

[TonyDr]

You’re just kind of sitting there waiting for them to prove they love you and make you feel wanted

That's how women got manipulated with lovebombing, because they don't want to love a guy but only loving what he does for her... and got addicted to that feeling

 

[Schizotypalcel]

Aight bud.

Trying to be lovable isn't love, hunter. It's performance. Real love isn't about being admired. It's about choosing to care, even when no one's watching and showing up pretty much.

But i'm a mere incel, i don't know.

 

[ErichSpringer]

Your insights are impressive. It is refreshing to see someone reflect so deeply on love and connection. Tell me: what makes relationships truly meaningful?

 

[NewFuckingDay]

Yeah I do that's why I made this thread...

Yeah you don’t

 

[NewFuckingDay]

That's how women got manipulated with lovebombing, because they don't want to love a guy but only loving what he does for her... and got addicted to that feeling

lovebombing isn’t manipulation if it’s genuine, a woman could get lovebombed by fucking Raheej Sudkar from New Delhi and still wouldn’t fall in love with his ‘charm’ even if it is genuine, because she isn’t attracted to him. So no this is wrong

 

[huntergirl]

Tell me: what makes relationships truly meaningful?

Doing things for the other person
Just showing love through actions, choices and intentional effort

 

[huntergirl]

lovebombing isn’t manipulation if it’s genuine, a woman could get lovebombed by fucking Raheej Sudkar from New Delhi and still wouldn’t fall in love with his ‘charm’ even if it is genuine, because she isn’t attracted to him. So no this is wrong

Attraction isn’t enough to keep a relationship from falling apart
It’s not about looks or personality it’s about how so many people today enter relationships trying to fill a sense of existential loneliness and not to truly connect with another person

 

[Schizotypalcel]

Attraction isn’t enough to keep a relationship from falling apart
It’s not about looks or personality it’s about how so many people today enter relationships trying to fill a sense of existential loneliness and not to truly connect with another person

Well said, but i might add. Attraction opens the door, without it, you don't get a shot. That's the blackpill n***a, this site is blackpilled. You're right though, most people go into relationships to escape loneliness, not to actually connect. But in this day and age it's hard asf to figure that out, it's just swinging like a retarded kid that's wearing a helmet until you knock someone out.

 

[TonyDr]

lovebombing isn’t manipulation if it’s genuine, a woman could get lovebombed by fucking Raheej Sudkar from New Delhi and still wouldn’t fall in love with his ‘charm’ even if it is genuine, because she isn’t attracted to him. So no this is wrong

Ofc depends to an extent

 

[SixSeven]

hunter wth is this overly emotional ramble?

 

[swanneo]

for sure men don't put in any effort at all they don't plan dates and shit they just barely try and expect everything handed 2 them i understand ur insights hunter

 

[Quncho]

Passive means feeling attached to someone or maybe even connected in a way but you’re not really doing much to show it
You’re just kind of sitting there waiting for them to prove they love you and make you feel wanted
Not because you’re looking for love exactly but because you’re trying to fill this existential kind of loneliness

Now you might be thinking hunter wth is this overly emotional ramble? Idk tbh I just found myself reflecting on how much effort we pour into “looksmaxing” and perfecting our appearance all in the hope of being admired and desired then mistaking that attention for "love"
Cause I was reading something earlier where it said how most people focus on making themselves as loveable as possible rather than actually love

'passive love' isn't love

 

[truetard]

dnr love is stupid

 

[huntergirl]

'passive love' isn't love

That's what I said...

 

[ErichSpringer]

Doing things for the other person
Just showing love through actions, choices and intentional effort

What a wonderful way to look at it! I feel that even the tiniest action, however insignificant it may seem to oneself, can mean the world to someone else.
I really feel that the intention matters though, do you agree?

 

[huntergirl]

I really feel that the intention matters though, do you agree?

Absolutely

 

[ErichSpringer]

Absolutely

I'm pleased to have encountered someone who shares my way of thinking.

 

[boxeur]

Passive means feeling attached to someone or maybe even connected in a way but you’re not really doing much to show it
You’re just kind of sitting there waiting for them to prove they love you and make you feel wanted
Not because you’re looking for love exactly but because you’re trying to fill this existential kind of loneliness

Now you might be thinking hunter wth is this overly emotional ramble? Idk tbh I just found myself reflecting on how much effort we pour into “looksmaxing” and perfecting our appearance all in the hope of being admired and desired then mistaking that attention for "love"
Cause I was reading something earlier where it said how most people focus on making themselves as loveable as possible rather than actually lov

shakespeare type shit

 

[rand anon]

Modern society is full of such brutal blackpills

 

[mhm]

no one wants to get their heart and ego broken

 

[Deleted Member 75245]

Go back to threatening to r**e people

 

[ErichSpringer]

Go back to threatening to r**e people

I’m sorry, but did she really do such a thing?

 

[Antonio Montana]

I just know i love her.

 

[Rau Le Creuset]

Passive means feeling attached to someone or maybe even connected in a way but you’re not really doing much to show it
You’re just kind of sitting there waiting for them to prove they love you and make you feel wanted
Not because you’re looking for love exactly but because you’re trying to fill this existential kind of loneliness

Now you might be thinking hunter wth is this overly emotional ramble? Idk tbh I just found myself reflecting on how much effort we pour into “looksmaxing” and perfecting our appearance all in the hope of being admired and desired then mistaking that attention for "love"
Cause I was reading something earlier where it said how most people focus on making themselves as loveable as possible rather than actually love

I am liking your philosophy arc. I would argue even passive can be long-lasting; sometimes we are forced to be passive (for example, if your culture does not allow it, or you are just trying to play it safe). Although I do not believe it ends well, at the end of the day.

 

[Freak]

Passive means feeling attached to someone or maybe even connected in a way but you’re not really doing much to show it
You’re just kind of sitting there waiting for them to prove they love you and make you feel wanted
Not because you’re looking for love exactly but because you’re trying to fill this existential kind of loneliness

Now you might be thinking hunter wth is this overly emotional ramble? Idk tbh I just found myself reflecting on how much effort we pour into “looksmaxing” and perfecting our appearance all in the hope of being admired and desired then mistaking that attention for "love"
Cause I was reading something earlier where it said how most people focus on making themselves as loveable as possible rather than actually love

you’re the last person who can talk about this stuff