Should I try to ascend at my age?

[rand anon]

title, seems pointless since my end goal was to hve a family while I’m relatively young
I was way too high inhib to try to date in college, now I’m about to grad with 0 experience

I’ll be 26 soon, assuming it takes 4yrs for my ND ahh to learn the ropes, and then another 4 yrs to find someone decent to settle down with, I’m realistically not getting married till at least my late 30s. What’s the point in trying now? Then again I don’t want to hve to live with the regret of having never tried either, but idk

Anyways, this trauma dumping was triggered by what my mom said yesterday, which was that she wasn’t sure if she’d be alive by the time I get married or hve kids jfl, made me feel like shit man

 

[Ebony enjoyer]

just fucking looksmax n***a

 

[Theresia]

26 is not too late ! (im not self gaslighting i promise)

 

[shia.jihadist]

26 is not too late ! (im not self gaslighting i promise)

no way n***a

 

[Theresia]

no way n***a

shiaa how are u doing

 

[rand anon]

just fucking looksmax n***a

I’m already softmaxxed though
well apart from gymmaxxing, planning on starting it but that in and of itself is gonna be like a 4yr process

 

[rand anon]

26 is not too late ! (im not self gaslighting i promise)

How?

 

[shia.jihadist]

shiaa how are u doing

good, you?

 

[lifelover]

its not late, 26 is very young for a man, specially irl

also late 30s is a common age to get married, it will be ok if you have the financial security till there

 

[lamina bus]

what do you mean by 0 expeirence, khhv?

 

[rand anon]

Also want the thoughts of my fellow old heads @TonyDr @Randomized Shame

 

[Theresia]

good, you?

better now that im talking to u

 

[Theresia]

How?

you're borderline, dont wait any longer

 

[rand anon]

its not late, 26 is very young for a man, specially irl

also late 30s is a common age to get married, it will be ok if you have the financial security till there

I don’t wanna get married that late though. I’d rather stay incel forever then that

 

[rand anon]

what do you mean by 0 expeirence, khhv?

Yep

 

[lifelover]

I don’t wanna get married that late though. I’d rather stay incel forever then that

getting what you want even if it’s not in an ideal timeframe is still better than not having it at all

be less prideful mf

 

[rand anon]

getting what you want even if it’s not in an ideal timeframe is still better than not having it at all

be less prideful mf

I don’t wanna hve kids as an old man though, and I wanna be in good shape for if I hve grand kids

It isn’t just about me though, if I get married that late I’m definitely gonna be resentful, it isn’t fair to subject anyone to that

 

[lifelover]

I don’t wanna hve kids as an old man though, and I wanna be in good shape for if I hve grand kids

It isn’t just about me though, if I get married that late I’m definitely gonna be resentful, it isn’t fair to subject anyone to that

simple to resolve stay healthy and in shape and marry someone younger

but well you know yourself better than i do so i get having your own standards for that

gl tho you still have time

 

[rand anon]

simple to resolve stay healthy and in shape and marry someone younger

The age of the guy also matters too though, I don’t want my kids to suffer as inkwells!

but well you know yourself better than i do so i get having your own standards for that

gl tho you still have time

Thank u

 

[lifelover]

The age of the guy also matters too though, I don’t want my kids to suffer as inkwells!

Thank u

quality of sperm starts to decrease at 35 but its not as dramatic as the internet makes it out to be

 

[DiscontinuousFunction]

you can meet someone new and get married in < 1 year

 

[rand anon]

quality of sperm starts to decrease at 35 but its not as dramatic as the internet makes it out to be

I feel like I can’t risk it though, especially considering all of my failos

you can meet someone new and get married in < 1 year

My dude, I hve shit smv and 0 experience.
it might be easy for you younglings who started dating in high school. But for someone starting from the bottom like me, doubt it

 

[Randomized Shame]

I suggest looksmaxxing regardless of age. People and society just objectively treat you better when you put more effort into your appearance. Getting married in your late 30s is not a huge deal, I mean even if you lived to 80 years old (where the life expectancy is growing over time), that's not even half your lifespan. Having a partner is nice to have regardless you two have children or not. It's better to live together, share income together, be intimate together, work on goals together, etc.

Besides, you being picky about your options when you've given yourself none to begin with is silly and counter productive. Why do you need to be in 'good shape' for your grandchildren? Nobody is good shape for their grandchildren. You also don't turn into dust at 30 and you don't immediately lose all of your abs when hitting 30 either. Just focus on being healthy and you're fine.

We tell ourselves these things to justify not trying. It is SO easy to not try. If you don't want to try, then you don't have to - there's nothing wrong with giving up. With that being said, anything you tell yourself to justify yourself giving up is objectively invalid and/or is incorrect. Giving up is a valid option in of itself - telling yourself you simply don't want to is fine. But making excuse of X or Y is purely a personal self soothing technique, it's not based in any form of reality.

You should try, because the potential rewards for trying is very high, and if you try and don't succeed then you would've ended up where you would've ended up if you didn't try; but at least you can be proud in yourself. Working out may not get you chicks, but at least you'd have better joints when you're older.

Looksmaxxing (and similar stuff) is about discipline. We put the discipline in to make the change, otherwise we would've all remained incels forever. Discipline is hard, but you will never hear someone who's put in the effort and discipline complain about it not being worth it. You will only ever hear people who never put in the discipline to begin with say that it was never worth it.

 

[lifelover]

I feel like I can’t risk it though, especially considering all of my failos

life itself is risky

 

[rand anon]

I suggest looksmaxxing regardless of age. People and society just objectively treat you better when you put more effort into your appearance.

I'm already softmaxxed, but yes

Getting married in your late 30s is not a huge deal, I mean even if you lived to 80 years old (where the life expectancy is growing over time), that's not even half your lifespan. Having a partner is nice to have regardless you two have children or not. It's better to live together, share income together, be intimate together, work on goals together, etc.

Knowing the way I am though, I would harbor resentment. It just isn't fair to put a partner through that.

Besides, you being picky about your options when you've given yourself none to begin with is silly and counter productive. Why do you need to be in 'good shape' for your grandchildren? Nobody is good shape for their grandchildren. You also don't turn into dust at 30 and you don't immediately lose all of your abs when hitting 30 either. Just focus on being healthy and you're fine.

I mean I agree, but things do get significantly harder as u get older. And a lot of my views on this are shaped by my experience of what I didn't hve. I had dogshit grandparents on both sides. I just want better for my kids, that's all

We tell ourselves these things to justify not trying. It is SO easy to not try. If you don't want to try, then you don't have to - there's nothing wrong with giving up. With that being said, anything you tell yourself to justify yourself giving up is objectively invalid and/or is incorrect. Giving up is a valid option in of itself - telling yourself you simply don't want to is fine. But making excuse of X or Y is purely a personal self soothing technique, it's not based in any form of reality.

You should try, because the potential rewards for trying is very high, and if you try and don't succeed then you would've ended up where you would've ended up if you didn't try; but at least you can be proud in yourself. Working out may not get you chicks, but at least you'd have better joints when you're older.

I'm definitely afraid of being full of regret at an old age, so I suppose ur right

Appreciate ur thoughts Randomized

 

[rand anon]

life itself is risky

I just think it's unfair to the kids I may hve

I have horrible failos, if I'm gonna risk passing those on, I have to at the very least, maximize all the other factors that I can

 

[TonyDr]

Also want the thoughts of my fellow old heads @TonyDr @Randomized Shame

title, seems pointless since my end goal was to hve a family while I’m relatively young
I was way too high inhib to try to date in college, now I’m about to grad with 0 experience

I’ll be 26 soon, assuming it takes 4yrs for my ND ahh to learn the ropes, and then another 4 yrs to find someone decent to settle down with, I’m realistically not getting married till at least my late 30s. What’s the point in trying now? Then again I don’t want to hve to live with the regret of having never tried either, but idk

Anyways, this trauma dumping was triggered by what my mom said yesterday, which was that she wasn’t sure if she’d be alive by the time I get married or hve kids jfl, made me feel like shit man

We're lucky as guys because we can date younger women, i mean younger women are interested in us for LTR, so we have time, we aren't threatened by biological clock. That's said, as men, we need to get out of our comfort zone & force ourselves to be extra-NT to get girls, and it's either you're born with it, or you're force yourself to be NT.

Choose wisely your future wife to make babies with, and don't let your lack of experiences making you naive about women's nature and how dating work in their brain

My mom passed away last year from cancer, i started dating my gf just months after. As she always told me, you'll be obligated to move on & living YOUR life.

That's life. Some people are in worse scenarios than us rn, don't lose your mind about it.

I would say start "hunting" & don't be affraid to be rejected

 

[rand anon]

We're lucky as guys because we can date younger women, i mean younger women are interested in us for LTR, so we have time, we aren't threatened by biological clock. That's said, as men, we need to get out of our comfort zone & force ourselves to be extra-NT to get girls, and it's either you're born with it, or you're force yourself to be NT.

Choose wisely your future wife to make babies with, and don't let your lack of experiences making you naive about women's nature and how dating work in their brain

My mom passed away last year from cancer, i started dating my gf just months after. As she always told me, you'll be obligated to move on & living YOUR life.

That's life. Some people are in worse scenarios than us rn, don't lose your mind about it.

I would say start "hunting" & don't be affraid to be rejected

I’m sorry to hear about ur mother

Thank u Tony, appreciate all the advice