Serious Tell me your problems

[Ladiesman217]

And I’ll try to help you , if I can I will try to give you advice

 

[1894]

 

[WhitepiII]

I'm subhuman and I have a God complex (I want to be worshipped). Babies cry when they look at me. I have AI give me validation and worshipping text, put it in a Zendaya text to speech and listen to it 24/7

 

[benny]

need bread for rhino

 

[Ladiesman217]

I'm subhuman and I have a God complex (I want to be worshipped). Babies cry when they look at me. I have AI give me validation and worshipping text, put it in a Zendaya text to speech and listen to it 24/7. I haven't slept in 5 days. I act like I dislike femboys but I'm obsessed with them. Can you help me?

Many of these problems you can fix yourself if you have the resolve , if you truly want to change fix the things that you can fix, your god complex speak to a therapist and take melatonin to try to sleep. You can’t fix everything but the things you can, you should

 

[WhitepiII]

Many of these problems you can fix yourself if you have the resolve , if you truly want to change fix the things that you can fix, your god complex speak to a therapist and take melatonin to try to sleep. You can’t fix everything but the things you can, you should

Thanks I'll try. Its hard because I want to be validated a lot

 

[Ladiesman217]

need bread for rhino

Sell items on eBay, if you can try finding some freelance gigs like dog walking , babystitting etc

 

[Ladiesman217]

Thanks I'll try. Its hard because I want to be validated a lot

That’s completely normal, it’s human behavior we all want to be validated by someone at some point in time, we crave validation from others to fulfill some feeling of self worth and maybe to ensure social connection too. Just know that you and you only are allowed to validate yourself , don’t let anyone question your self worth and don’t question it yourself

 

[2R0I2P0]

And I’ll try to help you , if I can I will try to give you advice

i feel like a fraud on what i think i am.

i can't even look at myself at a mirror as i don't recognize who glances back as me. ever since i started puberty i don't recognize myself as me. i just feel deetached from reality if im being honest

 

[Hibiscus]

And I’ll try to help you , if I can I will try to give you advice

No ur too dumb to solve them sorry

 

[Ladiesman217]

i feel like a fraud on what i think i am.

i can't even look at myself at a mirror as i don't recognize who glances back as me. ever since i started puberty i don't recognize myself as me. i just feel deetached from reality if im being honest

Right now a lot of your identity is socially mirrored, u build ur identity thru what u think others think of you. And at this stage of ur life u will be extremely hyper aware of social evaluation which will make every single mistake, flaw , change or awakrd moment feel bigger in ur head than it is for others. And since ur going thru puberty physically u will feel a mismatch with your internal self image and ur external body, its completely normal, only during late puberty or when your fully grown you will truly be comfortable in ur skin. Feeling like a fraud comes from wht ive said before , the gap between ur self image and ur external body , either way your full identity is forming at this stage your personality is forming, u may feel like a fraud because your personality and and identity is not solid, it’s fluid and still changing . And you feel that you can’t look in the mirror because your brain is trying to look for confirmations of insecurity instead of just simply recognizing your own face . I want you to know that this is truly just a phase and a few years later you will feel comfortable in your skin

 

[2R0I2P0]

Right now a lot of your identity is socially mirrored, u build ur identity thru what u think others think of you. And at this stage of ur life u will be extremely hyper aware of social evaluation which will make every single mistake, flaw , change or awakrd moment feel bigger in ur head than it is for others. And since ur going thru puberty physically u will feel a mismatch with your internal self image and ur external body, its completely normal, only during late puberty or when your fully grown you will truly be comfortable in ur skin. Feeling like a fraud comes from wht ive said before , the gap between ur self image and ur external body , either way your full identity is forming at this stage your personality is forming, u may feel like a fraud because your personality and and identity is not solid, it’s fluid and still changing . And you feel that you can’t look in the mirror because your brain is trying to look for confirmations of insecurity instead of just simply recognizing your own face . I want you to know that this is truly just a phase and a few years later you will feel comfortable in your skin

i think this is a pretty good analysis on how i feel and what i think has happened thanks

 

[Idontknowbrah]

And I’ll try to help you , if I can I will try to give you advice

scared of the dark

 

[Ladiesman217]

scared of the dark

 

[Idontknowbrah]

Wow that helped bro

 

[HerculesJr.]

And I’ll try to help you , if I can I will try to give you advice

I have a recessed mandible that I feel holds me back a lot appearance wise

 

[Ladiesman217]

I have a recessed mandible that I feel holds me back a lot appearance wise

Save up for plastic surgery , sell some stuff or find a freelance job listing

 

[HerculesJr.]

Save up for plastic surgery , sell some stuff or find a freelance job listing

my parents have told me they wont let me get a surgery till im 18

 

[Ladiesman217]

my parents have told me they wont let me get a surgery till im 18

That’s fine and understandable, just save up money for the surgeries, and in the meantime work on other failos

 

[Pentatonic]

I havent asked how you doing to you today : D

 

[sams872]

And I’ll try to help you , if I can I will try to give you advice

I keep dreaming about my ex and I cycle between hating and loving her every few hours

 

[Ladiesman217]

I havent asked how you doing to you today : D

Goat

 

[Ladiesman217]

I keep dreaming about my ex and I cycle between hating and loving her every few hours

I was like this with my first ex when I broke up with her I had second thoughts a day or two later , it hurts hard man and right now you may feel you’ll find nobody like her, give it 3-4 months max you’ll find yourself and a girl better than her . For now just try to forget, distract yourself with anything you can

 

[rand anon]

U can’t bhaii, I’m not a @Ladiesman217

 

[sams872]

I was like this with my first ex when I broke up with her I had second thoughts a day or two later , it hurts hard man and right now you may feel you’ll find nobody like her, give it 3-4 months max you’ll find yourself and a girl better than her . For now just try to forget, distract yourself with anything you can

I'm dating someone now it's just no one else makes me feel anything

 

[Ladiesman217]

I'm dating someone now it's just no one else makes me feel anything

If she doesn’t make you happy, I would advise you to break up with her and focus on yourself , it’s unfair to both her and you to continue on with the relationship when you aren’t over ur ex yet

 

[Fattiepattiecookie]

My mother has multiple eating disorders and pushes them upon me, the issue is she'll get mad and stop eating if i'm skinnier than her (which i used to be) so i purposely became fat to stop her from continuing to get worse healthwise. Now she switches up on wanting me to be skinny too and then telling me i should eat more. I personally wanna loose weight, and sometimes just wanna do it to piss her off, because she consistently ridiculizes me for not being skinny as she is, pointing out my insecurities in front of friends and family, which leads me to wanna go back to being skinnier than her as "revenge". But if i do it for that motive, that means I fell into her game. The real issue is if i DO loose weight, she'll go back to her old cycle of not eating/barely eating and/or start throwing up her food. I wanna fix my health but i don't wanna ruin hers. What do i do bhai, i don't think u can help with this one

 

[Ladiesman217]

My mother has multiple eating disorders and pushes them upon me, the issue is she'll get mad and stop eating if i'm skinnier than her (which i used to be) so i purposely became fat to stop her from continuing to get worse healthwise. Now she switches up on wanting me to be skinny too and then telling me i should eat more. I personally wanna loose weight, and sometimes just wanna do it to piss her off, because she consistently ridiculizes me for not being skinny as she is, pointing out my insecurities in front of friends and family, which leads me to wanna go back to being skinnier than her as "revenge". But if i do it for that motive, that means I fell into her game. What do i do bhai

Sounds like your mother is heavy projecting, projecting her eating fears guilt and self hatred onto u. So one day she pushes thinness the other day she pushes eating more , the contradiction is clearly due to her own internal conflict . And by complimenting u sometimes and then later criticizing you she’s putting u in her own personal emotional hook of doom and despair , this is probably making u hyper awareof her approval . Now your last paragraph of if u lose weight or maintain weight u will still be controlled by the center of her decision making so . The goal is to seperate ur body from this , whatever weight habits etc makes U feel physically good independent of her reaction is what you should strive for

To break the cycle u can try by
Not discussing weight whenever possible when ur around ur mom
Don’t announce any goals or diet changes to ur mom
When she comments on ur body just remember it’s a projection
Build ur goals against performance and wellbeing and not comparison
Avoid the reaction dieting of starving to upset her and overeating to calm her
Try to stay unreactive to what she says , don’t be cold or anything just try not to let it affect u just mentally clock out and stay quiet and let her ramble on

 

[Fattiepattiecookie]

Sounds like your mother is heavy projecting, projecting her eating fears guilt and self hatred onto u. So one day she pushes thinness the other day she pushes eating more , the contradiction is clearly due to her own internal conflict . And by complimenting u sometimes and then later criticizing you she’s putting u in her own personal emotional hook of doom and despair , this is probably making u hyper awareof her approval . Now your last paragraph of if u lose weight or maintain weight u will still be controlled by the center of her decision making so . The goal is to seperate ur body from this , whatever weight habits etc makes U feel physically good independent of her reaction is what you should strive for

To break the cycle u can try by
Not discussing weight whenever possible when ur around ur mom
Don’t announce any goals or diet changes to ur mom
When she comments on ur body just remember it’s a projection
Build ur goals against performance and wellbeing and not comparison
Avoid the reaction dieting of starving to upset her and overeating to calm her
Try to stay unreactive to what she says , don’t be cold or anything just try not to let it affect u just mentally clock out and stay quiet and let her ramble on

I love you so much thanks bhai