Boys, there's no easy way to tell you this. But what you're being taught about "Modern women" and the (attention whore; cheating; immature) behaviors they have is an exaggeration and a LIE. I've always thought deeply about messages being given to myself and other young men within the past couple years but I've come to realize that we are being twisted and manipulated to being the very kinds of people we are taught to HATE.
Social media, Instagram especially, acts as an echo chamber to reflect your strongest opinions and interests. Instagram's algorithm is designed to target each age demographic (ie: men ages 13-18, 20-25, 30-40 [they stop trying after you're older than that] and women ages 13-18, 18-22, 25-28, 30-40 etc) and collect information about you, analyze your text behaviors with certain people (partners, friends, ex's) and the time you spend texting them to ascertain your connection to that person, especially if it can identify your genders and come to a conclusion as to what the nature of your connection is (bf and gf, husband and wife, male friend and female friend).
There is an obvious push towards a complete Gender War, where stereotypes are rampant and critical thinking/empathy are low. We're shown videos of horrible people (not just women) in horrible circumstances that are NOT regular and definitely NOT applicable to everyone in their individual situations. Companies and individuals that invest in Instagram and apps like it spend MILLIONS UPON MILLIONS of dollars. What are they buying? 2 things: Advertisement and narrative control.
There's a common phrase among philosophers and authors that goes "whomever has the pen that writes the narrative, controls the world." And this couldn't be more true than it is now.
But what exactly are we all being lied to about? and why would anyone powerful enough to do so even care about our opinions? Simply put it's all about consolidation of power. Power over the uneducated, impoverished, vulnerable, women, men, children, the economy, the votes, the focus of society as a whole.
Specifically for men, we are given 2 polarized options (not for us to choose, but for the algorithm to groom us to follow according to all the individual variables and facts about us that we publish online). These options are more like factions. And in order for a war to ever happen, you need at least 2 opposing factions lead by polar opposite ideals.
In America, these factions are becoming increasingly defined by gender, race, geographical location, wealth level, civil imbalances (exaggerated or not), religion, political parties, and even sense of humor. THESE ARE JUST STEREOTYPES NOT WHAT I TRULY THINK OF EACH AS IT IS MORE COMPLEX THAN YOU ASSUME. Regardless of which group you belong to by association or otherwise, YOU ARE STILL BEING BRAINWASHED.
The media is clever though, it takes a deep thinker to pick up on this. But essentially you remember how I mentioned Instagram being an echo chamber? Similar to boiling a frog, one shouldn't drop it in the boiling water or it will leap out of the pot immediately instead put the frog in Luke-warm comfortable water and slowly turn up the heat so it doesn't realize its being boiled alive and by the time it has, its body is limp and it dies, Instagram works the same. It will tell you in certain ways that your opinion is the only right and valid one, but slowly it adds in different content. Some simpler examples on a smaller scale are marketing ads cleverly used in a video or podcast, or onlyfans ads and sexual content to lure you into lust and lead you to waste your brain, money, and ruin the relationships you have with women IRL.
IT ALL HAS A SNOWBALL EFFECT.
But young men especially, are constantly given narratives of all girls being whores, that good girls and wifey material are too rare so you should just learn to play girls in order not to get hurt. Everything else included like de-humanizing them by being groomed to think women are inherently dumber and less motivated than men, that they are a waste of time and only hurt you, that you should humble them if they look too pretty, etc. It's all turning YOU into the player, whore, and asshole.
I hadn't realized this until I was in a relationship with a girl I really liked and who was wifey material but we didn't see each other in person often, and Instagram picked up on this and started showing reels of women cheating online, or going behind the backs of their boyfriends to satisfy themselves or get attention. Eventually this got so convincing that even though I liked her, I no longer trusted her. I analyzed every behavior and Instagram told me what each one meant. AND IT TURNED OUT TO BE WRONG. I became so afraid of getting hurt and I had had one relationship end previously where I felt betrayed even though to my knowledge she didn't cheat at all and just needed to focus on the direction she wanted in her life. Instagram told me this meant she cheated and the year following all the reels increasingly demonized girls like her and victimized me into feeling justified to become a player. But I hated being a player it messed with my head. I met girls who were obviously brainwashed into believing the polar opposite of what be think of them, about guys. But I was taught to never really connect so I didn't get hurt.
Fast forward to the present, I was so worried about her making me feel stupid by talking to other guys and/or having a roster while I didn't. So I myself started texting other girls. Turns out my gf hadn't been talking to other guys, and had only been going to school working her ass off, then directly to her job, then directly to motorbiking. Meanwhile, while shes out living life, I'm home texting other girls so I wouldn't end up getting played.
I've learned that this is true for many young men. We are being groomed into the players and attention whore, just look at what looksmaxxing is doing to men. More thirst traps than ever are being made by men, men prioritize being treated differently based on their looks, pulling girls etc. Just to inflate the ego. But whats more apparent is that girls are being told that we are the players and assholes so they should always be ready to hop to other guys, stay single, become anti-men, because they are told the same horrifying stories of cheating partners just from a female POV. AND WE SUPPORT THAT IDEA BY EVEN BEING HERE. IT IS A CYCLE OF HATE AND MISUNDERSTANDING AND WE ARE TURNING INTO THE VERY PEOPLE WE ARE BEING TOLD TO HATE SO THAT WE DONT GET HURT. Its now a competition of who gets hurt last and hurt the least. But that is a false dichotomy.
ITS ALL SO STUPID AND AVOIDABLE IF ONLY PEOPLE KNEW OR AT LEAST HAD EMPATHY FOR OTHERS AND FOCUSED ON FINDING THEMSELVES RATHER THAT BECOMING SOMETHING THEY ARE NOT.
Social media, Instagram especially, acts as an echo chamber to reflect your strongest opinions and interests. Instagram's algorithm is designed to target each age demographic (ie: men ages 13-18, 20-25, 30-40 [they stop trying after you're older than that] and women ages 13-18, 18-22, 25-28, 30-40 etc) and collect information about you, analyze your text behaviors with certain people (partners, friends, ex's) and the time you spend texting them to ascertain your connection to that person, especially if it can identify your genders and come to a conclusion as to what the nature of your connection is (bf and gf, husband and wife, male friend and female friend).
There is an obvious push towards a complete Gender War, where stereotypes are rampant and critical thinking/empathy are low. We're shown videos of horrible people (not just women) in horrible circumstances that are NOT regular and definitely NOT applicable to everyone in their individual situations. Companies and individuals that invest in Instagram and apps like it spend MILLIONS UPON MILLIONS of dollars. What are they buying? 2 things: Advertisement and narrative control.
There's a common phrase among philosophers and authors that goes "whomever has the pen that writes the narrative, controls the world." And this couldn't be more true than it is now.
But what exactly are we all being lied to about? and why would anyone powerful enough to do so even care about our opinions? Simply put it's all about consolidation of power. Power over the uneducated, impoverished, vulnerable, women, men, children, the economy, the votes, the focus of society as a whole.
Specifically for men, we are given 2 polarized options (not for us to choose, but for the algorithm to groom us to follow according to all the individual variables and facts about us that we publish online). These options are more like factions. And in order for a war to ever happen, you need at least 2 opposing factions lead by polar opposite ideals.
In America, these factions are becoming increasingly defined by gender, race, geographical location, wealth level, civil imbalances (exaggerated or not), religion, political parties, and even sense of humor. THESE ARE JUST STEREOTYPES NOT WHAT I TRULY THINK OF EACH AS IT IS MORE COMPLEX THAN YOU ASSUME. Regardless of which group you belong to by association or otherwise, YOU ARE STILL BEING BRAINWASHED.
The media is clever though, it takes a deep thinker to pick up on this. But essentially you remember how I mentioned Instagram being an echo chamber? Similar to boiling a frog, one shouldn't drop it in the boiling water or it will leap out of the pot immediately instead put the frog in Luke-warm comfortable water and slowly turn up the heat so it doesn't realize its being boiled alive and by the time it has, its body is limp and it dies, Instagram works the same. It will tell you in certain ways that your opinion is the only right and valid one, but slowly it adds in different content. Some simpler examples on a smaller scale are marketing ads cleverly used in a video or podcast, or onlyfans ads and sexual content to lure you into lust and lead you to waste your brain, money, and ruin the relationships you have with women IRL.
IT ALL HAS A SNOWBALL EFFECT.
But young men especially, are constantly given narratives of all girls being whores, that good girls and wifey material are too rare so you should just learn to play girls in order not to get hurt. Everything else included like de-humanizing them by being groomed to think women are inherently dumber and less motivated than men, that they are a waste of time and only hurt you, that you should humble them if they look too pretty, etc. It's all turning YOU into the player, whore, and asshole.
I hadn't realized this until I was in a relationship with a girl I really liked and who was wifey material but we didn't see each other in person often, and Instagram picked up on this and started showing reels of women cheating online, or going behind the backs of their boyfriends to satisfy themselves or get attention. Eventually this got so convincing that even though I liked her, I no longer trusted her. I analyzed every behavior and Instagram told me what each one meant. AND IT TURNED OUT TO BE WRONG. I became so afraid of getting hurt and I had had one relationship end previously where I felt betrayed even though to my knowledge she didn't cheat at all and just needed to focus on the direction she wanted in her life. Instagram told me this meant she cheated and the year following all the reels increasingly demonized girls like her and victimized me into feeling justified to become a player. But I hated being a player it messed with my head. I met girls who were obviously brainwashed into believing the polar opposite of what be think of them, about guys. But I was taught to never really connect so I didn't get hurt.
Fast forward to the present, I was so worried about her making me feel stupid by talking to other guys and/or having a roster while I didn't. So I myself started texting other girls. Turns out my gf hadn't been talking to other guys, and had only been going to school working her ass off, then directly to her job, then directly to motorbiking. Meanwhile, while shes out living life, I'm home texting other girls so I wouldn't end up getting played.
I've learned that this is true for many young men. We are being groomed into the players and attention whore, just look at what looksmaxxing is doing to men. More thirst traps than ever are being made by men, men prioritize being treated differently based on their looks, pulling girls etc. Just to inflate the ego. But whats more apparent is that girls are being told that we are the players and assholes so they should always be ready to hop to other guys, stay single, become anti-men, because they are told the same horrifying stories of cheating partners just from a female POV. AND WE SUPPORT THAT IDEA BY EVEN BEING HERE. IT IS A CYCLE OF HATE AND MISUNDERSTANDING AND WE ARE TURNING INTO THE VERY PEOPLE WE ARE BEING TOLD TO HATE SO THAT WE DONT GET HURT. Its now a competition of who gets hurt last and hurt the least. But that is a false dichotomy.
ITS ALL SO STUPID AND AVOIDABLE IF ONLY PEOPLE KNEW OR AT LEAST HAD EMPATHY FOR OTHERS AND FOCUSED ON FINDING THEMSELVES RATHER THAT BECOMING SOMETHING THEY ARE NOT.
