Went on a date

[Twink poet]

I’d preface this by saying I’m a very loyal person and I don’t play about commitment, but I’m also very cautious.
We went bowling, and it was pretty fun to say the least… but when we got to the restaurant, the word “commitment” was brought up atleast 20 times within 10 minutes, and a sudden wave of anxiety struck me hard as fuck. So when I felt myself getting comfortable, I got up and left to the bathroom and swerved to the exit.Should probably feel bad, but I feel like I dodged a bullet.

I don’t feel bad whatsoever, but a part of me feels like I made a big mistake as well.

 

[swanneo]

omg did u just leave her there at the restaurant

 

[Penalizer69]

Nah people who make big commitments early on are a red flag. For example in my opinion you shouldn't say ily as soon as most people do, they don't mean the things they say

 

[Twink poet]

omg did u just leave her there at the restaurant

We didn’t order anything, if that’s what you’re thinking… I’m not that bad

 

[pompompurino]

damn…. is there a reason why u are so cautious?

 

[swanneo]

We didn’t order anything, if that’s what you’re thinking… I’m not that bad

well, i'm wary of people who are very intense on first dates too. and i'm also avoidant as hell so if i could i would've ran away too i support u

 

[Twink poet]

Nah people who make big commitments early on are a red flag. For example in my opinion you shouldn't say ily as soon as most people do, they don't mean the things they say

Laying your cards out for what a relationship should look like is an insane move imo

 

[Twink poet]

damn…. is there a reason why u are so cautious?

I’d say I’m a paranoid person in general, not just when it comes to romantic relationships, but I don’t like displaying as it can be a sign of weakness.

 

[Chifuyu]

I’d preface this by saying I’m a very loyal person and I don’t play about commitment, but I’m also very cautious.
We went bowling, and it was pretty fun to say the least… but when we got to the restaurant, the word “commitment” was brought up atleast 20 times within 10 minutes, and a sudden wave of anxiety struck me hard as fuck. So when I felt myself getting comfortable, I got up and left to the bathroom and swerved to the exit.Should probably feel bad, but I feel like I dodged a bullet.

I don’t feel bad whatsoever, but a part of me feels like I made a big mistake as well.

Did you go out with a blasian guy? Cuz my bestie went on a date and he went bowling, this was recently.

 

[thorns]

I’d preface this by saying I’m a very loyal person and I don’t play about commitment, but I’m also very cautious.
We went bowling, and it was pretty fun to say the least… but when we got to the restaurant, the word “commitment” was brought up atleast 20 times within 10 minutes, and a sudden wave of anxiety struck me hard as fuck. So when I felt myself getting comfortable, I got up and left to the bathroom and swerved to the exit.Should probably feel bad, but I feel like I dodged a bullet.

I don’t feel bad whatsoever, but a part of me feels like I made a big mistake as well.

jfl order phenibut and baclofen to nuke anxiety

 

[Twink poet]

Did you go out with a blasian guy? Cuz my bestie went on a date and he went bowling, this was recently.

caught my ass, icl

 

[Twink poet]

jfl order phenibut and baclofen to nuke anxiety

Getting medicated for everything is a weak ass move

 

[Chifuyu]

caught my ass, icl

Hes a good guy tbh

 

[thorns]

Getting medicated for everything is a weak ass move

u just runaway from a foid like a lil bitch mane

 

[Twink poet]

Hes a good guy tbh

He could always run it back iykwim

 

[Chifuyu]

He could always run it back iykwim

Idk what that means bhaichacho can you explain, english isnt my first language

 

[Twink poet]

u just runaway from a foid like a lil bitch mane

Too harsh, too harsh…I’d call it a man being true to himself

 

[thorns]

Too harsh, too harsh…I’d call it a man being true to himself

 

[Twink poet]

Idk what that means bhaichacho can you explain, english isnt my first language

If he wishes to see me once more, he could always dial my digits

 

[Chifuyu]

If he wishes to see me once more, he could always dial my digits

My bad hes straight. He went out with a foid (ewww).

 

[swanneo]

If he wishes to see me once more, he could always dial my digits

i don't think he'll text back unless he has low dignity lol

 

[thorns]

oh is OP actually gay? i didnt know

 

[Chifuyu]

oh is OP actually gay? i didnt know

Yeah we had a blast ngl

 

[thorns]

Yeah we had a blast ngl

i didnt know bro

 

[Chifuyu]

i didnt know bro

Im just kidding im a dateless khhv.

 

[Deleted Member 46433]

i am also a very loyal person but she shouldnt have brought all of that up during the date. i would probably feel the same as you did.

however, i dont see the harm in realizing youre not interested in taking things further, ending the date fairly, and never speaking again. i do think you were in the wrong, yes, despite if you "dodged a bullet" or not.

 

[Twink poet]

oh is OP actually gay? i didnt know

I’m not gay

 

[isimostar]

congrats chad

 

[Twink poet]

i am also a very loyal person but she shouldnt have brought all of that up during the date. i would probably feel the same as you did.

however, i dont see the harm in realizing youre not interested in taking things further, ending the date fairly, and never speaking again. i do think you were in the wrong, yes, despite if you "dodged a bullet" or not.

Communication is not my forte, and having a conversation like that with someone I just met is even harder.

 

[Deleted Member 46433]

Communication is not my forte, and having a conversation like that with someone I just met is even harder.

i understand. all you had to try to do was steer the conversation away from commitment, end the date on a good note, and just tell her you dont want to see her again. it should be even easier since you dont know each other and will never speak again. what is the harm in that? seems more stressful to make a sneak escape, have to worry about the consequences later, while giving her a negative experience she'll never forget