why do people lie when complimenting

[xy2m]

I know that a lot of my friends lie when complimenting
like when they see someone ugly they will shower them in compliments
calling them pretty and all this glaze etc
and it hurts when someone compliments me because I feel like their doing the exact same to me
what if its not true and its all lie just to make me bond with them

 

[rovea]

Your title is wrong
It’s not “people” it’s only wimen ️

 

[xy2m]

Your title is wrong
It’s not “people” it’s only wimen ️

fair enough

 

[GoryToad]

I know that a lot of my friends lie when complimenting
like when they see someone ugly they will shower them in compliments
calling them pretty and all this glaze etc
and it hurts when someone compliments me because I feel like their doing the exact same to me
what if its not true and its all lie just to make me bond with them

keep being paranoid

 

[GoryToad]

Your title is wrong
It’s not “people” it’s only wimen ️

my friends do that too

 

[Joturttle]

Remember being “pretty” is subjective. So it could be their opinion

 

[xy2m]

keep being paranoid

android

 

[xy2m]

Remember being “pretty” is subjective. So it could be their opinion

skull
maybe

 

[GoryToad]

android

skull

 

[xy2m]

skull

skull!!!

 

[Incognito]

I know that a lot of my friends lie when complimenting
like when they see someone ugly they will shower them in compliments
calling them pretty and all this glaze etc
and it hurts when someone compliments me because I feel like their doing the exact same to me
what if its not true and its all lie just to make me bond with them

Most women only throw compliments at women they don’t see as competition. The moment they feel that competitive spark, the praise stops instantly, they won’t boost someone they view as a threat to their own standing.

 

[rickydickydoodahgrimes]

I know that a lot of my friends lie when complimenting
like when they see someone ugly they will shower them in compliments
calling them pretty and all this glaze etc
and it hurts when someone compliments me because I feel like their doing the exact same to me
what if its not true and its all lie just to make me bond with them

nah cos when girls would do that to me when i was fugly as i felt more insulted then if they had just called me ugly like im so ugly u feel like ur some charitable saviour by complimenting me, walking away like 'wow i prolly just made that miserable ugly girls day by telling her shes cute'

 

[xy2m]

Most women only throw compliments at women they don’t see as competition. The moment they feel that competitive spark, the praise stops instantly, they won’t boost someone they view as a threat to their own standing.

but I do compliment people who are pretty
I dont see other women as competition
so im confused

 

[xy2m]

nah cos when girls would do that to me when i was fugly as i felt more insulted then if they had just called me ugly like im so ugly u feel like ur some charitable saviour by complimenting me, walking away like 'wow i prolly just made that miserable ugly girls day by telling her shes cute'

skull thanks for summing it up so well
ur right
thats why they compliment ugly girls
its like emotional charity

 

[Incognito]

but I do compliment people who are pretty
I dont see other women as competition
so im confused

It varies from person to person, but most people do move with a competitive mindset. The worst mistake is assuming everyone has good intentions just because you operate that way. The truth is, most people are ego driven and think only as individuals when it comes to short term gain, not as a collective.

 

[rickydickydoodahgrimes]

Most women only throw compliments at women they don’t see as competition. The moment they feel that competitive spark, the praise stops instantly, they won’t boost someone they view as a threat to their own standing.

theres acc a biological/evolutionary explanation for this.
women in like cavemen sorta times survived via coalitions with eachother, looking after eachother, helping eachother out with gathering, looking after kids and backing them up when it came to potentially violent men and so the women with shareable characteristics like being great at gathering etc was praised by the other women as it benefitted them. Traits that weren't shareable, such as being the prettiest, did not benefit the group and so u basically weren't useful and u were a hindrance, taking all the male attention. Theres acc a study i can't remember where it's from but it basically backs this all up with a study of girls as young as 5 only liked sports where everyone won such as hopscotch etc, and disliked competitive sports. Girls that won in the competitive sports avoided bragging and even seemed ashamed to win and the girls that lost almost shunned the winner, especially if they boasted. Boys were the complete opposite and loved competition.
sorry thats a paragraph and a half

 

[Incognito]

theres acc a biological/evolutionary explanation for this.
women in like cavemen sorta times survived via coalitions with eachother, looking after eachother, helping eachother out with gathering, looking after kids and backing them up when it came to potentially violent men and so the women with shareable characteristics like being great at gathering etc was praised by the other women as it benefitted them. Traits that weren't shareable, such as being the prettiest, did not benefit the group and so u basically weren't useful and u were a hindrance, taking all the male attention. Theres acc a study i can't remember where it's from but it basically backs this all up with a study of girls as young as 5 only liked sports where everyone won such as hopscotch etc, and disliked competitive sports. Girls that won in the competitive sports avoided bragging and even seemed ashamed to win and the girls that lost almost shunned the winner, especially if they boasted. Boys were the complete opposite and loved competition.
sorry thats a paragraph and a half

You are right. Women evolved to value cooperative, shareable traits over competitive ones because group survival in early societies depended on coalitions, not individual wins. Not good looking means no threat.

 

[Starlet]

I don’t lie but if it comes up and they are ugly I’ll probably just focus on a specific trait that’s ok/their best like their hair or something and compliment that

 

[joestar]

Women are so retardednigga

 

[xy2m]

Women are so retardednigga

do u prefer men then?

 

[snow]

Your title is wrong
It’s not “people” it’s only wimen ️

Wamon ️ disrispect botton

 

[joestar]

do u prefer men then?

Interaction and friendship wise yeah 100%