21F, want to look better, at least match with my husband. Advice?

[idkwhatiam111]

Hi guys, i’m 21F and going to start medical school in a year. I really want to look prettier before i start because I know i’m gonna be so stressed and tired all the time. My husband and I were talking and he said objectively, he would rate himself an 8, and me about a 6.5-7.5, and it made me really sad. He said if my arms and legs were skinnier i’d look better. But i know there’s stuff wrong with my face too. I just feel so embarrassed now that if we’re in public people look at him and think, “wow, why is he with her? he could do so much better.” I put in a lot of effort to look good when we go out. But i just want him to think i look good. I go to the gym, and am losing weight, i’ve lost about 5 pounds recently. I’m 5’3 and 115. What can i do so that i’m at least almost as attractive as him? I’m going to get lipo on my arms later this year. Rn i use volufiline and a lash serum. Also, would you guys think he’s way more attractive than me, or do we match well? I’m just so in my head about this. He said he cares the most about personality and he loves me for how i look and thinks i’m pretty, but his objective rating really hurt me. How can i match with him?? Also, i’m considering getting botox to fix my smile, the last pic is me at the dentist when half my face was numb lol. Oh also, i forgot to add, what would you guys rate me with the letter stuff? From what I saw i feel like a ltb or if that is what its called

 

[trenghost]

married already at 21 lowk should i be impressed

 

[TonyDr]

My husband and I were talking and he said objectively, he would rate himself an 8, and me about a 6.5-7.5, and it made me really sad. He said if my arms and legs were skinnier i’d look better.

What the actual fuck sis
You mog him he's far from being an 8

But i just want him to think i look good.

Also, would you guys think he’s way more attractive than me, or do we match well? I’m just so in my head about this.

Why does he even said that bruh

 

[idkwhatiam111]

We've been best friends for like 7 years lol. We had to get married early because of a research program i was invited to, long story lol. We were already talking about marriage but because of the nature of the program and the grant had to kind of rush things. It does feel crazy to be married this young, lol. My parents got married at 18 and 19 tho, and same with lots of other family members, so it wasn't that abnormal to me especially bc of the town i grew up in everyone gets married right out of high school pretty much.

 

[trenghost]

what is your husband talking about yo you look better than him

 

[TonyDr]

I’m going to get lipo on my arms later this year.

Just stay in a proper caloric deficit/maintenance by eating healthy during your whole medecine school years

There also supplements to reduce stress and improves sleep

 

[trenghost]

Just stay in a proper caloric deficit/maintenance by eating healthy during your whole medecine school years

There also supplements to reduce stress and improves sleep

melatonin

 

[yielded]

Jfl at reddit larp you mog him easily

 

[idkwhatiam111]

What the actual fuck sis
You mog him he's far from being an 8



Why does he even said that bruh

That makes me feel better i suppose. All of his friends, and I'm not trying to be mean, they're all very nice, are probably 2s or 3s. All very obese and don't have a lot going for them, and they always gas him up like crazy. It took a lot of convincing for me to get him to rate me objectively lol, he kept saying he thought i was so beautiful and all that stuff. But I wanted to know if he actually thought I was objectively attractive or not. I grew up very very ugly, and used to be the girl in middle school that when I had a crush on someone, that guy would get made fun of. So I've always been very insecure about my looks. When I was like 11 I used to hit my jaw with a hairbrush to try and change my face shape, it was mental.

 

[pauseboicarti]

holy hypergamous husband structurally u are about the same but u got the better coloring

 

[Ghoultune]

Divorce him tbh Why would you marry someone you consider a 6

 

[rand anon]

Why does he even said that bruh

@cutec3l_return3d see how low inhib is everything brahhhh, u mog op’s husband hard jfl

 

[yielded]

holy hypergamous husband structurally u are about the same but u got the better coloring

Dude he's sub 3 psl unironically

 

[idkwhatiam111]

Jfl at reddit larp you mog him easily

what does jfl mean? Sorry im new to this

 

[yielded]

Jbw this not even a looksmatch

 

[yielded]

what does jfl mean? Sorry im new to this

It's like equivalent to lol

 

[pauseboicarti]

what does jfl mean? Sorry im new to this

just fart loud

 

[idkwhatiam111]

It's like equivalent to lol

ohh ok thank you!

 

[TonyDr]

they always gas him up like crazy

It's brotherhood. I got glazzed a lot but i'm just tall and 5/10 at best, they just like me

But I wanted to know if he actually thought I was objectively attractive or not.

You mog him he isn't a 8 i promise you

@cutec3l_return3d see how low inhib is everything brahhhh, u mog op’s husband hard jfl

OP's husband might be NT, while @cutec3l_return3d is ND

 

[yielded]

Dude he's sub 3 psl unironically

Ok sub 5 I was harsh

 

[yielded]

Ok sub 5 I was harsh

Irl he's avg this gotta be larp bro he should be lucky wtf reddit tier posts loooool

 

[rand anon]

It's brotherhood. I got glazzed a lot but i'm just tall and 5/10 at best, they just like me


You mog him he isn't a 8 i promise you


OP's husband might be NT, while @cutec3l_return3d is ND

Exactly, NT and low inhib are everything

Idk why women keep screeching about muh personality jfl

Well I kinda know why, cause it’s more pc to say that then say they want an NT dark triad bad boiii, but still stop gaslighting us ND incels maynnn

 

[idkwhatiam111]

holy hypergamous husband structurally u are about the same but u got the better coloring

For coloring wise, he is half japanese, so he got some asian genes. Ive always loved his asian features, the first time i saw him 8 years ago when we met, i thought he was the most beautiful person I'd ever seen in my life. I still feel that way about him, to me he is just so gorgeous and I feel like I could never measure up to him. Like when I see the actors in TV shows that are supposed to be the hot guy, I just think to myself, "This guy is so ugly compared to my husband". I don't think anyone has ever really seen me that way

 

[idkwhatiam111]

Exactly, NT and low inhib are everything

Idk why women keep screeching about muh personality jfl

Well I kinda know why, cause it’s more pc to say that then say they want an NT dark triad bad boiii, but still stop gaslighting us ND incels maynnn

Hey sorry but i dont know what these abbreviations mean! What does "low inhib", "ND", and "NT" mean?

 

[rand anon]

Hey sorry but i dont know what these abbreviations mean! What does "low inhib", "ND", and "NT" mean?

Pat pat

 

[meh.guy]

mayn auntie tell ur husband that doesnt make u happy when he says that
u guys are a perfect looksmatch
know ur worth auntie

 

[idkwhatiam111]

Jbw this not even a looksmatch

What would you rate me on the scale?

 

[idkwhatiam111]

mayn auntie tell ur husband that doesnt make u happy when he says that
u guys are a perfect looksmatch
know ur worth auntie

auntie i feel so old lol i am just now allowed to legally drink time flies

 

[TonyDr]

Hey sorry but i dont know what these abbreviations mean! What does "low inhib", "ND", and "NT" mean?

Low inhib = opposite of shy
NT = not autistic, can start, hold convos, can talk to women basically
ND = the opposite of NT

 

[meh.guy]

auntie i feel so old lol i am just now allowed to legally drink time flies

ur not old im just 15 so i call u auntie

 

[moonlight1]

Hi guys, i’m 21F and going to start medical school in a year. I really want to look prettier before i start because I know i’m gonna be so stressed and tired all the time. My husband and I were talking and he said objectively, he would rate himself an 8, and me about a 6.5-7.5, and it made me really sad. He said if my arms and legs were skinnier i’d look better. But i know there’s stuff wrong with my face too. I just feel so embarrassed now that if we’re in public people look at him and think, “wow, why is he with her? he could do so much better.” I put in a lot of effort to look good when we go out. But i just want him to think i look good. I go to the gym, and am losing weight, i’ve lost about 5 pounds recently. I’m 5’3 and 115. What can i do so that i’m at least almost as attractive as him? I’m going to get lipo on my arms later this year. Rn i use volufiline and a lash serum. Also, would you guys think he’s way more attractive than me, or do we match well? I’m just so in my head about this. He said he cares the most about personality and he loves me for how i look and thinks i’m pretty, but his objective rating really hurt me. How can i match with him?? Also, i’m considering getting botox to fix my smile, the last pic is me at the dentist when half my face was numb lol. Oh also, i forgot to add, what would you guys rate me with the letter stuff? From what I saw i feel like a ltb or if that is what its called

change husband not urself lol

 

[meh.guy]

What the actual fuck sis
You mog him he's far from being an 8



Why does he even said that bruh

maybe we should have a talk with him

 

[idkwhatiam111]

Irl he's avg this gotta be larp bro he should be lucky wtf reddit tier posts loooool

I think he feels lucky to be with me but maybe not looks wise. He said he cares the most about personality which is true. His ex is tbh pretty ugly but the ex before his last ex got a ton of plastic surgery and shes gorgeous but looks really creepy. We were best friends for years and years before we dated and i know he used to follow a lot of IG models. He has also had some INSANELY gorgeous women DM him before. Like could be models. He said he is a perfectionist when it comes to looks. He says he thinks i'm beautiful but ugh I just wish he could look at me and feel like i'm as attractive as the ig models he used to follow. Thank god, he is out of all that, and doesn't follow anyone like that anymore. He unfollowed all that crap about a year before we got together but I feel like he still has super high standards to what he finds attractive. But I know he feels lucky when it comes to being with me bc I am extremely loyal and do a lot for him, share a lot of the same hobbies, always am there for him, teach him a lot, and am fun lol. All of his exes have cheated on him.

 

[thurzdx]

Hi guys, i’m 21F and going to start medical school in a year. I really want to look prettier before i start because I know i’m gonna be so stressed and tired all the time. My husband and I were talking and he said objectively, he would rate himself an 8, and me about a 6.5-7.5, and it made me really sad. He said if my arms and legs were skinnier i’d look better. But i know there’s stuff wrong with my face too. I just feel so embarrassed now that if we’re in public people look at him and think, “wow, why is he with her? he could do so much better.” I put in a lot of effort to look good when we go out. But i just want him to think i look good. I go to the gym, and am losing weight, i’ve lost about 5 pounds recently. I’m 5’3 and 115. What can i do so that i’m at least almost as attractive as him? I’m going to get lipo on my arms later this year. Rn i use volufiline and a lash serum. Also, would you guys think he’s way more attractive than me, or do we match well? I’m just so in my head about this. He said he cares the most about personality and he loves me for how i look and thinks i’m pretty, but his objective rating really hurt me. How can i match with him?? Also, i’m considering getting botox to fix my smile, the last pic is me at the dentist when half my face was numb lol. Oh also, i forgot to add, what would you guys rate me with the letter stuff? From what I saw i feel like a ltb or if that is what its called

Idk, maybe work on your eyebrows

 

[idkwhatiam111]

Exactly, NT and low inhib are everything

Idk why women keep screeching about muh personality jfl

Well I kinda know why, cause it’s more pc to say that then say they want an NT dark triad bad boiii, but still stop gaslighting us ND incels maynnn

Idk man, as a woman I have cared about personality the most. I never did any hookups or anything like that though, I always dated for partnership and friendship almost lol. I have been in a few relationships, but if I'm being honest, only like 2 out of the 5 relationships I had would I say I found them physically attractive. I was attracted to them because we had really good conversations. I am a big talker lol. But also I was never the hooking up type. A lot of my good friends are also with guys who aren't as good looking as them but they're not the hooking up type either. Oh and all those guys cheated on me lmao. and 2 are actually gay.

 

[idkwhatiam111]

Low inhib = opposite of shy
NT = not autistic, can start, hold convos, can talk to women basically
ND = the opposite of NT

thank you!

 

[yielded]

I think he feels lucky to be with me but maybe not looks wise. He said he cares the most about personality which is true. His ex is tbh pretty ugly but the ex before his last ex got a ton of plastic surgery and shes gorgeous but looks really creepy. We were best friends for years and years before we dated and i know he used to follow a lot of IG models. He has also had some INSANELY gorgeous women DM him before. Like could be models. He said he is a perfectionist when it comes to looks. He says he thinks i'm beautiful but ugh I just wish he could look at me and feel like i'm as attractive as the ig models he used to follow. Thank god, he is out of all that, and doesn't follow anyone like that anymore. He unfollowed all that crap about a year before we got together but I feel like he still has super high standards to what he finds attractive. But I know he feels lucky when it comes to being with me bc I am extremely loyal and do a lot for him, share a lot of the same hobbies, always am there for him, teach him a lot, and am fun lol. All of his exes have cheated on him.

How tall is he? If you don't mind me asking does he have a high ranking job

 

[yielded]

What would you rate me on the scale?

Around avg your eye spacing, nose, and lips are noticeable flaws you're mltb-hltb maybe lmtb

 

[Luffy]

W chopper avi

 

[idkwhatiam111]

How tall is he? If you don't mind me asking does he have a high ranking job

He's 5'10 or 5'11 I think. He's a delivery driver, but he got a new contract so he makes a lot more now. I've never cared about money. My first love was dirt poor and still is (He went to film school). Since I knew I would go into either research or medicine I have always been okay with making more money in all my relationships. I have always just wanted someone I could have good conversations with! and that film guy ended up being gay haha.

 

[idkwhatiam111]

Around avg your eye spacing, nose, and lips are noticeable flaws you're mltb-hltb maybe lmtb

Makes sense! I have been using lip plumping gloss and that has helped. What is wrong with my nose? I feel like it's a good size for my face. Is there anything I can do for eye spacing? Are they too close or too far.

 

[idkwhatiam111]

W chopper avi

My goal is to be just like him, a great doctor lol. Thinking of chopper unironically got me through studying for the MCAT.

 

[Luffy]

My goal is to be just like him, a great doctor lol. Thinking of chopper unironically got me through studying for the MCAT.

That’s super dope, and people still don’t understand how important anime can be to someone. Especially one piece the greatest piece of fiction

 

[yielded]

Makes sense! I have been using lip plumping gloss and that has helped. What is wrong with my nose? I feel like it's a good size for my face. Is there anything I can do for eye spacing? Are they too close or too far.

Too close your nose is slightly hooked

 

[yielded]

He's 5'10 or 5'11 I think. He's a delivery driver, but he got a new contract so he makes a lot more now. I've never cared about money. My first love was dirt poor and still is (He went to film school). Since I knew I would go into either research or medicine I have always been okay with making more money in all my relationships. I have always just wanted someone I could have good conversations with! and that film guy ended up being gay haha.

Wtf

 

[rand anon]

Idk man, as a woman I have cared about personality the most. I never did any hookups or anything like that though, I always dated for partnership and friendship almost lol. I have been in a few relationships, but if I'm being honest, only like 2 out of the 5 relationships I had would I say I found them physically attractive. I was attracted to them because we had really good conversations. I am a big talker lol. But also I was never the hooking up type. A lot of my good friends are also with guys who aren't as good looking as them but they're not the hooking up type either. Oh and all those guys cheated on me lmao. and 2 are actually gay.

U seem like a small town gal maynn, maybe southern too. Most women aren’t like y’all nowadays. NT, low inhib, and looks, matter way more than personality for most women maynnnn

 

[idkwhatiam111]

U seem like a small town gal maynn, maybe southern too. Most women aren’t like y’all nowadays. NT, low inhib, and looks, matter way more than personality for most women maynnnn

I am lol. My town i grew up in has only about 10,000 people in it. Also southern. When I went to college I was really surprised how people acted, especially my roommates. It was like culture shock. And the men I met in college, my god. Worst people ever. I feel like so many people are just so shallow and have no desire for real human connection anymore. It makes me really sad. And social media is the worst. Maybe if I never had social media I would have never been so insecure about everything.

 

[idkwhatiam111]

That’s super dope, and people still don’t understand how important anime can be to someone. Especially one piece the greatest piece of fiction

Very true. My husband is actually the one who showed me one piece, lol. He is Japanese so he used to grow up watching it. I wish I had watched it when I was a kid. It has helped me get through a lot of hard things. and yes one piece is the greatest piece of fiction of all time.

 

[idkwhatiam111]

Wtf

to which part lol

 

[Nobodyreallycares]

Hi guys, i’m 21F and going to start medical school in a year. I really want to look prettier before i start because I know i’m gonna be so stressed and tired all the time. My husband and I were talking and he said objectively, he would rate himself an 8, and me about a 6.5-7.5, and it made me really sad. He said if my arms and legs were skinnier i’d look better. But i know there’s stuff wrong with my face too. I just feel so embarrassed now that if we’re in public people look at him and think, “wow, why is he with her? he could do so much better.” I put in a lot of effort to look good when we go out. But i just want him to think i look good. I go to the gym, and am losing weight, i’ve lost about 5 pounds recently. I’m 5’3 and 115. What can i do so that i’m at least almost as attractive as him? I’m going to get lipo on my arms later this year. Rn i use volufiline and a lash serum. Also, would you guys think he’s way more attractive than me, or do we match well? I’m just so in my head about this. He said he cares the most about personality and he loves me for how i look and thinks i’m pretty, but his objective rating really hurt me. How can i match with him?? Also, i’m considering getting botox to fix my smile, the last pic is me at the dentist when half my face was numb lol. Oh also, i forgot to add, what would you guys rate me with the letter stuff? From what I saw i feel like a ltb or if that is what its called

I didn’t read this but from the looks of it a maxillomandibular advancement will do wonders on your face