Am I approachable?

[000x6:::]

If not, what makes it that way?

I wouldn't say hair. That's people's first guess. Even when I had entirely natural longer brown hair I was highly ignored.

 

[Recai]

yes you are a girl

 

[000x6:::]

yes you are a girl

I'm always ignored in public

 

[Recai]

I'm always ignored in public

wow human gets treated like human

 

[Dearpleasehelpme]

If not, what makes it that way?

I wouldn't say hair. That's people's first guess. Even when I had entirely natural longer brown hair I was highly ignored.
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I mean I would approach you but then I’d look like a weirdo so maybe yes

 

[Methodical]

I'm always ignored in public

What do you mean by ignored? As in nobody cold approaches you or you actively make some effort and they ignore you outright?

 

[000x6:::]

What do you mean by ignored? As in nobody cold approaches you or you actively make some effort and they ignore you outright?

I've never been walked up to for someone to befriend me or hit on me ever. I'll hear about it from other people or watch girls around my campus get flirted with but nothing has ever happened to me. If I want a friend, I always have to chat with someone.

Idk if it seems selfish or anything but all of the other friends I made (I spoke to first) actively get flirted with and chat about it with me. Or if I go out with them, they'll get compliments.

 

[000x6:::]

What do you mean by ignored? As in nobody cold approaches you or you actively make some effort and they ignore you outright?

I have also tried talking with people and they'll either act like they didn't hear me or try and immediately push me away.

 

[000x6:::]

wow human gets treated like human

"I've never been walked up to for someone to befriend me or hit on me ever. I'll hear about it from other people or watch girls around my campus get flirted with but nothing has ever happened to me. If I want a friend, I always have to chat with someone.

Idk if it seems selfish or anything but all of the other friends I made (I spoke to first) actively get flirted with and chat about it with me. Or if I go out with them, they'll get compliments."

"I have also tried talking with people and they'll either act like they didn't hear me or try and immediately push me away."


I also used to actively get bullied a shit ton for how I looked so no- not really treated like human. I still get harassment on occasion

 

[rand anon]

idk, I always thought that alternative people mostly hang around other alt people, so I usually see them as less approachable

 

[submissivechud]

If not, what makes it that way?

I wouldn't say hair. That's people's first guess. Even when I had entirely natural longer brown hair I was highly ignored.
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You arent bad looking at all, above average I'd say, do you live in a more conservative area?
Maybe the purple hair puts people off.

 

[meh.guy]

No
You look like you talk about politics a lot

 

[Recai]

I've never been walked up to for someone to befriend me

i dont think anyone

or hit on me

this is common

or watch girls around my campus get flirted with

you look good its not about your looks

If I want a friend, I always have to chat with someone

yes thats how making friends work

I also used to actively get bullied a shit ton for how I looked

this is also common

the problem isnt your looks you look fine

 

[000x6:::]

You arent bad looking at all, above average I'd say, do you live in a more conservative area?
Maybe the purple hair puts people off.

No, quite opposite honestly. But even when I dressed basic, nothing ever happened. Natural hair, regular clothes, nada.

 

[000x6:::]

I said this a moment ago but even when I had my natural long brown hair with curtain bangs, it was the same.

 

[000x6:::]

i dont think anyone

this is common

you look good its not about your looks

yes thats how making friends work

this is also common

the problem isnt your looks you look fine

Do you think it could be how I carry myself or something? Social skills?

 

[Recai]

Do you think it could be how I carry myself or something? Social skills?

yes probably

 

[Methodical]

I've never been walked up to for someone to befriend me or hit on me ever. I'll hear about it from other people or watch girls around my campus get flirted with but nothing has ever happened to me. If I want a friend, I always have to chat with someone.

Idk if it seems selfish or anything but all of the other friends I made (I spoke to first) actively get flirted with and chat about it with me. Or if I go out with them, they'll get compliments.

So I agree with you I don't think it's the hair color or anything. I assume it's about: 1. how often you're going out, 2. where you're going out, 3. what you're wearing, 4. how you present yourself (body language, tone of voice, etc).

For 1, if you're not going out often (like a handful amount of times a month) then it's just not going to happen in your favor statistically.

For 2, if you're going to a brand new place every time or you're going to boring places like Walmart or whatever, then they're just most likely not going to do it. They would only approach you if you're super stunning or something, which is just not common for a majority of people.

For 3, if you're not dressing like you wanna be approached then people aren't going to approach you. Alternative aesthetics might not be popular among a majority of men and the ones who like it might be weird.

For 4, if you're acting shy or anxious in public then people are going to be anxious to approach you. No man wants to be the creepy dude, so they're going to try and be selective with people aren't immediately showing signs of being scared or whatever.

You're objectively good looking, and most men would find you attractive. I don't think it's your face, it would have to be something else. It might not be one of the 4 but it's definitely not because you're ugly.

I have also tried talking with people and they'll either act like they didn't hear me or try and immediately push me away.

It's possible maybe you're coming off too eager (like childish or naive) to talk or you're being too loud, or they don't feel like you're engaged with them directly. The "didn't hear me" thing only really works in situations where there's several conversations going on / it's already loud or if you try once and then immediately give up. It's hard to "pretend to ignore you" if you're engaged in a conversation 1 on 1. Not saying it's impossible - some people are just assholes regardless of how you do it - but if it's happening several times where you're ACTIVELY engaging and you're being rejected, it would be have to how you're coming off.

Despite what a lot of people feel here, even ugly dudes won't be outright ignored in a lot of 1 on 1 convos. It's usually group settings where they get ignored like that.

 

[000x6:::]

So I agree with you I don't think it's the hair color or anything. I assume it's about: 1. how often you're going out, 2. where you're going out, 3. what you're wearing, 4. how you present yourself (body language, tone of voice, etc).

For 1, if you're not going out often (like a handful amount of times a month) then it's just not going to happen in your favor statistically.

For 2, if you're going to a brand new place every time or you're going to boring places like Walmart or whatever, then they're just most likely not going to do it. They would only approach you if you're super stunning or something, which is just not common for a majority of people.

For 3, if you're not dressing like you wanna be approached then people aren't going to approach you. Alternative aesthetics might not be popular among a majority of men and the ones who like it might be weird.

For 4, if you're acting shy or anxious in public then people are going to be anxious to approach you. No man wants to be the creepy dude, so they're going to try and be selective with people aren't immediately showing signs of being scared or whatever.

You're objectively good looking, and most men would find you attractive. I don't think it's your face, it would have to be something else. It might not be one of the 4 but it's definitely not because you're ugly.


It's possible maybe you're coming off too eager (like childish or naive) to talk or you're being too loud, or they don't feel like you're engaged with them directly. The "didn't hear me" thing only really works in situations where there's several conversations going on / it's already loud or if you try once and then immediately give up. It's hard to "pretend to ignore you" if you're engaged in a conversation 1 on 1. Not saying it's impossible - some people are just assholes regardless of how you do it - but if it's happening several times where you're ACTIVELY engaging and you're being rejected, it would be have to how you're coming off.

Despite what a lot of people feel here, even ugly dudes won't be outright ignored in a lot of 1 on 1 convos. It's usually group settings where they get ignored like that.

This genuinely deserves more than gold. Thank you so much, insanely helpful.

I really do need to find a way to work on social skills alongside going out more. A lot of this was quite spot on. Sucky part is it is easier finding out the problem but solving it tends to be harder.

Coming off eager is common for me and has been that way for a long time but I'm not entirely sure how else to come off especially when engaging with someone new?

I'll try and find some sort of way to work on it

 

[hyperion]

If not, what makes it that way?

I wouldn't say hair. That's people's first guess. Even when I had entirely natural longer brown hair I was highly ignored.
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Op is clearly a child.

I don't approach children.

 

[000x6:::]

Op is clearly a child.

I don't approach children.

Im 19?

 

[hyperion]

Im 19?

Neurodivergent stare of death.

Relax your eyebrows and other facial features, and make an active effort to have a resting smiling face.

 

[Methodical]

This genuinely deserves more than gold. Thank you so much, insanely helpful.

I really do need to find a way to work on social skills alongside going out more. A lot of this was quite spot on. Sucky part is it is easier finding out the problem but solving it tends to be harder.

Coming off eager is common for me and has been that way for a long time but I'm not entirely sure how else to come off especially when engaging with someone new?

I'll try and find some sort of way to work on it

A lot of people will tell you just doing it more often will help you. Which is mostly true; having more experience will just help, and accepting rejection will allow you to do things without fear, which would then create more engaging, fun, or enjoyable conversations, because the fear aspect will show up on you even if you think you're hiding it well.

HOWEVER, with that being said, it just simply isn't the magical answer ngl. Like having experience helps but minimally. What you actually need to do is join random Discord servers and talk to strangers, record yourself and then analyze how you're socializing/talking.

I was recording myself for a video - I had a script, I was mentally prepared, I was alone, I didn't plan on showing anyone the recording, and I re-recorded it several times. I was STILL saying "uhm" way too much in each recording, coming off anxious. Even when I was intentionally and was being MINDFUL of me avoiding it, I would listen back to the recording and feel SHOCKED. Because I genuinely thought I went through 1 recording only saying it like once and I ended up saying it like 12 times without realizing. I felt fucking gaslit by my own self it was crazy.

So you'd have to train yourself to avoid certain pitfalls. It's kind of hard and it's annoying, but it's the honest answer here.

If you want to, you can also just accept the "not getting hit on randomly" and instead try dating apps where you'd have a lot of options and attention. At least then you could be "yourself" and find a man who would be intentionally engaged with you and could like you for you and your awkward nature (if you feel like you're awkward). I met my wife on a dating app - 0 success in any other avenue, but she gave me a chance and she said she liked how nerdy and awkward I was irl. And I'm a dude + ugly asf so y'know.

But it would depend on what your end goals are (if it's to date or to just experience a better/new life).

 

[hyperion]

A lot of people will tell you just doing it more often will help you. Which is mostly true; having more experience will just help, and accepting rejection will allow you to do things without fear, which would then create more engaging, fun, or enjoyable conversations, because the fear aspect will show up on you even if you think you're hiding it well.

HOWEVER, with that being said, it just simply isn't the magical answer ngl. Like having experience helps but minimally. What you actually need to do is join random Discord servers and talk to strangers, record yourself and then analyze how you're socializing/talking.

I was recording myself for a video - I had a script, I was mentally prepared, I was alone, I didn't plan on showing anyone the recording, and I re-recorded it several times. I was STILL saying "uhm" way too much in each recording, coming off anxious. Even when I was intentionally and was being MINDFUL of me avoiding it, I would listen back to the recording and feel SHOCKED. Because I genuinely thought I went through 1 recording only saying it like once and I ended up saying it like 12 times without realizing. I felt fucking gaslit by my own self it was crazy.

So you'd have to train yourself to avoid certain pitfalls. It's kind of hard and it's annoying, but it's the honest answer here.

If you want to, you can also just accept the "not getting hit on randomly" and instead try dating apps where you'd have a lot of options and attention. At least then you could be "yourself" and find a man who would be intentionally engaged with you and could like you for you and your awkward nature (if you feel like you're awkward). I met my wife on a dating app - 0 success in any other avenue, but she gave me a chance and she said she liked how nerdy and awkward I was irl. And I'm a dude + ugly asf so y'know.

But it would depend on what your end goals are (if it's to date or to just experience a better/new life).

I'll respond to this as I read it - but an immediate caveat is the misconceptions around dating apps and the people that populate them.

Op - if you're straight and like men, I speak from personal experience: I would say anything and do anything - tell a woman I wanted something serious just for a fling.

Be extremely cautious and look for ugly guys to form good long term relationships with.

 

[aspiringpslgodess]

I've never been walked up to for someone to befriend me or hit on me ever. I'll hear about it from other people or watch girls around my campus get flirted with but nothing has ever happened to me. If I want a friend, I always have to chat with someone.

Idk if it seems selfish or anything but all of the other friends I made (I spoke to first) actively get flirted with and chat about it with me. Or if I go out with them, they'll get compliments.

not selfish at all

 

[hyperion]

Do you want a good, long term relationship?

I'm 6'4, and have muscles.

 

[000x6:::]

A lot of people will tell you just doing it more often will help you. Which is mostly true; having more experience will just help, and accepting rejection will allow you to do things without fear, which would then create more engaging, fun, or enjoyable conversations, because the fear aspect will show up on you even if you think you're hiding it well.

HOWEVER, with that being said, it just simply isn't the magical answer ngl. Like having experience helps but minimally. What you actually need to do is join random Discord servers and talk to strangers, record yourself and then analyze how you're socializing/talking.

I was recording myself for a video - I had a script, I was mentally prepared, I was alone, I didn't plan on showing anyone the recording, and I re-recorded it several times. I was STILL saying "uhm" way too much in each recording, coming off anxious. Even when I was intentionally and was being MINDFUL of me avoiding it, I would listen back to the recording and feel SHOCKED. Because I genuinely thought I went through 1 recording only saying it like once and I ended up saying it like 12 times without realizing. I felt fucking gaslit by my own self it was crazy.

So you'd have to train yourself to avoid certain pitfalls. It's kind of hard and it's annoying, but it's the honest answer here.

If you want to, you can also just accept the "not getting hit on randomly" and instead try dating apps where you'd have a lot of options and attention. At least then you could be "yourself" and find a man who would be intentionally engaged with you and could like you for you and your awkward nature (if you feel like you're awkward). I met my wife on a dating app - 0 success in any other avenue, but she gave me a chance and she said she liked how nerdy and awkward I was irl. And I'm a dude + ugly asf so y'know.

But it would depend on what your end goals are (if it's to date or to just experience a better/new life).

Rejection therapy might wind up helping me out in the long run. I guess that's a way of life. It will also help to show what works and what doesn't.

I have recorded myself before and I understand what you mean, even wound up taking a Speech Fundamentals course last semester for college. I only ever grew up with the confidence of being a theater kid. It may seem nerdy to others but it helps you perform and rid of nerves. The hard part is that when you make friends, you're no longer a written character. You are yourself.

Also- it's less about dating apps and more so wanting the reassurance of being attractive. I worry that sounds fucked up and maybe it is in a way but it's true. Getting hit on and depending on who it is can kind of estimate where you land. Downloading a dating app guarantees a swipe and conversation but for someone to actually swallow their nerves and walk up to you says a lot more.

Generally, I want more friends. It's less about love and trying to gain the confidence to work with people. Walk right, not have a rbf, look good daily. That sort of thing. It is such a challenge and takes time but- time does pass anyways so why not work on it.

 

[hyperion]

A lot of people will tell you just doing it more often will help you. Which is mostly true; having more experience will just help, and accepting rejection will allow you to do things without fear, which would then create more engaging, fun, or enjoyable conversations, because the fear aspect will show up on you even if you think you're hiding it well.

Specifically for originally socially inept people - the solution is exposure therapy. Social skills is a nuance not a theoretical concept that can be sufficiently taught through a comprehensive guide.

HOWEVER, with that being said, it just simply isn't the magical answer ngl. Like having experience helps but minimally. What you actually need to do is join random Discord servers and talk to strangers, record yourself and then analyze how you're socializing/talking.

I don't entirely know how applicable this is to this person in particular - as they're 19 its almost at a point were talking to other younger teens may seem regressive and promote particular themes that are generally seen as inappropriate or silly especially for someone her age.

If you want to, you can also just accept the "not getting hit on randomly" and instead try dating apps where you'd have a lot of options and attention. At least then you could be "yourself" and find a man who would be intentionally engaged with you and could like you for you and your awkward nature (if you feel like you're awkward). I met my wife on a dating app - 0 success in any other avenue, but she gave me a chance and she said she liked how nerdy and awkward I was irl. And I'm a dude + ugly asf so y'know.

Especially as a woman, and at that given age range - most guys are there for a ONS.

But it would depend on what your end goals are (if it's to date or to just experience a better/new life).

 

[hyperion]

I've never been walked up to for someone to befriend me or hit on me ever. I'll hear about it from other people or watch girls around my campus get flirted with but nothing has ever happened to me. If I want a friend, I always have to chat with someone.

People that frequently perform coitus typically don't talk about it - its people that talk about it who generally play up their happenings. Be weary of your friends in this manner and don't compare yourself to someone who could potentially be lying.

Idk if it seems selfish or anything but all of the other friends I made (I spoke to first) actively get flirted with and chat about it with me. Or if I go out with them, they'll get compliments.

Maybe you just haven't seen me yet.

 

[000x6:::]

Specifically for originally socially inept people - the solution is exposure therapy. Social skills is a nuance not a theoretical concept that can be sufficiently taught through a comprehensive guide.

I don't entirely know how applicable this is to this person in particular - as they're 19 its almost at a point were talking to other younger teens may seem regressive and promote particular themes that are generally seen as inappropriate or silly especially for someone her age.

Especially as a woman, and at that given age range - most guys are there for a ONS.

Yeah, huge reason why dating apps seem hellish. I wouldn't trust anyone on there. Especially at my age as you said.

 

[xalapa]

dye ur hair black

 

[000x6:::]

dye ur hair black

I have thought about it but I'm worried the contrast may not work for me or my coloring. Not shore

 

[hyperion]

Rejection therapy might wind up helping me out in the long run. I guess that's a way of life. It will also help to show what works and what doesn't.

Think of it less as rejection therapy - and like I iterated over before - as exposure. You need to learn the nuances of everything rather then being comfortable with being rejected.

I have recorded myself before and I understand what you mean, even wound up taking a Speech Fundamentals course last semester for college. I only ever grew up with the confidence of being a theater kid. It may seem nerdy to others but it helps you perform and rid of nerves. The hard part is that when you make friends, you're no longer a written character. You are yourself.

Edgy, but you play the character as yourself - just as you should never speak your mind if it may compromise the flow of a given conversation. You say the correct things for the scene - rather then what your character would otherwise improvise.

Also- it's less about dating apps and more so wanting the reassurance of being attractive. I worry that sounds fucked up and maybe it is in a way but it's true. Getting hit on and depending on who it is can kind of estimate where you land. Downloading a dating app guarantees a swipe and conversation but for someone to actually swallow their nerves and walk up to you says a lot more.

If your not going out and consuming alcohol, and finding yourself in situations with social lubricants - its very rare to find a good person coming up to you and talking. I've done it a handful of times and its impossible to interpret the interest of the other person - and as such I halted it. When you're inebriated you don't particularly care - so if I were to see you, I would only actually approach when I've been drinking.

Generally, I want more friends. It's less about love and trying to gain the confidence to work with people. Walk right, not have a rbf, look good daily. That sort of thing. It is such a challenge and takes time but- time does pass anyways so why not work on it.

 

[xalapa]

I have thought about it but I'm worried the contrast may not work for me or my coloring. Not shore

it will make ur eyes pop out more

 

[hyperion]

it will make ur eyes pop out more

Additionally all bitches I've spoken to with coloured hair were evidently crazy.

If you want to rid yourself of that stigma, dye your hair black.

 

[000x6:::]

Think of it less as rejection therapy - and like I iterated over before - as exposure. You need to learn the nuances of everything rather then being comfortable with being rejected.

Edgy, but you play the character as yourself - just as you should never speak your mind if it may compromise the flow of a given conversation. You say the correct things for the scene - rather then what your character would otherwise improvise.

If your not going out and consuming alcohol, and finding yourself in situations with social lubricants - its very rare to find a good person coming up to you and talking. I've done it a handful of times and its impossible to interpret the interest of the other person - and as such I halted it. When you're inebriated you don't particularly care - so if I were to see you, I would only actually approach when I've been drinking.

I don't want to be in an absurd drinking scene. Align me to stigma all you want but I am not a stereotype. I just thoroughly enjoy expressing myself as an artist. I write, paint, sketch, make scripts, it's just a thing I love.

Only concert I ever plan on going to is a Phil Elverum/Mount Eerie one which is nothing like the typical Deftones or The Smiths title.

Maybe that's what makes it so hard? A lot of the people I know love to drink, smoke up, all that.

I'm looking for a bond which is going to be hard. Even romantically I'm not one with massive standards either. My childhood crushes were Evan Jennings and Paul Banks BASED ON APPEARANCE ALONE and not their recognition. I thought they were cute before finding out their titles. And Evan is 5'3 which girls these days would scoff and throw up over. I don't need rich either, just a decent amount of security where I won't have to worry as I'll be working too.

I don't want to find the love of my life on a dating app or a drug infested concert.

I wouldn't really want to find my friends in such a harsh scene either but it's quite popular with where I live: weed, acid, vapes galore, sex, drinking. It's horrible. It makes me lose a lot of hope. It isn't just socializing but where I am in itself.

 

[hyperion]

I don't want to be in an absurd drinking scene. Align me to stigma all you want but I am not a stereotype. I just thoroughly enjoy expressing myself as an artist. I write, paint, sketch, make scripts, it's just a thing I love.

Only concert I ever plan on going to is a Phil Elverum/Mount Eerie one which is nothing like the typical Deftones or The Smiths title.

Maybe that's what makes it so hard? A lot of the people I know love to drink, smoke up, all that.

I'm looking for a bond which is going to be hard. Even romantically I'm not one with massive standards either. My childhood crushes were Evan Jennings and Paul Banks BASED ON APPEARANCE ALONE and not their recognition. I thought they were cute before finding out their titles. And Evan is 5'3 which girls these days would scoff and throw up over. I don't need rich either, just a decent amount of security where I won't have to worry as I'll be working too.

I don't want to find the love of my life on a dating app or a drug infested concert.

I wouldn't really want to find my friends in such a harsh scene either but it's quite popular with where I live: weed, acid, vapes galore, sex, drinking. It's horrible. It makes me lose a lot of hope. It isn't just socializing but where I am in itself.

Taking all the instances to the extreme isn't an excellent idea - especially when I want to convey the usefulness of these tools available to you. Excessive drinking obviously isn't what I'm suggesting - however to a point where socializing becomes easier is very beneficial.

In complete and utter honesty - despite what you say, I know exactly what type of individual you are. I've had my life ruined by multiple girls with brightly coloured hair - I'm well qualified to talk about this. Projecting your identity is excellent in theory, but if it starts to impede your ability to be easy to sympathies with - that's when you should start reconsidering what aspects you allow to portray your identity.

You're asking for the absolute bare minimum for people of your age - don't expect anyone to commend you for wanting the bare minimum.

If sex isn't for you - try having better sex.

 

[esoteric]

mogs me

 

[000x6:::]

Taking all the instances to the extreme isn't an excellent idea - especially when I want to convey the usefulness of these tools available to you. Excessive drinking obviously isn't what I'm suggesting - however to a point where socializing becomes easier is very beneficial.

In complete and utter honesty - despite what you say, I know exactly what type of individual you are. I've had my life ruined by multiple girls with brightly coloured hair - I'm well qualified to talk about this. Projecting your identity is excellent in theory, but if it starts to impede your ability to be easy to sympathies with - that's when you should start reconsidering what aspects you allow to portray your identity.

You're asking for the absolute bare minimum for people of your age - don't expect anyone to commend you for wanting the bare minimum.

If sex isn't for you - try having better sex.

I'm just not the drinking type and parties freak me out so either I need to open up, find another method, or become content ig.

Also I can assure you I am not what you think of me. Most alt people or ig girls have the stereotype of being bpd fanatics who ruin the lives of men all while being woke liberals victimizing themselves. Not that it needs to be proven but if you saw me just a month ago where I looked just as regular as a girl you'd see in the mall, this title wouldn't be pressed on me. I actively avoid what most of them do for the sake of peace. Even in me expressing the kind of friends or partner want just shows wanting peace.

Sex isn't an issue even in my mind right now and I wouldn't even engage in intimacy unless I am truly in love and have dated for a long time.

 

[hyperion]

I'm just not the drinking type and parties freak me out so either I need to open up, find another method, or become content ig.

Also I can assure you I am not what you think of me. Most alt people or ig girls have the stereotype of being bpd fanatics who ruin the lives of men all while being woke liberals victimizing themselves. Not that it needs to be proven but if you saw me just a month ago where I looked just as regular as a girl you'd see in the mall, this title wouldn't be pressed on me. I actively avoid what most of them do for the sake of peace. Even in me expressing the kind of friends or partner want just shows wanting peace.

Sex isn't an issue even in my mind right now and I wouldn't even engage in intimacy unless I am truly in love and have dated for a long time.

Your personality isn't based on your looks, from what I can infer about how you talk about yourself and relay your thoughts about your connection to other people - you're exactly the same people that I've dated a few times in my life.

To further you as a person - and ultimately stop a man like me from being ruined by a girl like you - I'll be frank but truthful.

Projecting your identity is excellent in theory, but if it starts to impede your ability to be easy to sympathies with - that's when you should start reconsidering what aspects you allow to portray your identity.

Not once did I mention anything about a persons particular liking or associations - although many have this in common, the most crucial factor that is the core linking factor for all girls such as yourself is your conception of identity.

Again, you have brightly coloured hair, are vocal about your interests, completely subverted my text about projection of your identity to maintain a sense of self.


All of their thoughts and opinions aren't their own, their thrifted from things they choose to identify with to be different or alternative. You avoid attacks on your identity because its directly an attack on your sense of self - and choose to ignore it, like seen above. Ultimately, you shouldn't feel the need to produce a form of yourself where your identity can be inferred from a football field's length away, you should be someone who is unveiled by a curious peer who sympathizes with your expressed interests as you reveal them to this person as you're introducing yourself.


I can't explain it, but all of my ex's are the same person with different coloured hair - and you're exactly that type.

 

[000x6:::]

Your personality isn't based on your looks, from what I can infer about how you talk about yourself and relay your thoughts about your connection to other people - you're exactly the same people that I've dated a few times in my life.

To further you as a person - and ultimately stop a man like me from being ruined by a girl like you - I'll be frank but truthful.



Not once did I mention anything about a persons particular liking or associations - although many have this in common, the most crucial factor that is the core linking factor for all girls such as yourself is your conception of identity.

Again, you have brightly coloured hair, are vocal about your interests, completely subverted my text about projection of your identity to maintain a sense of self.


All of their thoughts and opinions aren't their own, their thrifted from things they choose to identify with to be different or alternative. You avoid attacks on your identity because its directly an attack on your sense of self - and choose to ignore it, like seen above. Ultimately, you shouldn't feel the need to produce a form of yourself where your identity can be inferred from a football field's length away, you should be someone who is unveiled by a curious peer who sympathizes with your expressed interests as you reveal them to this person as you're introducing yourself.


I can't explain it, but all of my ex's are the same person with different coloured hair - and you're exactly that type.

I don't feel a need to be seen or anything? Sorry if I'm getting any of this wrong, it's late and I've been out all day.

I don't really express my interests in a crazy way or shove it down someone's throat unless it's something of a conversation or I notice it on someone else? For example, if someone has a shirt of a game I like, I'll compliment it.

I don't deck out either. For what it's worth, my style has been relatively simple aside from the hair? In the pic I shared, I have a black top and a baggy pair of jeans, not much. I try and make sure that everything about me isn't just t h e r e.

I think you're just categorizing me based on my hair and your dating history when I don't even know these girls.

I looked relatively basic just a couple months ago. If I took out the brow piercing you'd likely deem me to be nothing of what you dated.

 

[yyoloo]

If not, what makes it that way?

I wouldn't say hair. That's people's first guess. Even when I had entirely natural longer brown hair I was highly ignored.
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might be the purple hair tbh it depends on ur area tho but the bright colors usually attract more alt / weird interests people

 

[hyperion]

I don't feel a need to be seen or anything? Sorry if I'm getting any of this wrong, it's late and I've been out all day.

I don't really express my interests in a crazy way or shove it down someone's throat unless it's something of a conversation or I notice it on someone else? For example, if someone has a shirt of a game I like, I'll compliment it.

I don't deck out either. For what it's worth, my style has been relatively simple aside from the hair? In the pic I shared, I have a black top and a baggy pair of jeans, not much. I try and make sure that everything about me isn't just t h e r e.

I think you're just categorizing me based on my hair and your dating history when I don't even know these girls.

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I looked relatively basic just a couple months ago. If I took out the brow piercing you'd likely deem me to be nothing of what you dated.

You can summarize quite a significant amount about a person by the things they wear (including hair dye, and piercings), how they talk about themself and how they talk about others.

I've used what you've told me, your looks and determined exactly what I initially assumed - you may think, but I guarantee you my ex's had no clue either.

I wont allow you to victimize yourself to the day, but you're exactly what I'm suggesting. "it's late and I've been out all day." Is victimizing yourself to the day, something extremely akin to what my ex's would say.



@Randomized

Can you please help me explain, I'm about to have a fight with her and we're not even dating:

All of their thoughts and opinions aren't their own, their thrifted from things they choose to identify with to be different or alternative. You avoid attacks on your identity because its directly an attack on your sense of self - and choose to ignore it, like seen above. Ultimately, you shouldn't feel the need to produce a form of yourself where your identity can be inferred from a football field's length away, you should be someone who is unveiled by a curious peer who sympathizes with your expressed interests as you reveal them to this person as you're introducing yourself.


I can't explain it, but all of my ex's are the same person with different coloured hair - and you're exactly that type.

 

[000x6:::]

You can summarize quite a significant amount about a person by the things they wear (including hair dye, and piercings), how they talk about themself and how they talk about others.

I've used what you've told me, your looks and determined exactly what I initially assumed - you may think, but I guarantee you my ex's had no clue either.

I wont allow you to victimize yourself to your day, but you're exactly what I'm suggesting. "it's late and I've been out all day." Is victimizing yourself to the day, something extremely akin to what my ex's would say.



@Randomized

Can you please help me explain, I'm about to have a fight with her and we're not even dating:

Huhh? I'm not victimizing?- I'm just saying I am physically tired at the moment is all. Had a good day tbh, just physically sleepy. Just saying if any of what I say doesn't make sense, that's why

 

[000x6:::]

You can summarize quite a significant amount about a person by the things they wear (including hair dye, and piercings), how they talk about themself and how they talk about others.

I've used what you've told me, your looks and determined exactly what I initially assumed - you may think, but I guarantee you my ex's had no clue either.

I wont allow you to victimize yourself to the day, but you're exactly what I'm suggesting. "it's late and I've been out all day." Is victimizing yourself to the day, something extremely akin to what my ex's would say.



@Randomized

Can you please help me explain, I'm about to have a fight with her and we're not even dating:

I don't want to argue with you at all so I'll generally just take what you said with a grain of salt and tell you to have a good night. wish u the best

 

[hyperion]

I don't want to argue with you at all so I'll generally just take what you said with a grain of salt and tell you to have a good night. wish u the best

I'm attempting to prevent some poor retarded guy who is like me from being hurt by you.

I care not for your ability to socialize, I care you don't fuck me over.

 

[000x6:::]

I'm attempting to prevent some poor retarded guy who is like me from being hurt by you.

I care not for your ability to socialize, I care you don't fuck me over.

Well, dw. They won't be like you and I'm not looking to hurt or fuck someone over

 

[hyperion]

I'm attempting to prevent some poor retarded guy who is like me from being hurt by you.

I care not for your ability to socialize, I care you don't fuck me over.

@dontcallthemfoidsbro

Analise this and tell me what you think, on my advice and how I think its applicable here.

 

[JDD8]

@dontcallthemfoidsbro

Analise this and tell me what you think, on my advice and how I think its applicable here.

Brutal unstable relationship

 

[hyperion]

Brutal unstable relationship

I think me and @000x6::: should see other people tbh.

What do you mean?