Serious am i in the wrong??

[demented]

i finally set firm boundaries with my housemate and ofc i can’t do it verbally so i wrote a letter and assigned him chores for the house
i gave him the easy shit first like bathroom and laundry room to clean and then daily things to just keep the house looking okay, like do ur own dishes don’t leave food in them clean up when ur done cooking
i gave him a bill for monthly because i pay for everything already, like literally everything food bills his VAPE
i can’t do it, and he knows i cannot get a job, because of my disability and the fact that like lowkey the cops want me, yet he expects me to pay for it all, no i can’t i wont
i told him in the letter if he cannot afford it we will discuss other living arrangements
i feel like an asshole but i am not his mom
and i didnt sign up for this shit at all
never did i tell him ill pay every bill every month
hes never bought groceries for the house he’s gotten me food sure but i paid for EVERYTHING even THE BED IN HIS ROOM HIS DESK HIS CARPET, i actually cant say no to people and i hate it
did i do all of this for no reason? am i being an asshole or expecting too much from him?

 

[aryy]

no ur not in the wrong

 

[Grilldaddy❤️]

I just can’t read🫩

 

[demented]

another thing is he tells me i need to do this and that for him but no i dont have to i mean its his personal business but im not going to CARE for you when ur an adult, like he TELLS me i have to check on him often, its not my job to make sure you are alive yes i care but i dont expect that of you so dont expect it of me, dont expect me to coddle you if youre upset yes ive come to you for comfort before but i was going thru a break up that only happened bc he told me my bf was talking abt me in a server he was in too, like i would’ve been fine not knowing that, hes also like “protective” of me and i dont like that, like he tells me when ppl are bad for me this and that
im literally my own person what the fuck

 

[demented]

I just can’t read🫩

okay but fr tho learn to read

 

[moonlight1]

i finally set firm boundaries with my housemate and ofc i can’t do it verbally so i wrote a letter and assigned him chores for the house
i gave him the easy shit first like bathroom and laundry room to clean and then daily things to just keep the house looking okay, like do ur own dishes don’t leave food in them clean up when ur done cooking
i gave him a bill for monthly because i pay for everything already, like literally everything food bills his VAPE
i can’t do it, and he knows i cannot get a job, because of my disability and the fact that like lowkey the cops want me, yet he expects me to pay for it all, no i can’t i wont
i told him in the letter if he cannot afford it we will discuss other living arrangements
i feel like an asshole but i am not his mom
and i didnt sign up for this shit at all
never did i tell him ill pay every bill every month
hes never bought groceries for the house he’s gotten me food sure but i paid for EVERYTHING even THE BED IN HIS ROOM HIS DESK HIS CARPET, i actually cant say no to people and i hate it
did i do all of this for no reason? am i being an asshole or expecting too much from him?

ur def not
and bro ur paying for his vape?

 

[demented]

ur def not
and bro ur paying for his vape?

i was yeah,, bro i’m such a fucking loser

 

[moonlight1]

i was yeah,, bro i’m such a fucking loser

don’t do this to yourself humble him, if he doesn’t agree he’s the one in the loss anyway

 

[demented]

don’t do this to yourself humble him, if he doesn’t agree he’s the one in the loss anyway

i wrote a letter stating i’m done supporting him, i’m requesting his part of rent his part of utilities and his part of groceries too, im too tired.

 

[Inanimate Pragmatist]

i finally set firm boundaries with my housemate and ofc i can’t do it verbally so i wrote a letter and assigned him chores for the house
i gave him the easy shit first like bathroom and laundry room to clean and then daily things to just keep the house looking okay, like do ur own dishes don’t leave food in them clean up when ur done cooking
i gave him a bill for monthly because i pay for everything already, like literally everything food bills his VAPE
i can’t do it, and he knows i cannot get a job, because of my disability and the fact that like lowkey the cops want me, yet he expects me to pay for it all, no i can’t i wont
i told him in the letter if he cannot afford it we will discuss other living arrangements
i feel like an asshole but i am not his mom
and i didnt sign up for this shit at all
never did i tell him ill pay every bill every month
hes never bought groceries for the house he’s gotten me food sure but i paid for EVERYTHING even THE BED IN HIS ROOM HIS DESK HIS CARPET, i actually cant say no to people and i hate it
did i do all of this for no reason? am i being an asshole or expecting too much from him?

Give him a three days to get his things together or at least his act. Remove him if he does not comply.

 

[demented]

Give him a three days to get his things together or at least his act. Remove him if he does not comply.

is requesting rent for this month at the start of next month too late also..?

 

[demented]

Give him a three days to get his things together or at least his act. Remove him if he does not comply.

he’s also on the lease too, i would have to give him 30 days.

 

[Inanimate Pragmatist]

is requesting rent for this month at the start of next month too late also..?

Make it shorter, the longer people have that are like this; tend to get comfy and redo their mistakes. Shorten it, when you constrain time on people, it tends to make them behave the way they are meant too, after all you are the boss of the household. Do not feel guilt or pity, if a grown man cannot attend to his duties as small as these, which you have mentioned then he is to be removed. Having such people around you, only bring you done. I suggest looking for new house mates whilst he is on his countdown.

 

[Inanimate Pragmatist]

he’s also on the lease too, i would have to give him 30 days.

Fair enough.

 

[demented]

Make it shorter, the longer people have that are like this; tend to get comfy and redo their mistakes. Shorten it, when you constrain time on people, it tends to make them behave the way they are meant too, after all you are the boss of the household. Do not feel guilt or pity, if a grown man cannot attend to his duties as small as these, which you have mentioned then he is to be removed. Having such people around you, only bring you done. I suggest looking for new house mates whilst he is on his countdown.

how to i even look for housemates..? i can’t live alone with my seizures which is why he’s here i don’t know anyone here i moved to this state to live in a house with him

 

[Inanimate Pragmatist]

how to i even look for housemates..? i can’t live alone with my seizures which is why he’s here i don’t know anyone here i moved to this state to live in a house with him

You attend college yes? You can try and meet new people who are of need for a new place that seem trustable. You can try ads too. If you wish to be safe, try find someone the same age as you if not the same gender.

 

[demented]

You attend college yes? You can try and meet new people who are of need for a new place that seem trustable. You can try ads too. If you wish to be safe, try find someone the same age as you if not the same gender.

i don’t attend college no.. i don’t go outside because of well. i’ve discussed with you, why is this shit so stressful

 

[demented]

ROPEMAXXING OVER FUCKING THIS

 

[Inanimate Pragmatist]

i don’t attend college no.. i don’t go outside because of well. i’ve discussed with you, why is this shit so stressful

I see. I believe ads are a good choice, you can try facebook or gumtree. They tend to have services which can advertise such needs.

 

[Inanimate Pragmatist]

ROPEMAXXING OVER FUCKING THIS

Do not despair, you still have time.

 

[demented]

I see. I believe ads are a good choice, you can try facebook or gumtree. They tend to have services which can advertise such needs.

okay i’ll start on facebook but like idk this shit makes me feel pathetic why can’t i just UGH i came from a situation of being used for my money just to seemingly come into it again. n****r n****r n****r n****r n****r n****r n****r n****r n****r n****r NIGGGGGGERRRRR