Serious Am I too “Masculine”?

[Deleted Member 110363]

I frequently have acquaintances or people I know IRL tell me that I basically 'act like a guy.' They say I joke around like one, sometimes dress like one, and just have that overall “masculine” energy. I guess it makes sense though, looking back at me as a child: I lived with my mom until the fourth grade, but my dad has had custody of me and my brothers ever since—and I’m 18 now.
I’ve been the only girl in an all-male household for almost ten years. My dad and I don’t have the best relationship, and my brothers and I aren't as close as we used to be, but I’d say that environment still shaped me into the person I am today regarding personality. Even as a little kid, I was into 'guy stuff' like video games and tomboyish clothes; I even remember cutting my hair super short just to look like my brothers.
I think a huge reason for this is that while living with my dad, I never really had a positive female figure to look up to. Most of his girlfriends were total POS, except for his most recent one. She’s actually very sweet, but I feel like it’s almost too late to build a real relationship with her since I’m moving away soon.
I wonder if I’m just coping, but people have told me it isn’t my looks keeping me from getting guys—so it’s gotta be my personality, right? I don’t want to water myself down and become some boring version of myself, but I recognize that I can be 'too much' sometimes, or even annoying. I guess I’m just trying to figure out how to lean into my feminine side and appeal to men more, without losing the bubbly, loud, and “authentic” parts of who I am. But honestly, if that’s what I need to do, and I’m that unlikable — I’m willing to change.

 

[emeraldpill]

Was this typed in VR?

@PingPong

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

Was this typed in VR?

@PingPong

BRO STOP LMFAOOO NO IM ON MY SCHOOL IPAD

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

Was this typed in VR?

@PingPong

Anything but giving advice

 

[emeraldpill]

Anything but giving advice

Fine I’ll read it

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

Fine I’ll read it

Since no one replied & everyone hates me because I’m a stupid no good idiot cuck, I’ll take it that I need to change

 

[Inanimate Pragmatist]

This is the type of thing I find on some message board before someone troons out.

 

[emeraldpill]

Since no one replied & everyone hates me because I’m a stupid no good idiot cuck, I’ll take it that I need to change

Be yourself
And why not try building a relationship w her, even if you are moving away

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

Be yourself
And why not try building a relationship w her, even if you are moving away

We kind of have a relationship, it’s just awkward sometimes cause I don’t know how to talk to women.

 

[Ibn]

I frequently have acquaintances or people I know IRL tell me that I basically 'act like a guy.' They say I joke around like one, sometimes dress like one, and just have that overall “masculine” energy. I guess it makes sense though, looking back at me as a child: I lived with my mom until the fourth grade, but my dad has had custody of me and my brothers ever since—and I’m 18 now.
I’ve been the only girl in an all-male household for almost ten years. My dad and I don’t have the best relationship, and my brothers and I aren't as close as we used to be, but I’d say that environment still shaped me into the person I am today regarding personality. Even as a little kid, I was into 'guy stuff' like video games and tomboyish clothes; I even remember cutting my hair super short just to look like my brothers.
I think a huge reason for this is that while living with my dad, I never really had a positive female figure to look up to. Most of his girlfriends were total POS, except for his most recent one. She’s actually very sweet, but I feel like it’s almost too late to build a real relationship with her since I’m moving away soon.
I wonder if I’m just coping, but people have told me it isn’t my looks keeping me from getting guys—so it’s gotta be my personality, right? I don’t want to water myself down and become some boring version of myself, but I recognize that I can be 'too much' sometimes, or even annoying. I guess I’m just trying to figure out how to lean into my feminine side and appeal to men more, without losing the bubbly, loud, and “authentic” parts of who I am. But honestly, if that’s what I need to do, and I’m that unlikable — I’m willing to change.

yes u are a super chad alpha masculine dom daddy

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

This is the type of thing I find on some message board before someone troons out.

I’m not trans

 

[Megan_Gill]

Hmmmmmmm just hang out with woman it will rube off Ig

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

@foidslayer22

 

[foidslayer]

I frequently have acquaintances or people I know IRL tell me that I basically 'act like a guy.' They say I joke around like one, sometimes dress like one, and just have that overall “masculine” energy. I guess it makes sense though, looking back at me as a child: I lived with my mom until the fourth grade, but my dad has had custody of me and my brothers ever since—and I’m 18 now.
I’ve been the only girl in an all-male household for almost ten years. My dad and I don’t have the best relationship, and my brothers and I aren't as close as we used to be, but I’d say that environment still shaped me into the person I am today regarding personality. Even as a little kid, I was into 'guy stuff' like video games and tomboyish clothes; I even remember cutting my hair super short just to look like my brothers.
I think a huge reason for this is that while living with my dad, I never really had a positive female figure to look up to. Most of his girlfriends were total POS, except for his most recent one. She’s actually very sweet, but I feel like it’s almost too late to build a real relationship with her since I’m moving away soon.
I wonder if I’m just coping, but people have told me it isn’t my looks keeping me from getting guys—so it’s gotta be my personality, right? I don’t want to water myself down and become some boring version of myself, but I recognize that I can be 'too much' sometimes, or even annoying. I guess I’m just trying to figure out how to lean into my feminine side and appeal to men more, without losing the bubbly, loud, and “authentic” parts of who I am. But honestly, if that’s what I need to do, and I’m that unlikable — I’m willing to change.

Growing up around mostly guys obv influences your humor and energy but that doesn’t make you less likable alot of men like women who are masculine or a bit tomboyish you don’t need to completely change who you are to appeal to people just focus on like a balance like showing your softer or themore emotional side. The right people will like you for you

 

[Lucario]

I get this too. I mean, I don’t think u should rlly care what others say. If u want to change it then enforce patriarchy and wear pigtails n shiii.

 

[Deleted Member 109692]

people have told me it isn’t my looks keeping me from getting guys—so it’s gotta be my personality, right?

don’t trust what people say in regards to whether you’re ugly or not, they don’t care enough to be truthful and it’s more beneficial for them to lie

 

[P1et]

Ur weird

 

[mxri]

There is a stark difference between being a lad and an ogre
You fall under the abused dog over thinker

 

[Harold O'Brien]

it's probably your personality - but i doubt it's to do with being "too masculine"

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

There is a stark difference between being a lad and an ogre
You fall under the abused dog over thinker

Sounds about right

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

I get this too. I mean, I don’t think u should rlly care what others say. If u want to change it then enforce patriarchy and wear pigtails n shiii.

Opposite of what I wanna do honestly, but I can acknowledge when I’m being annoying or a POS, which is why I guess I was asking for an outsiders opinion.

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

Growing up around mostly guys obv influences your humor and energy but that doesn’t make you less likable alot of men like women who are masculine or a bit tomboyish you don’t need to completely change who you are to appeal to people just focus on like a balance like showing your softer or themore emotional side. The right people will like you for you

Thank you it means a lot