boredom is the real killer

[virgile]

beyond lms beyond charisma beyond all that shit , you could be a tall rich charismatic chad , eventually she's going to be bored , it's inevitable ,eventually she won't look at you as this exciting guy anymore , you could try your hardest to keep the spark alive once it's gone it's gone and there's no coming back, dating is a rigged game just enjoy good things while they last but don't ever make your emotional wellbeing depend on the state of your relationship

 

[kys]

sighs im too far gone the dopamine ride to the point i find boredem in everything.

 

[dontcallthemfoidsbro]

My grandparents have been married for 60 years now, and love eachother so so so much. Boredom is not always a bad thing. Getting bored of someone can mean wanting something new and not being satisfired in a relationship anymore, but thats usually because the other person isnt right for you. Boredom can also mean getting used to the other person, so they dont excite you as much anymore or give you butterflies as often, but in a healthy relationship that often just means finding comfort in eachother. Similarly to how you'd love your mother, or a sibling, they'll become family. You don't find them particularly exciting anymore in the sense of young teenage love, but you can rely on them, enjoy spending time with them, and love them more than anything.

 

[virgile]

My grandparents have been married for 60 years now, and love eachother so so so much. Boredom is not always a bad thing. Getting bored of someone can mean wanting something new and not being satisfired in a relationship anymore, but thats usually because the other person isnt right for you. Boredom can also mean getting used to the other person, so they dont excite you as much anymore or give you butterflies as often, but in a healthy relationship that often just means finding comfort in eachother. Similarly to how you'd love your mother, or a sibling, they'll become family. You don't find them particularly exciting anymore in the sense of young teenage love, but you can rely on them, enjoy spending time with them, and love them more than anything.

different times different standards different education different upbringing , I'm talking about dating in my times , during the time of your grandparents , options outside of the relationship weren't so easy to find , promiscuity wasn't constantly promoted and shoved in our faces , marriage was an institution that you had to respect , all love to them but this is clearly irrelevant in our times , nowadays routine = lack of excitement = boring = I got to find someone new

 

[The Dark Passenger]

beyond lms beyond charisma beyond all that shit , you could be a tall rich charismatic chad , eventually she's going to be bored , it's inevitable ,eventually she won't look at you as this exciting guy anymore , you could try your hardest to keep the spark alive once it's gone it's gone and there's no coming back, dating is a rigged game just enjoy good things while they last but don't ever make your emotional wellbeing depend on the state of your relationship

You're kinda right but not completely.

 

[virgile]

You're kinda right but not completely.

elaborate

 

[dontcallthemfoidsbro]

different times different standards different education different upbringing , I'm talking about dating in my times , during the time of your grandparents , options outside of the relationship weren't so easy to find , promiscuity wasn't constantly promoted and shoved in our faces , marriage was an institution that you had to respect , all love to them but this is clearly irrelevant in our times , nowadays routine = lack of excitement = boring = I got to find someone new

I agree that dating has sadly changed and "true love" as we once defined it is hard to find. I do think that it isn't impossible though. In the over 8 billion people on this earth, there will always be someone who shares them same values, and i think those people naturally gravitate towards eachother. The majority of people find their personal eventually.

 

[virgile]

I agree that dating has sadly changed and "true love" as we once defined it is hard to find. I do think that it isn't impossible though. In the over 8 billion people on this earth, there will always be someone who shares them same values, and i think those people naturally gravitate towards eachother. The majority of people find their personal eventually.

I mean of course its not "impossible" but realistically an immense majority of us will never get that let's be real

The majority of people find their personal eventually.

and that's just not true most men throughout history didn't reproduce

 

[dontcallthemfoidsbro]

I mean of course its not "impossible" but realistically an immense majority of us will never get that let's be real

and that's just not true most men throughout history didn't reproduce

Well I guess that sort of depends on what standards you've set for "your person". If the baseline is just someone non promiscuous, who stays loyal and doesnt cheat, that really shouldn't be too hard. Lots and lots of people out there are happy to stay loyal to their partner, and haven't had a very promiscuous past. Now, if what youre looking for is someone with 0 bodies, who's never been in a previous relationship, won't go out and wants 7 kids, then yes, that may be a little harder to find as it simply doesn't fit today's political economic standing and values very well anymore. (Id like to clarify im not implying that is what youre looking for, I was just making a hyperspecifc example)

 

[virgile]

Well I guess that sort of depends on what standards you've set for "your person". If the baseline is just someone non promiscuous, who stays loyal and doesnt cheat, that really shouldn't be too hard. Lots and lots of people out there are happy to stay loyal to their partner, and haven't had a very promiscuous past. Now, if what youre looking for is someone with 0 bodies, who's never been in a previous relationship, won't go out and wants 7 kids, then yes, that may be a little harder to find as it simply doesn't fit today's political economic standing and values very well anymore. (Id like to clarify im not implying that is what youre looking for, I was just making a hyperspecifc example)

this isn't relevant with what I was talking about initially , I was saying this idea of a lifelong loving relationship is a thing of the past , doesn't matter the type of partner

 

[The Dark Passenger]

elaborate

Nah man I've reread it and think you're right,even more with this explanation down below:

different times different standards different education different upbringing , I'm talking about dating in my times , during the time of your grandparents , options outside of the relationship weren't so easy to find , promiscuity wasn't constantly promoted and shoved in our faces , marriage was an institution that you had to respect , all love to them but this is clearly irrelevant in our times , nowadays routine = lack of excitement = boring = I got to find someone new

I've even made a thread abt this in the past explaining why most marriages in the older times were a trap and not really a exchange of love and values.I can tag you on it if you want or I can see If I can quote it in here.
Anyways that's a good point,you did.

 

[virgile]

can tag you on it if you want

sure let me see

 

[TonyDr]

beyond lms beyond charisma beyond all that shit , you could be a tall rich charismatic chad , eventually she's going to be bored , it's inevitable ,eventually she won't look at you as this exciting guy anymore , you could try your hardest to keep the spark alive once it's gone it's gone and there's no coming back, dating is a rigged game just enjoy good things while they last but don't ever make your emotional wellbeing depend on the state of your relationship

Just date a woman who has hobbies outside of the relationship, get yours, sign a prenup and never expect them to stay forever