Serious Called my mom today

[junebug]

We were talking about this like blind date thing my uni does and I was like "yeah I just am not really interested in dating right now" and my mom said "didn't you say you weren't going to date in highschool because you were just gonna date in college?"
...

how do I tell her

 

[Xx_Sh4tteredHe4rt_xX]

We were talking about this like blind date thing my uni does and I was like "yeah I just am not really interested in dating right now" and my mom said "didn't you say you weren't going to date in highschool because you were just gonna date in college?"
...

hi mom

 

[junebug]

hi mom

Hi

 

[rand anon]

mirin

My parents never cared if I dated or anything but also never asked me about it or anything, guess they already knew I hve subhuman smv jfl

My mom annoys me about it now that I’m unc though, idk why she thinks things would change automatically just because I’m older lol

 

[junebug]

mirin

My parents never cared if I dated or anything but also never asked me about it or anything, guess they already knew I hve subhuman smv jfl

My mom annoys me about it now that I’m unc though, idk why she thinks things would change automatically just because I’m older lol

Yeah idk how to tell her I barely even have friends

Like I have a few but I just kinda spend my time alone and I like it like that (most of the time)

 

[rand anon]

Yeah idk how to tell her I barely even have friends

Like I have a few but I just kinda spend my time alone and I like it like that (most of the time)

I mean if she asks u directly why not just tell her how it is? As long as ur happy that way she prob wouldn’t mind or be worried or anything. My folks know I don’t rly hve any friends but I just let them assume I’m an introvert lol

 

[junebug]

I mean if she asks u directly why not just tell her how it is? As long as ur happy that way she prob wouldn’t mind or be worried or anything. My folks know I don’t rly hve any friends but I just let them assume I’m an introvert lol

My mom wouldn't get it. She used to be a cheerleader and had a bunch of boyfriends in highschool, she can't comprehend why I don't want to have many friends or struggle to date anyone

 

[Deleted Member 98072]

We were talking about this like blind date thing my uni does and I was like "yeah I just am not really interested in dating right now" and my mom said "didn't you say you weren't going to date in highschool because you were just gonna date in college?"
...

how do I tell her

My mom has gotten to the point where she suggested I try dating apps

 

[junebug]

My mom has gotten to the point where she suggested I try dating apps

I'm so sorry for your loss
I'm lowkey mentalcel so I don't think she'd request dating apps, finding someone isn't really the issue, I just need to find someone who will tolerate my many quirks and shit personality and shit tastes

 

[Deleted Member 98072]

I'm so sorry for your loss
I'm lowkey mentalcel so I don't think she'd request dating apps, finding someone isn't really the issue, I just need to find someone who will tolerate my many quirks and shit personality and shit tastes

For me the issue is I just don’t talk to people irl
I just sit on a bench outside during time between classes
That’s why I’m grassenjoyer

 

[junebug]

For me the issue is I just don’t talk to people irl
I just sit on a bench outside during time between classes
That’s why I’m grassenjoyer

I try to talk to people I just don't really like it that much

 

[Deleted Member 98072]

I try to talk to people I just don't really like it that much

I mean I don’t like it either but there’s some people I can tolerate about certain topics
To be honest I don’t know who I am as a person

 

[junebug]

I mean I don’t like it either but there’s some people I can tolerate about certain topics
To be honest I don’t know who I am as a person

Yeah that's fair

Someday I want to get married, but I have it in my head that I'm impossible to love because there's so much wrong with me. I don't know if I can be who I need to be.

 

[rand anon]

My mom wouldn't get it. She used to be a cheerleader and had a bunch of boyfriends in highschool, she can't comprehend why I don't want to have many friends or struggle to date anyone

Well if she asks u directly I’d just tell her the truth and then if still can’t wrap her head around it then yeah just lash out

true evaaaaa

 

[Deleted Member 98072]

Yeah that's fair

Someday I want to get married, but I have it in my head that I'm impossible to love because there's so much wrong with me. I don't know if I can be who I need to be.

Same for me
I can’t really see myself being with someone
But there must be some change in store for both of us
I could feel my life beginning to change not long ago, or maybe my brain chemistry but idk

 

[junebug]

Same for me
I can’t really see myself being with someone
But there must be some change in store for both of us
I could feel my life beginning to change not long ago, or maybe my brain chemistry but idk

Maybe once my frontal lobe develops.

I had a guy obsessed with me back in highschool to the point of stalking but when I told him I liked him multiple times over a year and a half he would never reciprocate. I find it really sad that even people obsessed with me can't find me worth keeping, I don't trust anyone

 

[Deleted Member 98072]

Maybe once my frontal lobe develops.

I had a guy obsessed with me back in highschool to the point of stalking but when I told him I liked him multiple times over a year and a half he would never reciprocate. I find it really sad that even people obsessed with me can't find me worth keeping, I don't trust anyone

Odd story I’m not gonna lie
Why he even stalking you if he didn’t like u
I’m kinda the opposite tho, I’m very trusting to even people I just meet (I think)
But I think it’s always pretty one sided and I can just tell they don’t like me that much
Like i made 2 friends at university in my first year and one of them just disappeared from my uni without telling me much

 

[junebug]

Odd story I’m not gonna lie
Why he even stalking you if he didn’t like u

I wish I knew lmao

I’m kinda the opposite tho, I’m very trusting to even people I just meet (I think)
But I think it’s always pretty one sided and I can just tell they don’t like me that much

This used to be me. I kinda just kept getting double crossed and I became a lot more closed off especially after the aforementioned stalker guy.

Like i made 2 friends at university in my first year and one of them just disappeared from my uni without telling me much

Aww man

 

[Deleted Member 98072]

This used to be me. I kinda just kept getting double crossed and I became a lot more closed off especially after the aforementioned stalker guy.

This made me think
I feel like I am not who I say I am
My perception of myself is always incorrect and I’m always contradicting my own thoughts

 

[junebug]

This made me think
I feel like I am not who I say I am
My perception of myself is always incorrect and I’m always contradicting my own thoughts

I get that, I don't really have a solid sense of identity. I'm awful but I'm nice, I'm kind but I'm cruel, I'm too forgiving and yet I'm too quick to cut people off. Maybe we're not meant to fit in boxes but why does it seem like other people do so easily?

 

[Deleted Member 98072]

I get that, I don't really have a solid sense of identity. I'm awful but I'm nice, I'm kind but I'm cruel, I'm too forgiving and yet I'm too quick to cut people off. Maybe we're not meant to fit in boxes but why does it seem like other people do so easily?

Me forreal
I think I have become more kind recently
I have begun to appreciate life more
I treat insects with the same respect that I would a human
But yeah, the reason it actually made me think is because I have cut off a lot of people and it’s funny you said that

 

[junebug]

Me forreal
I think I have become more kind recently
I have begun to appreciate life more
I treat insects with the same respect that I would a human
But yeah, the reason it actually made me think is because I have cut off a lot of people and it’s funny you said that

I think it's because I confuse my thoughts with my actions a lot. I want to do things that hurt me but I don't. I think unkind things but I say nice things out loud. I get thoughts telling me to hurt other people but I would never do that. I get thoughts that tell me to forgive other people and let myself be walked on, but I avoid it now.

 

[Deleted Member 98072]

I think it's because I confuse my thoughts with my actions a lot. I want to do things that hurt me but I don't. I think unkind things but I say nice things out loud. I get thoughts telling me to hurt other people but I would never do that. I get thoughts that tell me to forgive other people and let myself be walked on, but I avoid it now.

I think it’s very normal to have those thoughts tbh
Like mine can be kinda bad or disgusting and I get the urge to but I’d never actually act on it
This sounds really bad like out of context but yeah
I guess it’s the same for me about how your previous actions and current thoughts may not align, but hindsight is always 20/20

 

[junebug]

I think it’s very normal to have those thoughts tbh
Like mine can be kinda bad or disgusting and I get the urge to but I’d never actually act on it
This sounds really bad like out of context but yeah
I guess it’s the same for me about how your previous actions and current thoughts may not align, but hindsight is always 20/20

As long as I keep being kind and patient I'll be okay. I think my main problem is being too gentle with people that have harmful intentions, I have to be firm sometimes but I hate being mean to other people or hurting them even if it's to save me from future disaster.

 

[Deleted Member 98072]

As long as I keep being kind and patient I'll be okay. I think my main problem is being too gentle with people that have harmful intentions, I have to be firm sometimes but I hate being mean to other people or hurting them even if it's to save me from future disaster.

That’s one thing I have no issue with actually
I like to be rude or mean to someone who is not acting in my best interest
I don’t have much shame in the things that I do

 

[junebug]

That’s one thing I have no issue with actually
I like to be rude or mean to someone who is not acting in my best interest
I don’t have much shame in the things that I do

I think the only reason I got approached when I was younger was because I was ultra-kind to everyone of all walks of life and sometimes that looked like flirting. So I need to tone down my kindness.

Since discovering "blackpill" ideology I realize the subconscious conclusions we make about others, and I make a genuine effort to treat everyone with equal kindness. But I will  never go back to the time where I was borderline flirting everywhere because I was giving so much of my emotional energy to everyone. It was so embarrassing how trusting I was in everyone and how much I sacrificed myself to make others happy.

 

[Deleted Member 98072]

Since discovering "blackpill" ideology

Welcome to bp

I think the only reason I got approached when I was younger was because I was ultra-kind to everyone of all walks of life and sometimes that looked like flirting. So I need to tone down my kindness.

When I was a kid I was such a jester
I tried to ask a girl for her phone number in 5th grade and it might be the worst experience of my life looking back

But honestly looking back I had better relationships with girls in elementary school than I do now LOL

 

[junebug]

Welcome to bp

Welcome to bp braddar

When I was a kid I was such a jester
I tried to ask a girl for her phone number in 5th grade and it might be the worst experience of my life looking back

But honestly looking back I had better relationships with girls in elementary school than I do now LOL

I was an emotional dumpster in middle school I'm being so serious. It was awful. The second I set boundaries for myself, most of my friends left me. I still occasionally let people vent to me, but if it becomes a problem or they get overly attached I cut them off.

Another funny story: I let someone vent to me for MONTHS, he would post suicidal instagram stories constantly and I'd comfort him sometimes when I saw them. Turns out I was the only person that could view the stories since he hid them from everyone else. I was infuriated and for some reason he blocked me after. Good riddance. I have never been so mad at another guy my age.

He was very short, <5'5 if I had to guess, and not exactly conventionally attractive, so he got one crumb of female attention and clung onto it like a motherfucker. I remember him getting extremely jealous when I was hanging out with other people, and I felt bad that he didn't have a lot of other people to talk to, but he had a huge dependence on me that dating him would have only worsened. So I'm glad to have let him go. I hope he got the help he needs.

 

[Deleted Member 98072]

I was an emotional dumpster in middle school I'm being so serious. It was awful. The second I set boundaries for myself, most of my friends left me. I still occasionally let people vent to me, but if it becomes a problem or they get overly attached I cut them off.

Do you remember a lot of middle school? I don’t really have any memories from back then. But I also just didn’t talk like every single day so maybe I just like got rid of the memories.
That’s interesting tho, but now that I think about it I think I did exactly that to someone.

Another funny story: I let someone vent to me for MONTHS, he would post suicidal instagram stories constantly and I'd comfort him sometimes when I saw them. Turns out I was the only person that could view the stories since he hid them from everyone else. I was infuriated and for some reason he blocked me after. Good riddance. I have never been so mad at another guy my age.

He was very short, <5'5 if I had to guess, and not exactly conventionally attractive, so he got one crumb of female attention and clung onto it like a motherfucker. I remember him getting extremely jealous when I was hanging out with other people, and I felt bad that he didn't have a lot of other people to talk to, but he had a huge dependence on me that dating him would have only worsened. So I'm glad to have let him go. I hope he got the help he needs.

Lmao the stories is actually so weird
Lowkey I kinda get it though some mfs just get 0 attention from other people

Probably the best that you cut him off though I did the same thing to some girl that liked me

 

[junebug]

Do you remember a lot of middle school? I don’t really have any memories from back then. But I also just didn’t talk like every single day so maybe I just like got rid of the memories.
That’s interesting tho, but now that I think about it I think I did exactly that to someone.

I don't remember a lot of when COVID started (6th grade for me iirc) because I was coping hard through video games. The memories start coming back at around 8th grade where I was a worthless anime dweeb.

Lmao the stories is actually so weird
Lowkey I kinda get it though some mfs just get 0 attention from other people

I try to be kind to people even more so if they don't often get attention from people, love heals everything. But it's very easy for those kinds of people to cling to you and not let go.

Probably the best that you cut him off though I did the same thing to some girl that liked me

It's necessary. They need to learn. Being a clingy adult has horrible outcomes.

 

[Deleted Member 98072]

I don't remember a lot of when COVID started (6th grade for me iirc) because I was coping hard through video games. The memories start coming back at around 8th grade where I was a worthless anime dweeb.

Nah for me even before covid I don’t really remember much

It's necessary. They need to learn. Being a clingy adult has horrible outcomes.

I hope this will not be me but it might

 

[junebug]

Nah for me even before covid I don’t really remember much

I remember being a child. It was really nice.

I hope this will not be me but it might

When you're communicating with another person, put yourself in their shoes. That's what I do. I have to kinda dial up the cruel though.

 

[Deleted Member 98072]

I remember being a child. It was really nice.

Yeah actually I remember more from before I moved I guess
Like I remember a lot from then now that I think about it
As soon as I moved states new memories stopped sticking

When you're communicating with another person, put yourself in their shoes. That's what I do. I have to kinda dial up the cruel though.

I’m very bad at this

 

[junebug]

Yeah actually I remember more from before I moved I guess
Like I remember a lot from then now that I think about it
As soon as I moved states new memories stopped sticking

I’m very bad at this

It's an acquired skill, but I think you can do it.

 

[ermhilol]

blind dating = college trying to combat hypergamy

 

[junebug]

blind dating = college trying to combat hypergamy

Yeah
Not that I care what my date looks like but I'm just not interested
Too much effort to make an emotionak connection

 

[junebug]

blind dating = college trying to combat hypergamy

Yeah
Not that I care what my date looks like but I'm just not interested
Too much effort to make an emotionak connection