Comforting people

[Twink poet]

Has got to be the most draining thing ever. It’s such a buzzkill, especially when you’re finally feeling decent and shiet. Sounds hella selfish, but Id much rather choose my temporary happiness over your temporary sadness, but that’s easier said than done.

I’ve noticed that I’ve slowly become more insensitive and antisocial which is definitely an issue that I need to work on.

Earlier today, had a friend tell me about their uncle’s death, and I just stood there not knowing how and what to say… do I distract them or do I sit in silence and grieve with them? I was legit conflicted whether to ask if our plans are still on for tomorrow or forget that shit completely.

 

[Nenestar]

I wouldn't get that sad over my uncles death. Yeah, would be kinda hard to show compassion, ngl

 

[Twink poet]

I wouldn't get that sad over my uncles death. Yeah, would be kinda hard to show compassion, ngl

Pretty much. I didn’t grow up in a tight knit family, wouldn’t know how that shit feels jfl. My brain chooses the most random moments to be compassionate tbh

 

[Nenestar]

Pretty much. I didn’t grow up in a tight knit family, wouldn’t know how that shit feels jfl. My brain chooses the most random moments to be compassionate tbh

Yeah, I'd understand if his family died or something, or if he was a she.

Being compassionate to a guy just seems weird.

 

[Twink poet]

Yeah, I'd understand if his family died or something, or if he was a she.

Being compassionate to a guy just seems weird.

Nah, gender doesn’t matter to me. Not sure what triggers it, but I find myself being hostile and insensitive towards people that I really care about.

 

[gooning2u67]

Has got to be the most draining thing ever. It’s such a buzzkill, especially when you’re finally feeling decent and shiet. Sounds hella selfish, but Id much rather choose my temporary happiness over your temporary sadness, but that’s easier said than done.

I’ve noticed that I’ve slowly become more insensitive and antisocial which is definitely an issue that I need to work on.

Earlier today, had a friend tell me about their uncle’s death, and I just stood there not knowing how and what to say… do I distract them or do I sit in silence and grieve with them? I was legit conflicted whether to ask if our plans are still on for tomorrow or forget that shit completely.

Yeah its awkward asf

 

[Nenestar]

Nah, gender doesn’t matter to me. Not sure what triggers it, but I find myself being hostile and insensitive towards people that I really care about.

Might be that you don't feel comfortable being open to them, and when they're it feels "illegal."

Probably not, just a random thought that popped in my head.

 

[Deleted Member 109924]

Has got to be the most draining thing ever. It’s such a buzzkill, especially when you’re finally feeling decent and shiet. Sounds hella selfish, but Id much rather choose my temporary happiness over your temporary sadness, but that’s easier said than done.

I’ve noticed that I’ve slowly become more insensitive and antisocial which is definitely an issue that I need to work on.

Earlier today, had a friend tell me about their uncle’s death, and I just stood there not knowing how and what to say… do I distract them or do I sit in silence and grieve with them? I was legit conflicted whether to ask if our plans are still on for tomorrow or forget that shit completely.

Js say like “I’m sorry about that.” It’s hard to feel bad for someone not directly related to you in any way and it’s perfectly normal. It’s also okay to not want to hear people’s vents and you’re allowed to express that and they should respect your boundaries.

 

[Twink poet]

Js say like “I’m sorry about that.” It’s hard to feel bad for someone not directly related to you in any way and it’s perfectly normal. It’s also okay to not want to hear people’s vents and you’re allowed to express that and they should respect your boundaries.

That’s social suicide

 

[Deleted Member 109924]

Why’d u jfl me, n****r. I was helping ur sorry ass out

 

[Twink poet]

Why’d u jfl me, n****r. I was helping ur sorry ass out

Appreciate it, but telling people to not vent to you is insane

 

[Deleted Member 109924]

Appreciate it, but telling people to not vent to you is insane

Good u think that way but ur doing a favor by listening to them

 

[pompompurino]

i think it’s hard for some people. not everyone is naturally comforting, and that’s okay. we’re not all wired to know exactly what to say in those moments. but sometimes, just being there, even if you don’t say much, is more meaningful than trying to find the perfect words. presence alone can be a form of support.

 

[Deleted Member 109924]

i think it’s hard for some people. not everyone is naturally comforting, and that’s okay. we’re not all wired to know exactly what to say in those moments. but sometimes, just being there, even if you don’t say much, is more meaningful than trying to find the perfect words. presence alone can be a form of support.

how poetic. hope ur day gets better

 

[pompompurino]

how poetic. hope ur day gets better

me too lol im feeling lots of limerence for a person
not too intense but its the only way to describe it

 

[Deleted Member 60441]

One of the best forms of comfort is usefulness

 

[Twink poet]

One of the best forms of comfort is usefulness

That could mean anything… people’s needs differ from person to person and from time to time.

 

[Deleted Member 60441]

That could mean anything… people’s needs differ from person to person and from time to time.

hell naww, another emotional reply