Serious Controversial Relationship Dynamic

[Deleted Member 110363]

Is it wrong for me to want a man who guides me—someone who tells me what to wear, how to do my hair and makeup, and what is good or bad to eat? I want someone who teaches me things I would have never known without him, who doesn’t belittle me but explains things patiently instead. I also want someone who helps me with things I should be able to do myself, like bathing, tying my shoes, or getting dressed. At the same time, I still want to be independent in some ways

 

[zero]

why is this controversial?

 

[mjölk]

Is it wrong for me to want a man who guides me—someone who tells me what to wear, how to do my hair and makeup, and what is good or bad to eat? I want someone who teaches me things I would have never known without him, who doesn’t belittle me but explains things patiently instead. I also want someone who helps me with things I should be able to do myself, like bathing, tying my shoes, or getting dressed. At the same time, I still want to be independent in some ways

I wish there was something my boyfriend can do that I cant that isnt realted to physical strength

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

why is this controversial?

Feminism. Some women hold the ideology that you should be independent and shouldn’t need or rely on a man for anything. They believe that reliance creates a power dynamic that can lead to manipulation and control.

 

[Evilemofoid]

I may be the only one on this site who understand girl
Im assuming you grew uo with a single mom? Who taught u men ruin everything? And to stay strong as a woman?

But because you lacked a father you craved men and male centered opinions more than anything

My advice as a girl who's been through this many such other cases, live for you and believe through you, what you think and feel is so true you beautiful goddess, you can love men, evil men. Kind men. Nurturing men, and still love yourself
Fuck I mean im a giant masochist but sm still a known radfem online
Giving into sexual instincts and wants is more self serving than anything, giving whar they want may feel odd but if you are left satisfied baby you win.

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

I wish there was something my boyfriend can do that I cant that isnt realted to physical strength

It’s weird, because usually I’m really competitive, but when it comes to relationships, I prefer that the man is more knowledgeable than I am. It brings a sense of security.

 

[Evilemofoid]

why is this controversial?

Masochism can be fun but its diminishing to the feminist and important agenda

 

[Deleted Member 96719]

I also want someone who helps me with things I should be able to do myself, like bathing, tying my shoes, or getting dressed.

grow up n***a

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

I may be the only one on this site who understand girl
Im assuming you grew uo with a single mom? Who taught u men ruin everything? And to stay strong as a woman?

But because you lacked a father you craved men and male centered opinions more than anything

My advice as a girl who's been through this many such other cases, live for you and believe through you, what you think and feel is so true you beautiful goddess, you can love men, evil men. Kind men. Nurturing men, and still love yourself
Fuck I mean im a giant masochist but sm still a known radfem online
Giving into sexual instincts and wants is more self serving than anything, giving whar they want may feel odd but if you are left satisfied baby you win.

My mom actually often chose men over her own children. Men who were abusive, perverted, and violent. I resented her for it for a long time, and my dad (Who I’ve lived with since the fourth grade) Is aggressive, violent, and emotionally unavailable. I’m scared I’ll turn out like my mom and allow my upbringing to affect the way I allow men to treat me.

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

grow up n***a

Goo goo gaga n***a

 

[Zillophone]

its kind of how is meant to be, women and men are supposed to complement each other

 

[trvecel]

Is it wrong for me to want a man who guides me—someone who tells me what to wear, how to do my hair and makeup, and what is good or bad to eat? I want someone who teaches me things I would have never known without him, who doesn’t belittle me but explains things patiently instead. I also want someone who helps me with things I should be able to do myself, like bathing, tying my shoes, or getting dressed. At the same time, I still want to be independent in some ways

So you wanna date someone who acts like your dad

 

[trvecel]

So you wanna date someone who acts like your dad

Or maybe you don't got one that's y u want ts, checks out if so

 

[Evilemofoid]

My mom actually often chose men over her own children. Men who were abusive, perverted, and violent. I resented her for it for a long time, and my dad (Who I’ve lived with since the fourth grade) Is aggressive, violent, and emotionally unavailable. I’m scared I’ll turn out like my mom and allow my upbringing to affect the way I allow men to treat me.

Same exact situation beat for bear
I cant make any more advice it hurts lol
I know how you feel though
Can I ask something gross but relating so I dont feel too alone
Our mama's our alike finally someone lmao, when she had the new guys over every week, do you remember building maze ass shit through 6our room whenever they come ao thsy couldny talk to you

 

[Zillophone]

I may be the only one on this site who understand girl
Im assuming you grew uo with a single mom? Who taught u men ruin everything? And to stay strong as a woman?

But because you lacked a father you craved men and male centered opinions more than anything

My advice as a girl who's been through this many such other cases, live for you and believe through you, what you think and feel is so true you beautiful goddess, you can love men, evil men. Kind men. Nurturing men, and still love yourself
Fuck I mean im a giant masochist but sm still a known radfem online
Giving into sexual instincts and wants is more self serving than anything, giving whar they want may feel odd but if you are left satisfied baby you win.

not surprised to see this bs

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

So you wanna date someone who acts like your dad

No, the last thing I want is someone who is like my dad.

 

[Aryy]

Is it wrong for me to want a man who guides me—someone who tells me what to wear, how to do my hair and makeup, and what is good or bad to eat? I want someone who teaches me things I would have never known without him, who doesn’t belittle me but explains things patiently instead. I also want someone who helps me with things I should be able to do myself, like bathing, tying my shoes, or getting dressed. At the same time, I still want to be independent in some ways

this is probably fine
wanting someone who belittles you is probably worse

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

Same exact situation beat for bear
I cant make any more advice it hurts lol
I know how you feel though
Can I ask something gross but relating so I dont feel too alone
Our mama's our alike finally someone lmao, when she had the new guys over every week, do you remember building maze ass shit through 6our room whenever they come ao thsy couldny talk to you

Bro I would avoid them, they always tried to talk to me, some even tried to flirt with me (But that’s when I was in my early teens)

 

[Evilemofoid]

not surprised to see this bs

Bruh seriously fuck u

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

Same exact situation beat for bear
I cant make any more advice it hurts lol
I know how you feel though
Can I ask something gross but relating so I dont feel too alone
Our mama's our alike finally someone lmao, when she had the new guys over every week, do you remember building maze ass shit through 6our room whenever they come ao thsy couldny talk to you

They loved to try and play the father figure role, I always hated it.

 

[trvecel]

No, the last thing I want is someone who is like my dad.

So you wanna date someone that has a fatherly figure because you didn't have one growing up? LOL sucks to be you ngl

 

[Aryy]

So you wanna date someone that has a fatherly figure because you didn't have one growing up? LOL sucks to be you ngl

common thing ngl

 

[Zillophone]

Bruh seriously fuck u

nah im also a fatherless dw twin i kinda get it

 

[trvecel]

common thing ngl

Yeye some parents are lowkey shiet

 

[Zillophone]

common thing ngl

So you wanna date someone that has a fatherly figure because you didn't have one growing up? LOL sucks to be you ngl

its like the most common thing nowadays

 

[Evilemofoid]

nah im also a fatherless dw twin i kinda get it

Bruh its still rude asf

 

[Zillophone]

Bruh its still rude asf

sorry it was so honest of you i got caught off guard, ily

 

[trvecel]

its like the most common thing nowadays

sucks to be them LOL

 

[foidslayer]

why is this controversial?

western brainwash

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

So you wanna date someone that has a fatherly figure because you didn't have one growing up? LOL sucks to be you ngl

I literally live with my dad.

 

[imSub5]

Is it wrong for me to want a man who guides me—someone who tells me what to wear, how to do my hair and makeup, and what is good or bad to eat? I want someone who teaches me things I would have never known without him, who doesn’t belittle me but explains things patiently instead. I also want someone who helps me with things I should be able to do myself, like bathing, tying my shoes, or getting dressed. At the same time, I still want to be independent in some ways

Dommy daddy

 

[trvecel]

I literally live with my dad.

Yeah but I'm assuming he's a bad parent since you described your type as a fatherly figure

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

Yeye some parents are lowkey shiet

Right, so why blame the child who’s a victim of the abuse, and hasn’t done anything wrong, and not the parent who chose to have the child and actively decides to treat them poorly?

 

[Zillophone]

sucks to be them LOL

for shorts yes but its cool as long as you realize what kind of person would be the better for you

 

[imSub5]

Is it wrong for me to want a man who guides me—someone who tells me what to wear, how to do my hair and makeup, and what is good or bad to eat? I want someone who teaches me things I would have never known without him, who doesn’t belittle me but explains things patiently instead. I also want someone who helps me with things I should be able to do myself, like bathing, tying my shoes, or getting dressed. At the same time, I still want to be independent in some ways

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

Yeah but I'm assuming he's a bad parent since you described your type as a fatherly figure

He is, and it’s not my fault.

 

[trvecel]

Right, so why blame the child who’s a victim of the abuse, and hasn’t done anything wrong, and not the parent who chose to have the child and actively decides to treat them poorly?

I never blamed anyone I'm jus saying sucks to be you lol

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

I never blamed anyone I'm jus saying sucks to be you lol

If I could, it’d reach through this screen and give you a hug.

 

[Aryy]

If I could, it’d reach through this screen and give you a hug.

this is the new method @trueceljester

 

[Zillophone]

If I could, it’d reach through this screen and give you a hug.

you would not say that if you saw his face tbh

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

you would not say that if you saw his face tbh

Clearly he has some underlying mental disability or trauma, he needs a hug.

 

[Aryy]

mental disability or trauma

hes somalian too

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

you would not say that if you saw his face tbh

Only a chopped manlet would complain abt a girl wanting a dominant man

 

[Zillophone]

Clearly he has some underlying mental disability or trauma, he needs a hug.

softhearted n***a but this aint disney bro

 

[trvecel]

you would not say that if you saw his face tbh

Those who have that level 100 opsec nobody saw my face ong

 

[trvecel]

Clearly he has some underlying mental disability or trauma, he needs a hug.

Tales from the poorest slums of Pakistan

 

[Aryy]

Those who have that level 100 opsec nobody saw my face ong

narrow palate

 

[Deleted Member 110363]

Those who have that level 100 opsec nobody saw my face ong

It’s okay, we don’t wanna see it ur good bru

 

[trvecel]

narrow palate

Those who know everything I've said on this forum was a detrace

 

[Aryy]

Those who know everything I've said on this forum was a detrace

so ur secretly a htn fooling us