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Take this post with a grain of salt, I’ve only had sex with 1 girl and gotten head from 2. Both of them were complete virgins. I don’t think the small sample size should really affect this tho.
Sex doesn’t feel good to me at all. It just feels like I’m sliding my dick in and out of something, but it’s not sexually gratifying. I’ve tried both condom and no condom, and while on no fap. Initially I didn’t really understand why this kept happening, and coincidentally my ex and I mutually split up a few months after we first started having sex, so I decided to go no fap cus I thought that was the issue (even when I watched porn it wasn’t that often, maybe 3/4 days a week). We had sex again 6 months after, and it felt exactly the same. If anything it was harder for me to cum this time. This brings me to my other point, idk if I’m just cooked or something but I can never cum from a girl, I have to jerk off (even on no fap).
I was seeing my ex here and there, but also started talking to another girl and eventually got head from her at the theater. Unlike my ex who needed to take breaks during head, she never needed to. Yet I still didn’t feel much gratification and wasn’t close to cumming after 10 min. This was after 6 months of no fap. Only difference I noticed was that my load was massive, but that’s to be expected. There was minimal change in sexual gratification.
My theory on why this is happening isn’t fully fleshed out but it involves me not being attracted to my ex (we broke up cus she pseudo cheated on me by kissing a guy as a joke) and the lights being off when I got head from the other girl, which gave me no visual stimulation. I think I honestly get more gratification from the validation that I can have sex with a girl/the visual aspect of looking at a girl naked.
On the other hand, I can never get enough of the oxytocin release from hugging/cuddling. Perhaps this has something to do with the fact I wasn’t really attracted to the girls I was intimate with, but I genuinely long for cuddles/hugs far more than physical intimacy.
Thoughts?
Sex doesn’t feel good to me at all. It just feels like I’m sliding my dick in and out of something, but it’s not sexually gratifying. I’ve tried both condom and no condom, and while on no fap. Initially I didn’t really understand why this kept happening, and coincidentally my ex and I mutually split up a few months after we first started having sex, so I decided to go no fap cus I thought that was the issue (even when I watched porn it wasn’t that often, maybe 3/4 days a week). We had sex again 6 months after, and it felt exactly the same. If anything it was harder for me to cum this time. This brings me to my other point, idk if I’m just cooked or something but I can never cum from a girl, I have to jerk off (even on no fap).
I was seeing my ex here and there, but also started talking to another girl and eventually got head from her at the theater. Unlike my ex who needed to take breaks during head, she never needed to. Yet I still didn’t feel much gratification and wasn’t close to cumming after 10 min. This was after 6 months of no fap. Only difference I noticed was that my load was massive, but that’s to be expected. There was minimal change in sexual gratification.
My theory on why this is happening isn’t fully fleshed out but it involves me not being attracted to my ex (we broke up cus she pseudo cheated on me by kissing a guy as a joke) and the lights being off when I got head from the other girl, which gave me no visual stimulation. I think I honestly get more gratification from the validation that I can have sex with a girl/the visual aspect of looking at a girl naked.
On the other hand, I can never get enough of the oxytocin release from hugging/cuddling. Perhaps this has something to do with the fact I wasn’t really attracted to the girls I was intimate with, but I genuinely long for cuddles/hugs far more than physical intimacy.
Thoughts?