Rage Dad demanding all my money + angry I bought food for the house. Need advice (Am I in the wrong?)

[sullyy]

Bro’s I am fuming right now. Need some outside perspective because my blood is boiling.

I’m 19M. I recently made 16k. I gave my dad 5k of it. I hid the remaining 11k because I need it for my own shit (looksmaxxing supplies, supplements, etc.).

Today I went out to buy some looksmaxxing stuff (which I hide from them obviously). On the way home, I bought 1kg of meat so my mom could cook for the whole family. I thought I was doing a good thing.

Nope. My dad gets pissed. He starts saying nobody in the house including my siblings is eating that meat, and my mom will only cook it for me. He’s angry, demanding to know where the money came from to buy the meat, and now he’s demanding I give him MORE money.

I just lied and said I made a little bit of money last night to cover it. But he’s going on a huge rant about how because I live in his house, it’s my "duty" to give him ALL the money I make. To make it worse, my mom is low IQ and sides with him no matter what he says.

I got so pissed I just told him I won’t buy shit for the house again.

Honestly what do I even do here? Am I in the wrong for hiding my money and buying food? Or is this just tyrant behavior? How do you deal with parents who think they own you and your finances at 19? Any advice on how to navigate this without getting my 11k snatched?

 

[sullyy]

bump

 

[draftLexy]

Cant you move out if your earning so much money?

 

[Br4va]

I’m genuinely so sorry

 

[Br4va]

do you have your own bank accounts where you can put your money in ?

 

[sullyy]

Cant you move out if your earning so much money?

I'm scared to move out on my own cus i live in a third world country its not safe to live, I might get everything stolen or robbed or sm shit im just a manchild its sad but i can't do shit on my own cus i was raised like that

 

[sullyy]

do you have your own bank accounts where you can put your money in ?

yes the remaining 11k is in my own account

 

[Br4va]

yes the remaining 11k is in my own account

I feel like you should consider moving out

OR

Talking with your dad because his mindset is geniunely so stupid. You worked for it and not him. He brought you to life despite you never asking for that so him giving you shelter should be a minimum.

But you are 19 so

 

[draftLexy]

I'm scared to move out on my own cus i live in a third world country its not safe to live, I might get everything stolen or robbed or sm shit im just a manchild its sad but i can't do shit on my own cus i was raised like that

If your young and you live in a shit country
Maybe try studying abroad?
I mean you have the money and could live in a better country

 

[mcmentalonthemic]

How did you make your money?

If you truly have 11k, move out, you are 19. Rent is 1.5k on small apartments in big cities. [unless you live in a shithole like new york]

You could move into an apartment and pay for 4 months in advance, no landlord would say no to that. And you will have some of the rest for groceries.

If you say no, I do not want to move out. I would rather live with my parents and keep making money, then HIDE IT

do not give it to him, hide it. put it into a crypto account and memorize the seed phrase, hide it in your bank account and disable your card except in 1 minute intervals when you are spending something. Hide it in cash in a location only you know. Put it in a storage unit, whatever. Trust me.

 

[esoteric]

you know your dad best either wait for it to cool off or sacrifice an extra 500-1k and apologize say thats the rest of it to keep the peace

 

[Br4va]

Ethnic mindset is deadass so braindead

 

[sullyy]

I feel like you should consider moving out

OR

Talking with your dad because his mindset is geniunely so stupid. You worked for it and not him. He brought you to life despite you never asking for that so him giving you shelter should be a minimum.

But you are 19 so

Ethnic mindset is deadass so braindead

you know your dad best either wait for it to cool off or sacrifice an extra 500-1k and apologize say thats the rest of it to keep the peace

Trying to talk logic with him is pointless, he only understands tyranny. Moving out is the only option, I'm just quietly stacking cash until I can ghost. The most brutal part is I literally played the perfect obedient son my whole life. No friends, no drugs or alco, no gf, never been in a fight. I stay in the house all day, wear the clothes he bought me, and did everything he asked. And it still means nothing. Obeying doesn't save you from ethnic parents, it just makes you an easier target.

 

[esoteric]

Trying to talk logic with him is pointless, he only understands tyranny. Moving out is the only option, I'm just quietly stacking cash until I can ghost. The most brutal part is I literally played the perfect obedient son my whole life. No friends, no drugs or alco, no gf, never been in a fight. I stay in the house all day, wear the clothes he bought me, and did everything he asked. And it still means nothing. Obeying doesn't save you from ethnic parents, it just makes you an easier target.

im so sorry

 

[Br4va]

Trying to talk logic with him is pointless, he only understands tyranny. Moving out is the only option, I'm just quietly stacking cash until I can ghost. The most brutal part is I literally played the perfect obedient son my whole life. No friends, no drugs or alco, no gf, never been in a fight. I stay in the house all day, wear the clothes he bought me, and did everything he asked. And it still means nothing. Obeying doesn't save you from ethnic parents, it just makes you an easier target.

Damn I can relate to you bro this sucks

I think your idea is good. But if you say that it’s truly that hard to move out in your country and that it’s unsafe

You will have to be careful

 

[sullyy]

How did you make your money?

If you truly have 11k, move out, you are 19. Rent is 1.5k on small apartments in big cities. [unless you live in a shithole like new york]

You could move into an apartment and pay for 4 months in advance, no landlord would say no to that. And you will have some of the rest for groceries.

If you say no, I do not want to move out. I would rather live with my parents and keep making money, then HIDE IT

do not give it to him, hide it. put it into a crypto account and memorize the seed phrase, hide it in your bank account and disable your card except in 1 minute intervals when you are spending something. Hide it in cash in a location only you know. Put it in a storage unit, whatever. Trust me.

Made it doing freelance jobs online.


Moving out is the ultimate goal. 11k is enough to get out, but I need to make sure I have stable income coming in so I don't end up on the street in 6 months yk.


The hiding advice is good im gonna put it in a place he can never physically reach or access. He's never getting another dime from me

 

[zillophone]

that sucks so much tbh even made ME angry