do women sometimes date because of the validation

[raspadinha]

like is it likely a girl will date a guy she doesn’t find that much attractive just because he validates her and give her love?

 

[raspadinha]

lately my threads have been flopping, i’d appreciate if i had this one answered because i’m trying to be more knowledgeable about such things for my own good

 

[Genetics]

Yes, and this is very common.

 

[raspadinha]

Yes, and this is very common.

how do i know the key differences on whether she loves me or loves the fact i love her

 

[Genetics]

how do i know the key differences on whether she loves me or loves the fact i love her

Look out for narcissistic tendencies.

 

[raspadinha]

Look out for narcissistic tendencies.

today i was in bed with her and i was overthinking lately, so i kinda was colder to her, kinda leaned back when she came to give me kisses and she started crying asking if i don’t find her pretty anymore and if i don’t love her etc

is this a red flag on her end?

 

[Schizotypalcel]

usually it's a waiting game of how you feel in the relationship.
Responses seem like replies all the time instead of acknowledgment, you validate them and you feel that they can't keep up with showing bits of it to you. Constant questioning of particular distance that you can't seem to understand is probably another key to it.

Most likely if you were to bring it up they would play victim and that is probably when you throw that relationship away because it's a selfish mindset. If they play the role of victim when it's a talk about both of you likely they aren't probably willing to grow or fix that behavior.

 

[faithful]

today i was in bed with her and i was overthinking lately, so i kinda was colder to her, kinda leaned back when she came to give me kisses and she started crying asking if i don’t find her pretty anymore and if i don’t love her etc

is this a red flag on her end?

No just probably has self esteem issues

 

[Schizotypalcel]

is this a red flag on her end?

Yes, you are mood switching for your own insecurities when you could talk about them and have her understand these issues instead of straining her and yourself.

 

[raspadinha]

Yes, you are mood switching for your own insecurities when you could talk about them and have her understand these issues instead of straining her and yourself.

i’m asking if it’s a red flag on her end

the fact she was asking if i still find her attractive and stuff, i already know what i’m doing is wrong but i’m naturally avoidant i really can’t help it so it doesn’t even matter

 

[Schizotypalcel]

the fact she was asking if i still find her attractive and stuff, i already know what i’m doing is wrong but i’m naturally avoidant i really can’t help it so it doesn’t even matter

Well this came up only because you showed withdrawal.
It's not a red flag on her end if you are making her feel small

 

[Genetics]

today i was in bed with her and i was overthinking lately, so i kinda was colder to her, kinda leaned back when she came to give me kisses and she started crying asking if i don’t find her pretty anymore and if i don’t love her etc

is this a red flag on her end?

It could be a red flag or it couldn't. A pattern says a lot more than one instance, but if you notice that these behaviors are frequent then it's definitely a red flag.

 

[Genieinabottle]

like is it likely a girl will date a guy she doesn’t find that much attractive just because he validates her and give her love?

Yes