Do you struggle with interacting with the opposite gender?

[dimorph.ic]

Very much
I don't think I'm good at texting women

Whatt thats the easiest part

 

[chels_slayer]

Why so

It’s the first contact or approaching that pushes me back. Idk how to approach or anything. So I just overthink it, end up never going up and regretting it

 

[submissivechud]

Whatt thats the easiest part

Maybe
I dunno
Hopefully I'm good at texting you never know

 

[hghosttttt]

They do but looks aren’t everything and its true

the girls i talk to (which isnt a lot) i think have said they think im a cool person

the reason im not in a relationship with them though is because of my looks

 

[dimorph.ic]

It’s the first contact or approaching that pushes me back. Idk how to approach or anything. So I just overthink it, end up never going up and regretting it

As i said without thinking walkup and immediately compliment her its fight or flight A you continue and possibly bag a woman B you make yourself stupid. I choose a every time

 

[Kaari]

Ca

casually explained why my n my ex didn’t work she couldn’t deal with it anymore i was making her suffer really all this dumb stuff she tried to neglect all my stupid acts for 3 years guess she just got tired of it man i was genuinely an idiot for so long i controlled her really

I’ve done some horrible things to women and got away with it, I’m deeply ashamed of my past actions.

Some women I didn’t realise I actually loved them until they were gone, but again I was too unstable at that point to really make my mind up.

All human beings are deserving of compassion and warmth, don’t cut people who didn’t make you bleed.

 

[chels_slayer]

It’s the first contact or approaching that pushes me back. Idk how to approach or anything. So I just overthink it, end up never going up and regretting it

And I don’t try to go up to the baddest bitches I see. I mostly like the girls that look nice and are still pretty. If they are smiley, having a good time…

 

[dimorph.ic]

the girls i talk to (which isnt a lot) i think have said they think im a cool person

the reason im not in a relationship with them though is because of my looks

Looks play a part def not everything tho

 

[hghosttttt]

Looks play a part def not everything tho

they like me just not more than friends

 

[Kaari]

Looks play a part def not everything tho

Looks get you in the door but having a good personality and being interesting is truly what holds it together. If you think looks are everything you’ve missed the boat.

Rightly put friend.

 

[dimorph.ic]

I’ve done some horrible things to women and got away with it, I’m deeply ashamed of my past actions.

Some women I didn’t realise I actually loved them until they were gone, but again I was too unstable at that point to really make my mind up.

All human beings are deserving of compassion and warmth, don’t cut people who didn’t make you bleed.

same way i know i hurt her and i fixed it but it was too late she didn’t care about any stupid thing i said she really loved me past all my insecurities and i love that woman till this day we did everything together but i guess i need to let go some day

 

[submissivechud]

Looks get you in the door but having a good personality and being interesting is truly what holds it together. If you think looks are everything you’ve missed the boat.

Rightly put friend.

So when I'm Chad I can't be a jackass?

 

[dimorph.ic]

And I don’t try to go up to the baddest bitches I see. I mostly like the girls that look nice and are still pretty. If they are smiley, having a good time…

shi then keep trying

 

[dimorph.ic]

So when I'm Chad I can't be a jackass?

nah would just be wasting the chad status

 

[chels_slayer]

Looks get you in the door but having a good personality and being interesting is truly what holds it together. If you think looks are everything you’ve missed the boat.

Rightly put friend.

Exactly. Looks is just another preference. The same as personality and connection. It’s necessary, but getting a loving partner or a girl doesn’t depend on just that

 

[Kaari]

same way i know i hurt her and i fixed it but it was too late she didn’t care about any stupid thing i said she really loved me past all my insecurities and i love that woman till this day we did everything together but i guess i need to let go some day

To be brutally honest I know I had to go through the heartbreak I put others through because if I didn’t I would never have learned. It made me realise I can’t just keep womanising to fix my problems.

 

[WishIWasWhite]

Im southern and northern mexican im currently 6’0.5 but i do have apt so idk my final height

your 6 foot and a more white passing race u wouldnt get it

 

[chels_slayer]

Btw I’m taking some screenshots of your guys’ advice. I’ll probably read it during parties and get some courage

 

[dimorph.ic]

your 6 foot and a more white passing race u wouldnt get it

i was just a 5’9 fatass not too long ago trust me i do

 

[rand anon]

Yeah maynnn, idk how to ever escalate things

 

[hghosttttt]

same way i know i hurt her and i fixed it but it was too late she didn’t care about any stupid thing i said she really loved me past all my insecurities and i love that woman till this day we did everything together but i guess i need to let go some day

i hurt her as well though that wasnt my intention at all at the time
i was just jealous cuz she found someone and i still wanted her
to this day i still feel so bad and i would do anything to reverse that
after i apologized to her she said we could still be friends
but i feel like i dont deserve her
and i dont

 

[dimorph.ic]

To be brutally honest I know I had to go through the heartbreak I put others through because if I didn’t I would never have learned. It made me realise I can’t just keep womanising to fix my problems.

this one just hit me the most i been with so many woman but this one hit me so hard she made my life feel worth it

 

[Kaari]

Exactly. Looks is just another preference. The same as personality and connection. It’s necessary, but getting a loving partner or a girl doesn’t depend on just that

I’ve had women who liked me and found me cute even when I was all banged up I didn’t expect would be into me, life isn’t as cut and dry as ‘ok you’re MTN so you’ll be treated as invisible durr durr’.

I understand why people here think like that but simply isn’t representative of real life.

 

[dimorph.ic]

Yeah maynnn, idk how to ever escalate things

Just give a crazy compliment you either embarrass yourself or walk away with a woman

 

[Kaari]

this one just hit me the most i been with so many woman but this one hit me so hard she made my life feel worth it

I’m sorry, I feel you on that one.

 

[dimorph.ic]

I

i hurt her as well though that wasnt my intention at all at the time
i was just jealous cuz she found someone and i still wanted her
to this day i still feel so bad and i would do anything to reverse that
after i apologized to her she said we could still be friends
but i feel like i dont deserve her
and i dont

I miss mine but at the end of the day ik im a bad person and she put up with it for long

 

[Kaari]

Btw I’m taking some screenshots of your guys’ advice. I’ll probably read it during parties and get some courage

By all means. If my advice helped you, I’m very much glad.

 

[rand anon]

Just give a crazy compliment you either embarrass yourself or walk away with a woman

I don’t wanna get thrown in jail or blasted on social media maynnn

 

[dimorph.ic]

I don’t wanna get thrown in jail or blasted on social media maynnn

i do it dw man just say i just thought you were the most beautiful woman i’ve ever seen and i’d like to take you out some time if she doesn’t smile instantly run

 

[Kaari]

I

I miss mine but at the end of the day ik im a bad person and she put up with it for long

Time is a healer, I’m afraid though you will have to suffer and wait. For me I ruminate on them a lot until one day I just forget and don’t remember that I stopped thinking about them.

 

[dimorph.ic]

Time is a healer, I’m afraid though you will have to suffer and wait. For me I ruminate on them a lot until one day I just forget and don’t remember that I stopped thinking about them.

I can’t go without thinking of her she lives so close to me i go by her house everyday its heartbreaking really

 

[Kaari]

I can’t go without thinking of her she lives so close to me i go by her house everyday its heartbreaking really

I’m so sorry, again I very much feel you.

There will be a time you forget though, I promise you will. It does get better, truly.

 

[benny]

no

 

[chels_slayer]

Damm this might be one of the deepest threads I’ve read.

Even though I haven’t spent too much time in the forum

 

[Kaari]

Damm this might be one of the deepest threads I’ve read.

Even though I haven’t spent too much time in the forum

You get sentience here every once in a while, I miss the days when it was more constant.

 

[Redbottomssky]

No because I have htn appeal and I'm from Pakistan

 

[hghosttttt]

I

I miss mine but at the end of the day ik im a bad person and she put up with it for long

same

 

[dimorph.ic]

Damm this might be one of the deepest threads I’ve read.

Even though I haven’t spent too much time in the forum

Opposite gender talk is real. We can all improve in this aspect

 

[hghosttttt]

this one just hit me the most i been with so many woman but this one hit me so hard she made my life feel worth it

this is so real

 

[dimorph.ic]

No because I have htn appeal and I'm from Pakistan

Vrooo htn in pakistann

 

[dimorph.ic]

You get sentience here every once in a while, I miss the days when it was more constant.

Right!! Stop the trolls and alts to bring people down we should all be talking about real deep stuff

 

[hghosttttt]

shes a truly good person and i dont deserve to be with her

 

[dimorph.ic]

this is so real

Truly hurts man we we’re highschool sweethearts

 

[dimorph.ic]

shes a truly good person and i dont deserve to be with her

Idk man but the bible says he who worries about his life is a fool and does not trust in god so i try and let go

 

[Kaari]

Opposite gender talk is real. We can all improve in this aspect

For me it was hard to genuinely learn to speak to women without manipulating them to be honest.

I met a lovely girl though for a bit which I had to stop seeing for personal reasons, ended on good terms though without any hassle and I wish her all the best. She was the only girl where I felt like I could be my true self to be honest, gutted I had to pull away but again she was wonderful and she helped me out a lot.

 

[dimorph.ic]

For me it was hard to genuinely learn to speak to women without manipulating them to be honest.

I met a lovely girl though for a bit which I had to stop seeing for personal reasons, ended on good terms though without any hassle and I wish her all the best. She was the only girl where I felt like I could be my true self to be honest, gutted I had to pull away but again she was wonderful and she helped me out a lot.

Yeah i js have this natural manipulation to me i think its just how i attract woman even though its wrong its somewhat fair yk

 

[Kaari]

Idk man but the bible says he who worries about his life is a fool and does not trust in god so i try and let go

Wise words my friend.

Ironically letting go of my life help me speak to the girl I last spoke to freely as I wasn’t afraid being me and having to pretend to be someone I wasn’t, I could just be me and be free.

 

[chels_slayer]

The only time I’ve reaaaaally liked a girl was in my exchange term in the UK. I never had the courage to take the next step, even though I had the greenest light ever.

 

[chels_slayer]

I just want to love and be loved

 

[dimorph.ic]

Wise words my friend.

Ironically letting go of my life help me speak to the girl I last spoke to freely I wasn’t afraid of not pretending to be someone I wasn’t.

Yep this right be yourself being someone else attracts the person to something thats not truly there. This is why i have success with woman im myself and im not ashamed of who i am