Discussion do you think it's okay to give up on love ?

[verbal]

if you deem yourself as too ugly and basically unlovable from experiences and personal judgment , do you think it's okay to give up on the idea of finding a partner?

 

[submissivechud]

if you deem yourself as too ugly and basically unlovablee from experiences and personal judgment , do you think it's okay to give up on the idea of finding a partner?

never

 

[Ghoultune]

if you deem yourself as too ugly and basically unlovablee from experiences and personal judgment , do you think it's okay to give up on the idea of finding a partner?

Yeah? Why wouldn't I

 

[verbal]

never

why not

 

[1894]

Yah at a certain level of looks either you do something about it or ldar

 

[verbal]

Yah at a certain level of looks either you do something about it or ldar

option 2 sounds much better

 

[Starlet]

why not

we are made for companionship, going your whole LIFE without it is ridiculous

 

[verbal]

we are made for companionship

realistically not everyone , do you not think it could be negative for someone mentally to hold on to this ideal and never reach it ?

 

[Starlet]

realistically not everyone , do you not think it could be negative for someone mentally to hold on to this ideal and never reach it ?

I think at the end of the day everyone can find someone somehow, a lot of ltn’s will get gfs or a wife eventually. even if you’re ugly just find someone else who matches your ugly

 

[giga.mia]

we are made for companionship, going your whole LIFE without it is ridiculous

Almost half of adults live life without marrying, I don’t think it’s the end of the world tbh

 

[verbal]

I think at the end of the day everyone can find someone somehow, a lot of ltn’s will get gfs or a wife eventually. even if you’re ugly just find someone else who matches your ugly

sounds like a forced relationship lol , both parties won't be attracted to each other in this . i don't think forcing companionship for the sake of companionship is good neither . do you think humans can't go through life without a romantic partner ? i feel like this is more of a feminine view of the world

 

[scotfield]

if you deem yourself as too ugly and basically unlovablee from experiences and personal judgment , do you think it's okay to give up on the idea of finding a partner?

Yeah , you have more chance to get rich than this

 

[NoIamHuman]

Even ugly people can find love
People online act like it’s impossible but trust me it happens a lot

It’s not healthy to think so low of yourself

 

[Starlet]

sounds like a forced relationship lol , both parties won't be attracted to each other in this . i don't think forcing companionship for the sake of companionship is good neither .

I’ve seen ugly couples that were happy together personally, but maybe it could be more romantic than sexual. Not having a partner means you’re basically giving up the experience of sex entirely too (unless you get an escort ig but ) but yeah no relationship is better than a relationship where you guys hate each other

do you think humans can't go through life without a romantic partner ? i feel like this is more of a feminine view of the world

There are people who do, and religious people like monks, but I think the loneliness would get to me and to most people. Like as existentialist as it sounds, at the end of the day I basically do view life as empty on a floating rock and other people are what help to feel less alone. Consciousness is what relates us and we share it, otherwise it does seem like suffering

 

[Starlet]

Almost half of adults live life without marrying, I don’t think it’s the end of the world tbh

Less live their whole lives being khhv forever

 

[giga.mia]

sounds like a forced relationship lol , both parties won't be attracted to each other in this . i don't think forcing companionship for the sake of companionship is good neither . do you think humans can't go through life without a romantic partner ? i feel like this is more of a feminine view of the world

Marriage is portrayed like it’s the norm in the media when so many go on to live life without it lol

 

[scotfield]

Marriage is portrayed like it’s the norm in the media when so many go on to live life without it lol

You're talking like you don't have a heart

 

[verbal]

Less live their whole lives being khhv forever

you'd be surprised at how much men die virgins

 

[giga.mia]

You're talking like you don't have a heart

What are u even saying

 

[TonyDr]

if you deem yourself as too ugly and basically unlovable from experiences and personal judgment , do you think it's okay to give up on the idea of finding a partner?

Yes totally fine

Marriage is portrayed like it’s the norm in the media when so many go on to live life without it lol

In medias they push more women being promiscuous and not having a family actually. Marriage is more a tradition/culture among families

 

[scotfield]

What are u even saying

Do you plan to get fillers or surgeries

 

[giga.mia]

In medias they push more women being promiscuous and not having a family actually. Marriage is more a tradition/culture among families

In movies I always see married couples with a nice house two children and a dog
The “promiscuous” lifestyle is shown with men in movies too

 

[TonyDr]

In movies I always see married couples with a nice house two children and a dog

Older movies then
I can start netflix rn and it will be just women hoeing around

 

[meh.guy]

if you deem yourself as too ugly and basically unlovable from experiences and personal judgment , do you think it's okay to give up on the idea of finding a partner?

Yes

 

[giga.mia]

Older movies then
I can start netflix rn and it will be just women hoeing around

Let’s not forget the “I hate my wife” trope that went around in the 2000s. National lampoons every movie this n***a wanted to cheat, married with children, everyone loves Raymond

 

[verbal]

There are people who do, and religious people like monks, but I think the loneliness would get to me and to most people. Like as existentialist as it sounds, at the end of the day I basically do view life as empty on a floating rock and other people are what help to feel less alone. Consciousness is what relates us and we share it, otherwise it does seem like suffering

that would make sense if romantic intimacy / companionship was the the primary source of meaning to a life , i personally don't think so , i think that's something we were taught to be honest and i actually don't think it's positive because it makes your well being dependant on someone else , i think acceptance if you're in a situation where u were just unlucky with your set of genetics is way better because you stop wasting energy and stop mentally torturing yourself about something that has a low probability of happening , yes it CAN happen but it's still not probable , it's like playing the lotto everyday because yes it COULD happen , but realistically you're wasting time on something that won't happen . theres so much more aspects to life that makes it in my opinion worth living aside from the pursuit of a romantic partner , i'm kinda giving away my point of view here but i hope you get me lol

 

[aspiringstacy]

if you deem yourself as too ugly and basically unlovable from experiences and personal judgment , do you think it's okay to give up on the idea of finding a partner?

no, u dont have to make every aspect of your life about looks. yes, u might feel pressured by the media to look for the best partner and u might think he/she has to look good therefore u have to look good too. but its not like that, youd actually be happier being with someone that makes u feel good and confident in your skin. for example, my ex (we separated because he moved away) and i were in love, and although people judged us because we werent "conventionally attractive"and bc he was shorter than me, the love we had for each other made us feel like its just us and the rest of the bullshit like looks didnt matter neither the opinions of others
so in the eyes of the right person, youre not ugly and not unlovable, and they can even make ur self esteem and mental wellbeing better
if you really dont want a partner though, its okay, some people thrive without a relationship and u shouldnt feel pressured by society to get a relationship, get married and have kids. i often regret younger me obsessing over finding a partner when it actually wasnt as expected (relationships are a lot more complicated than u see online or in movies) when i couldve worked on myself

 

[TonyDr]

Let’s not forget the “I hate my wife” trope that went around in the 2000s. National lampoons every movie this n***a wanted to cheat, married with children, everyone loves Raymond

That meta is outdated nowadays, it's more like the opposite we push women to betray their men in any ways.
Theres this movie recently with jacob elordi

 

[giga.mia]

Theres this movie recently with jacob elordi

EW YEAH I KNOW WHAG UR TALKING ABOUT
IS IT THE WUTHERING HEIGHTS ONE

 

[verbal]

That meta is outdated nowadays, it's more like the opposite we push women to betray their men in any ways.
Theres this movie recently with jacob elordi

most of the biggest romances aimed at women movies or books involve cheating because it's an excitement that most wouldn't dare do irl , it's kinda sad to see

 

[TonyDr]

EW YEAH I KNOW WHAG UR TALKING ABOUT
IS IT THE WUTHERING HEIGHTS ONE

Yes sis ! This exact one

 

[giga.mia]

Yes sis ! This exact one

What’s even weirder to me is the fact that Margot’s husband is a producer for that abomination of a movie.

 

[verbal]

What’s even weirder to me is the fact that Margot’s husband is a producer for that abomination of a movie.

to be in a relationship with a famous actor you have to be a little bit of a cuck anyways

 

[TonyDr]

What’s even weirder to me is the fact that Margot’s husband is a producer for that abomination of a movie.

Hollywood elites are degens anyways

 

[Starlet]

that would make sense if romantic intimacy / companionship was the the primary source of meaning to a life , i personally don't think so , i think that's something we were taught to be honest and i actually don't think it's positive because it makes your well being dependant on someone else , i think acceptance if you're in a situation where u were just unlucky with your set of genetics is way better because you stop wasting energy and stop mentally torturing yourself about something that has a low probability of happening , yes it CAN happen but it's still not probable , it's like playing the lotto everyday because yes it COULD happen , but realistically you're wasting time on something that won't happen . theres so much more aspects to life that makes it in my opinion worth living aside from the pursuit of a romantic partner , i'm kinda giving away my point of view here but i hope you get me lol

I mean me personally there’s only three things I really want in life, and one is to be a wife. (The other two are go to med school to be a doctor, and be pretty btw). Everything I do centers around these goals and it’s basically my main values so I do prioritize it. Even though I’m not in a relationship currently and haven’t been for years and probably won’t be for more years I’m still waiting

I think life would just feel empty without it. What other aspects are there to life? Your career? It can get tiring always coming home to an empty apartment. And I think the chances of getting a partner are higher than winning the lottery ofc

 

[rand anon]

Depends on if ur actually capable of giving up, or ur just trying to convince urself u are but deep down u aren’t

 

[rand anon]

I think at the end of the day everyone can find someone somehow, a lot of ltn’s will get gfs or a wife eventually. even if you’re ugly just find someone else who matches your ugly

I think this used to be case back in the day, but not in this era. Many women who would’ve “settled” back in the day are now choosing the forever single and childfree lifestyle

 

[Starlet]

Many women who would’ve “settled” back in the day are now choosing the forever single and childfree lifestyle

Idk I think so many people say this but few actually follow through it, I could be wrong, it definitely is happening more nowadays

 

[rand anon]

Let’s not forget the “I hate my wife” trope that went around in the 2000s. National lampoons every movie this n***a wanted to cheat, married with children, everyone loves Raymond

Despite the flirting and stuff, Al never actually cheated on his wife though. For the most part, he was actually a pretty decent husband lol

 

[rand anon]

Idk I think so many people say this but few actually follow through it, I could be wrong, it definitely is happening more nowadays

Imo, like many things, it started out as propaganda and is slowly becoming a real phenomenon

https://www.morganstanley.com/ideas/womens-impact-on-the-economy

 

[giga.mia]

Despite the flirting and stuff, Al never actually cheated on his wife though. For the most part, he was actually a pretty decent husband lol

I know he didn’t cheat but he still acts resentful towards Peggy, I remember watching this one when I was little so my memory isn’t perfect

 

[TFC]

if you deem yourself as too ugly and basically unlovable from experiences and personal judgment , do you think it's okay to give up on the idea of finding a partner?

Well I’m starting to give up on trying to find one … this shit is hard, and I feel like shit.

 

[Rololongs]

if you deem yourself as too ugly and basically unlovable from experiences and personal judgment , do you think it's okay to give up on the idea of finding a partner?

I already gave up im going to be by myself forever

 

[rand anon]

I know he didn’t cheat but he still acts resentful towards Peggy, I remember watching this one when I was little so my memory isn’t perfect

I never got the impression he was resentful towards her. He was def resentful for missing out on his youth, but not of her imo. Being eccentric and odd was just a character trait of his

 

[verbal]

Depends on if ur actually capable of giving up, or ur just trying to convince urself u are but deep down u aren’t

i gave up a long time ago lol , i've never been the coping type

 

[sams872]

if you deem yourself as too ugly and basically unlovable from experiences and personal judgment , do you think it's okay to give up on the idea of finding a partner?

I have this idea that love is independent from any physical characterist, so even when I never experience it that dosent mean I won't eventually or that it doesn't exist

 

[verbal]

I think life would just feel empty without it. What other aspects are there to life? Your career? It can get tiring always coming home to an empty apartment. And I think the chances of getting a partner are higher than winning the lottery ofc

the emptiness youre afraid of only exists if you don't know who you are without someone else validating you, limiting the human experience to simply having a job is just not right lol . traveling , art , focusing on my finances , on my philosophy , a lot of those things i used to see as cope because i used to think finding a romantic was the end all be all , but i can say now with full honesty that inner peace is more important than making your well being dependant on another person . loneliness doesnt have to be miserable if your goal is self completion

 

[rand anon]

i gave up a long time ago lol , i've never been the coping type

Do u think you’d be happier than you are now, if u tried and succeeded?

 

[verbal]

if u tried and succeeded?

with "ifs" i could be elon musk

 

[rand anon]

with "ifs" i could be elon musk

There is a higher chance of u finding a relationship than acquiring his wealth lol, that’s why im asking. And if so, do u think it’s worth the pain of seemingly constant rejection if u do end up eventually succeeding