Discussion do you think it's okay to give up on love ?

[HerculesJr.]

if you deem yourself as too ugly and basically unlovable from experiences and personal judgment , do you think it's okay to give up on the idea of finding a partner?

I don't think it's okay to give up.
But it's definitely okay to take a long break if needed.

Me personally I'm scared I'll keep only liking girls for their appearance and getting bored with their personalities or their lives, so I've just decided to not really try and get a girl for a while.
That is until, I meet/see a girl that I REALLY resonate with, which at that point I'm willing to try.

 

[HerculesJr.]

I don't think it's okay to give up.
But it's definitely okay to take a long break if needed.

Me personally I'm scared I'll keep only liking girls for their appearance and getting bored with their personalities or their lives, so I've just decided to not really try and get a girl for a while.
That is until, I meet/see a girl that I REALLY resonate with, which at that point I'm willing to try.

but until then I think I'm good for trying to date. I'll just stick to having girls as friends for a while

 

[Starlet]

the emptiness youre afraid of only exists if you don't know who you are without someone else validating you, limiting the human experience to simply having a job is just not right lol . traveling , art , focusing on my finances , on my philosophy , a lot of those things i used to see as cope because i used to think finding a romantic was the end all be all , but i can say now with full honesty that inner peace is more important than making your well being dependant on another person . loneliness doesnt have to be miserable if your goal is self completion

I think that’s not the case for me, ig I just view love as an essential thing and put focus on the biological purpose of it. How old are you? I used to be the opposite actually and place more importance on everything but relationships but recently that has been shifting a bit, not entirely but a decent amount. I think I could have everything I could want or imagine but still be depressed if I was alone. And I don’t view that as a bad thing I just view it as important. I could see what you said applying to some other people tho

 

[verbal]

And if so, do u think it’s worth the pain of seemingly constant rejection if u do end up eventually succeeding

absolutely not , i think this is a weird subject for you guys because maybe you havent went through rejection the way i did , i genuinely tried a lot to get girls attention , and i've never been a guy that let myself go appearance wise , i've always been fit and hygienic , dress decently and i'm not obnoxious personality wise , i'm simply too short and not attractive enough , literally nothing i can do about it , i'm not going to put myself through mental torture just for the sake of trying

 

[rand anon]

absolutely not , i think this is a weird subject for you guys because maybe you havent went through rejection the way i did , i genuinely tried a lot to get girls attention ,

How hve u tried so far?

and i've never been a guy that let myself go appearance wise , i've always been fit and hygienic , dress decently and i'm not obnoxious personality wise ,

I never said u were bro

i'm simply too short and not attractive enough , literally nothing i can do about it , i'm not going to put myself through mental torture just for the sake of trying

if u feel that’s mental torture, fair enough I suppose

 

[arisu]

if you deem yourself as too ugly and basically unlovable from experiences and personal judgment , do you think it's okay to give up on the idea of finding a partner?

never give up