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I assume the majority of everyone here is to looksmaxx and improve your overall appearance so you attract the other sex. You improve your looks over time and ascend and that's all, life becomes better and you're finally happy? No, not really. If you lack vital social skills you might be seen as attractive, but you wont reach your full potential. Your social skills and personality are JUST as important to your physical appearance. This is why I have created 1 guide for men and 1 guide for women to read. It may not be the best but at least you'll learn at least one or two things on how to improve!
MEN:
Have you guys noticed that just in general women tend to not like nice guys? Like even online I bet you have seen at least once a meme revolved around a concept that goes like something like this:
Or even in the best movie in history you see that the main character, Emmet, a really nice guy likes this girl named "wyldstyle", a sweet girl. However, instead shes more attracted to Batman, this "jerk", but really in reality Batman wasn't a jerk, he was a MAN WHO WAS RESPECTED.
I know this is just a movie but there's no doubt that nice guys tend to suffer just generally in life, mainly relationships with women. As a man, you want to be seen as RESPECTED rather than a guy who depends on other peoples approval. Here are TEN important things you need to know in order to not be known as "the nice guy". Also, I would like to clarify that being "nice" is NOT the problem. The problem is being over-accommodating and having low boundaries, which most nice guys struggle with. I know some of you might already know about this and it might be common sense but you would be surprised that some of you guys subconsciously exhibit in some traits that nice guys have.
1. "NICE GUY" VS RESPECTED GUY.
If you want to understand this deeper, consider reading "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover. It's a really good book, especially for young men.
Don't wait to start just do it.
WOMEN:
Okay girls, let's all be honest, we have all noticed how some women aren't even the loudest or the PRETTIEST in the room...but somehow everyone is so drawn to them??
I have come up with TEN ways to have actually good feminine charisma (and actually be memorable) and using examples from icons.
1. UNDERSTANDING CHARISMA.
Okay that's all guys. This is technically my third guide. This took me like a good minute to make I can't lie. If I have any typos then just pretend they are not there. I will become better at it trust, practice makes perfect, right? Take everything I said in your assigned guides and
@lowtiersubhuman @Xx_Sh4tteredHe4rt_xX @andrewbeta98 @Dysmorphia @feeq
@TonyDr
@submissivechud @paulyune
MEN:
Have you guys noticed that just in general women tend to not like nice guys? Like even online I bet you have seen at least once a meme revolved around a concept that goes like something like this:
Or even in the best movie in history you see that the main character, Emmet, a really nice guy likes this girl named "wyldstyle", a sweet girl. However, instead shes more attracted to Batman, this "jerk", but really in reality Batman wasn't a jerk, he was a MAN WHO WAS RESPECTED.
I know this is just a movie but there's no doubt that nice guys tend to suffer just generally in life, mainly relationships with women. As a man, you want to be seen as RESPECTED rather than a guy who depends on other peoples approval. Here are TEN important things you need to know in order to not be known as "the nice guy". Also, I would like to clarify that being "nice" is NOT the problem. The problem is being over-accommodating and having low boundaries, which most nice guys struggle with. I know some of you might already know about this and it might be common sense but you would be surprised that some of you guys subconsciously exhibit in some traits that nice guys have.
1. "NICE GUY" VS RESPECTED GUY.
- A "nice guy" is often:
- Afraid to disagree.
- Says yes even when he doesn't want to.
- Prioritizes being liked over being HONEST. (the majority of girls find this manipulative btw)
- A respected guy is:
- Still kind, but honest.
- Willing to disagree.
- Has boundaries and STICKS with them.
- Does not let people walk over him.
- They don't do it in a dramatic way, they do it subtly. Examples like:
- Interrupting you.
- Dismissing your opinions.
- Making jokes about you.
- How you respond teaches people how to treat you.
- If you always agree with things, people will start subconsciously assuming that:
- You don't have strong opinions.
- You're easily influenced.
- Your input isn't important.
- I'm not saying to argue all the time, but it's important to have your own stance sometimes.
- Nice guys often:
- Over-explain things.
- Apologize too much.
- Say hesitant structured statements like ("I think maybe..." or "sorry but...").
- Instead you should try:
- Having more clearer sentences.
- Less apologizing for small useless reasons. (more in 5.)
- Having more intentional speech.
- Guys who apologize for everything signals they have low confidence.
- Only apologize when you ACTUALLY did something wrong, not for things like sticking to your boundaries or having opinions.
- Nice guys often want everyone to LIKE them.
- They change their opinions to try to fit in.
- They avoid saying things that might upset people.
- They rely on VALIDATION.
- A respected guy:
- Is okay with not being liked by everyone.
- Stands on his opinion.
- Doesn't need constant APPROVAL.
- If you need everyone to like you, just know people won't respect you.
- If someone disrespects you and you laugh it off every time:
- You're teaching them it's OKAY.
- They'll keep doing it.
- Others will follow.
- A respected guy:
- Addresses it calmly.
- Doesn't overreact about it, but does NOT IGNORE it either.
- Sets the tone for how he's treated.
- Remember you don't owe ANYONE in this life anything.
- If someone disrespects you and it becomes a pattern, leave them, ignore them, block them, do whatever but stop wasting your emotional energy and time on them.
- Have standards for yourself.
- Nice guys feel like they have to justify everything.
- They often give:
- Long explanations.
- Constant clarifying.
- And also try to make everyone understand them.
- A respected guy:
- Says what he needs to say and leaves it there.
- Doesn't beg to be understood.
- Is comfortable when it's silent sometimes.
- You don't have to become extremely "dominant" or aggressive.
- You just need:
- Clarity.
- Boundaries.
- Consistency.
- People respect clarity.
- Indecision lowers how people see you.
- Nice guys do things like:
- An example: saying "I don't know, whatever you want".
- Constantly deferring to others.
- Avoiding responsibility.
- A respected guy:
- Makes decisions (even small ones).
- Takes responsibility.
- Shows leadership.
If you want to understand this deeper, consider reading "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover. It's a really good book, especially for young men.
Don't wait to start just do it.
WOMEN:
Okay girls, let's all be honest, we have all noticed how some women aren't even the loudest or the PRETTIEST in the room...but somehow everyone is so drawn to them??
I have come up with TEN ways to have actually good feminine charisma (and actually be memorable) and using examples from icons.
1. UNDERSTANDING CHARISMA.
- Charisma is not just being pretty or loud.
- It's how you make people feel when you're around them.
- It's presence, not perfection.
- It's confidence + emotional impact.
- It's about being REMEMBERED after you leave.
- Marilyn Monroe wasn't the loudest person in the room, but people were still drawn to her because of her presence.
- Most people avoid eye contact or break it too quickly. (lowkey struggle with this)
- Try to hold eye contact slightly longer than normal.
- DON'T stare aggressively, keep it relaxed.
- Look away slowly, not nervously.
- Angelina Jolie, Megan Fox, and Monica Bellucci (especially in Maléna) all use calm, controlled eye contact that feels intense without trying too hard.
- Rushing your words gives off nervous energy.
- Slow down your speech.
- Don't over-explain.
- Blair Waldorf in Gossip Girl speaks slowly and clearly, which makes her sound confident and in control.
- Not every situation needs a big reaction.
- Don't force yourself to react, just stay calm in conversations.
- This helps you be yourself and look more composed.
- Angelina Jolie and Effy Stonem both have that composed, slightly unreadable energy that makes people pay more attention.
- People notice your overall body language before literally anything.
- Good posture helps change how you're perceived.
- Monica Bellucci in the movie Maléna moves very slowly and deliberately for example, which makes her presence feel powerful and more noticeable.
- Mystery plays a role in charisma.
- You don't need to tell your whole life story to someone you just met.
- Let people ask questions.
- Keep some things private.
- This is good because it also helps protect your peace so people don't use personal things against you.
- Effy Stonem in the TV show Skins barely explains herself, which makes people more curious and drawn in to her.
- People remember how you respond.
- Listen fully before reacting.
- Give thoughtful responses.
- Try to avoid interrupting them.
- Again, Blair Waldorf in Gossip Girl controls her reactions carefully, which gives her social power in the TV show.
- Presentation affects perception. (you already know this since you're on a looksmaxxing forum.)
- Have a clean, intentional appearance.
- Look consistent and neat.
- Brooke Shields and Megan Fox both lean into simple but polished looks that help enhance their natural presence.
- Remember at least ONE small detail about someone.
- Ask questions.
- Be present in conversations.
- Marilyn Monroe was known for making people feel special when she interacted with them by using these tips.
- Pick a vibe that fits who YOU are.
- Stay consistent.
- Build your own presence
Okay that's all guys. This is technically my third guide. This took me like a good minute to make I can't lie. If I have any typos then just pretend they are not there. I will become better at it trust, practice makes perfect, right? Take everything I said in your assigned guides and
@lowtiersubhuman @Xx_Sh4tteredHe4rt_xX @andrewbeta98 @Dysmorphia @feeq
@TonyDr
@submissivechud @paulyune
