Grandeur Uncertainty

[merit]

Many people have stated before they have a dilemma of feeling special, or "worthless" at times. This notion comes from how your connection varies from person to person . If a girl in the past has had boyfriends who treated her badly, childhood traumas, unhealed wounds etc, she could perceive you differently even if you have many flaws and imperfections that could be worked on. An example of this is if a girl were to say she had multiple horrible experiences in the past and you treated her better (could be even average) she would think you're "special," and some sort of saint. While on the other hand, any girl that didn't have these things happen to her would just think you're just the average joe and not worth her time. This often puts guys like me, and many others in a sense of uncertainty and inferiority at times. Experiences like these may also put you in a state of deluded denial to what your actual worth/and or flaws are. I find myself in an abundant amount of these experiences.

Apologies for poor English, informal writing etc.

 

[scotfield]

Many people have stated before they have a dilemma of feeling special, or "worthless" at times. This notion comes from how your connection varies from person to person . If a girl in the past has had boyfriends who treated her badly, childhood traumas, unhealed wounds etc, she could perceive you differently even if you have many flaws and imperfections that could be worked on. An example of this is if a girl were to say she had multiple horrible experiences in the past and you treated her better (could be even average) she would think you're "special," and some sort of saint. While on the other hand, any girl that didn't have these things happen to her would just think you're just the average joe and not worth her time. This often puts guys like me, and many others in a sense of uncertainty and inferiority at times. Experiences like these may also put you in a state of deluded denial to what your actual worth/and or flaws are. I find myself in an abundant amount of these experiences.

Apologies for poor English, informal writing etc.

The average man doesn’t even desire excellence anymore he desires comfort dressed up as ‘self acceptance.’ Every failure is framed as ‘mental health’ every shortcoming reframed as ‘individuality.