Gulp

[jestr]

Haha no way me too which province ?

Ns

 

[Mogden]

Yeahhh I got off everything else for bf sadly but weeds still good enough to keep the thoughts from forming

ATP just get a lobotomy it’ll last longer

 

[jestr]

ATP just get a lobotomy it’ll last longer

Ugh I wish

 

[Mogden]

Ugh I wish

So you need help breaking up with your abusive pedophile?

 

[jestr]

So you need help breaking up with your abusive pedophile?

Current bf isn't a pedo i think
Just
Not great

 

[Mogden]

Current bf isn't a pedo i think
Just
Not great

“I think”

 

[jestr]

“I think”

Idk he can be a little odd sometimes and he is older than me but its only like 2 yrs and every guy is into ddlg so its not thattt weirded yk

 

[Mogden]

Idk he can be a little odd sometimes and he is older than me but its only like 2 yrs and every guy is into ddlg so its not thattt weirded yk

 

[Lebensmude]

Hey ladies I need love advice
If your not a cel please give me advice
How do I bring myself to leave? And how do I stop finding these shitty men who lovebomb until we get serious and then become like.. fully abusive...?
I have bpd and I literally cant bring myself to leave and my relationships keep ending downright violent and awful and I think I need to get away uhhh now

my advice is stop being self-destructive
you know a "good man" when you see one, you just dont date them, because you're self destructive.

 

[Lebensmude]

Idk he can be a little odd sometimes and he is older than me but its only like 2 yrs and every guy is into ddlg so its not thattt weirded yk

nobody normal is into "ddlg" you fucking idiot

 

[Mogden]

my advice is stop being self-destructive
you know a "good man" when you see one, you just dont date them, because you're self destructive.

I’d be careful about stereotyping her. She ain’t a common foid. She got married at 16

 

[jestr]

my advice is stop being self-destructive
you know a "good man" when you see one, you just dont date them, because you're self destructive.

The good men I meet help their family's, get all a's in school, are fully sober, volunteer, donate, raise awareness, and then treat me like litter
I dont know a "good man" I date the nice guys and the good men and get treated like shit on a shoe

 

[Lebensmude]

The good men I meet help their family's, get all a's in school, are fully sober, volunteer, donate, raise awareness, and then treat me like litter
I dont know a "good man" I date the nice guys and the good mean and get treated like shit on a shoe

then maybe you're the common denominator. How many uys have you dated? Actually "good guys" usually go for "good girls" not bpd whores

 

[Mogden]

The good men I meet help their family's, get all a's in school, are fully sober, volunteer, donate, raise awareness, and then treat me like litter
I dont know a "good man" I date the nice guys and the good mean and get treated like shit on a shoe

You’re also bipolar so take that into account. Would you do anything that would make them mad?

 

[jestr]

then maybe you're the common denominator. How many uys have you dated? Actually "good guys" usually go for "good girls" not bpd whores

"Bpd whores" and im the kinda borderline who's quiet and isolating

 

[jestr]

You’re also bipolar so take that into account. Would you do anything that would make them mad?

Im not bipolar, im borderline, and ive been told that at most I can be too clingy, but this is always coming from people who are known and rumored and made fun of for being clingy in their relationships

 

[Lebensmude]

Im not bipolar, im borderline, and ive been told that at most I can be too clingy, but this is always coming from people who are known and rumored and made fun of for being clingy in their relationships

how many guys have you dated
how many guys have you fucked
how many drugs do you take
it's difficult to find a "good man" if you aren't atleast a normal person. Most "good men" get tired of trying to "fix" you. Many times, the target foid will actually get MORE aggressively degenerate when a "good man" they're dating tries to fix them.

 

[jestr]

I feel like im taking hits from children you

how many guys have you dated
how many guys have you fucked
how many drugs do you take
it's difficult to find a "good man" if you aren't atleast a normal person. Most "good men" get tired of trying to "fix" you. Many times, the target foid will actually get MORE aggressively degenerate when a "good man" they're dating tries to fix them.

I've dated 3 but one was grooming for many years and nothing official
I've fucked 1 (my current) (after 4 months)
I only smoke weed at night for my insomnia
I've quit drinking and any other kind of drugs for him

 

[Lebensmude]

I feel like im taking hits from children you

I've dated 3 but one was grooming for many years and nothing official
I've fucked 1 (my current) (after 4 months)
I only smoke weed at night for my insomnia
I've quit drinking and any other kind of drugs for him

The drugs you were on when you got him will likely determine his quality as a man
and week is still a massive put-off. Pretty sure you could get a prescription for sleeping pills if you legitimately need weed to sleep, unless you're not allowed them because of suicide or self harm.
What kind of guys do you select for? racial/political/aesthetic biases?

 

[jestr]

The drugs you were on when you got him will likely determine his quality as a man
and week is still a massive put-off. Pretty sure you could get a prescription for sleeping pills if you legitimately need weed to sleep, unless you're not allowed them because of suicide or self harm.
What kind of guys do you select for? racial/political/aesthetic biases?

Well when I got with him I was a casual drinker, once every 3 or so months at a bonfire party with some gals, and no I cant take sleeping pills 1. I was given them since I was 4 and its caused a severe melatonin lack in my brain causing this insomnia, 2. Attempts yeah lol

My racial bias is usually white or native American, I usually lean towards more democratic men, not quite liberal but definitely left leaning yk, and for aestehtic bias I dont really have any, I do very much dislike alt guys though, I tend to like a more casual nerdy guy yk?

 

[Lebensmude]

Well when I got with him I was a casual drinker, once every 3 or so months at a bonfire party with some gals, and no I cant take sleeping pills 1. I was given them since I was 4 and its caused a severe melatonin lack in my brain causing this insomnia, 2. Attempts yeah lol

My racial bias is usually white or native American, I usually lean towards more democratic men, not quite liberal but definitely left leaning yk, and for aestehtic bias I dont really have any, I do very much dislike alt guys though, I tend to like a more casual nerdy guy yk?

if you specialise into left-leaning guys it's pretty much over already
incresibly difficult to find a normal person on that niche, its either estrogenic dudes or dudes who aren't left wing at heart, but decide to be left wing for pussy. From everything here it seems like you just have really bad selection in men, even disregarding my opinion on political demographics, sicne nothing else seems to be especially deviant

 

[jestr]

if you specialise into left-leaning guys it's pretty much over already
incresibly difficult to find a normal person on that niche, its either estrogenic dudes or dudes who aren't left wing at heart, but decide to be left wing for pussy. From everything here it seems like you just have really bad selection in men, even disregarding my opinion on political demographics, sicne nothing else seems to be especially deviant

Yeah ive figured that out by now, when I saw my bf cry over Charlie kirk but never when he hurt me I knew the leftism was performative unfortunately its hard to find a man who sees women as women and not a thing nowadays
And I think my tastes are great yk natives and white r where its at, except for yk both having stereotypes of being bad to women and all...

 

[Lebensmude]

Yeah ive figured that out by now, when I saw my bf cry over Charlie kirk but never when he hurt me I knew the leftism was performative unfortunately its hard to find a man who sees women as women and not a thing nowadays
And I think my tastes are great yk natives and white r where its at, except for yk both having stereotypes of being bad to women and all...

what? I get natives but not whites. The stereotype Ive seen is "white men are more romantic" "white men are nicer", the only other options in terms of race for men are like middle easterners, asians and blacks, 2/3 of those have true bad stereotypes about them

 

[jestr]

What? I get natives but not whites. The stereotype Ive seen is "white men are more romantic" "white men are nicer", the only other options in terms of race for men are like middle easterners, asians and blacks, 2/3 of those have true bad stereotypes about them

All ive seen ab white men is them being evil twinks and mommy issues fn

 

[Lebensmude]

All ive seen ab white men is them being evil twinks and mommy issues fn

well yeah if you only select leftist dudes instead of brady (18) from missouri who wears maga hats and goes to church and likes having barbecues at the lake with his golden retriever you're gonna get evil twinks and dudes with mommy issues

 

[jestr]

well yeah if you only select leftist dudes instead of brady (18) from missouri who wears maga hats and goes to church and likes having barbecues at the lake with his golden retriever you're gonna get evil twinks and dudes with mommy issues

So dating the guys who advocate for women's rights is worse than dating the guy who votes against women at all costs?

Is this really the world we've come to bro i think im just done with dating

 

[Lebensmude]

So dating the guys who advocate for women's rights is worse than dating the guy who votes against women at all costs?

Is this really the world we've come to bro i think im just done with dating

men who vote against women don't have womens rights on their mind, they vote to be able to raise their family in a better country. Men who vote for womens rights' biggest concern is womens rights, which means they're doing it to be performant. If you talk to a stock model moderate conservative white guy he'll probably be nicer to you than a "womens rights" advocate because they just don't care about it, they're less neurotic

 

[jestr]

men who vote against women don't have womens rights on their mind, they vote to be able to raise their family in a better country. Men who vote for womens rights' biggest concern is womens rights, which means they're doing it to be performant. If you talk to a stock model moderate conservative white guy he'll probably be nicer to you than a "womens rights" advocate because they just don't care about it, they're less neurotic

I've never met a traditional conservative guy who didnt make it a point to constantly point out that his views are that way because hes against women's rights i.m.e they're more neurotic

 

[Lebensmude]

I've never met a traditional conservative guy who didnt make it a point to constantly point out that his views are that way because hes against women's rights i.m.e they're more neurotic

Traditional conservative guys are not the same as mediocre conservative guys, mediocre conservative guys are usually apolitical but lean right because they’re not insecure and are ok with being white straight and male

 

[jestr]

Traditional conservative guys are not the same as mediocre conservative guys, mediocre conservative guys are usually apolitical but lean right because they’re not insecure and are ok with being white straight and male

Where would I even meet a guy like that
I've never met someone in the middle everyone's so crazy about their opinion

 

[Lebensmude]

Where would I even meet a guy like that
I've never met someone in the middle everyone's so crazy about their opinion

You meet them everywhere social. Parties, barbecues, at sport events, hanging out at parks or lakes or out on hikes, walking their dog, the majority of american men are moderate conservatives, it’s kinda difficult to avoid them unless you’re in like one of the most leftist places on earth

 

[jestr]

You meet them everywhere social. Parties, barbecues, at sport events, hanging out at parks or lakes or out on hikes, walking their dog, the majority of american men are moderate conservatives, it’s kinda difficult to avoid them unless you’re in like one of the most leftist places on earth

Im in canada, dw east coast so its mostly American like folks anyway, but there's still nothing social here

 

[Lebensmude]

Im in canada, dw east coast so its mostly American like folks anyway, but there's still nothing social here

you're in canada, theres national parks everywhere, just select for -likes hiking and choose the first random blonde guy that pops up and he'll probably be a better boyfriend than your current one. right wing guys have a thing for goth/emo/alt girls anyway so low failure chances

 

[TonyDr]

Hey ladies I need love advice
If your not a cel please give me advice
How do I bring myself to leave? And how do I stop finding these shitty men who lovebomb until we get serious and then become like.. fully abusive...?
I have bpd and I literally cant bring myself to leave and my relationships keep ending downright violent and awful and I think I need to get away uhhh now

Seems counter-intuitive but stay single until your BPD is under serious control. Don't jump on man to man to fill a void, it will just adds up traumas

 

[OsamaBinBallen]

Hey ladies I need love advice
If your not a cel please give me advice
How do I bring myself to leave? And how do I stop finding these shitty men who lovebomb until we get serious and then become like.. fully abusive...?
I have bpd and I literally cant bring myself to leave and my relationships keep ending downright violent and awful and I think I need to get away uhhh now

rule number one never “hook up” into a relationship
rule number two never date a man that you don’t have nonsexual chemistry with
rule number three never date a man that you don’t have shared friends with
rule number four never date a man who values you above his previous commitments (i.e. if he immediately drops everything for you within a week of knowing each other it’s not healthy)
rule number five never mistake sex with intimacy. related to rule 2. if a man can’t bond with you wholly without sex (my rule is two months for a long term and a month if i cant see it going forever like a semester relationship) then he values you as a sexual object above you as a person and that will always result in codependency and or a cycle of abuse

 

[Orka]

I've tried dating a Mormon, he admitted to me that he was a lolicon and then tried to make me step on him and drain his money at an atm. While I was 14. And he was 17.

I wouldn't complain about getting free money, unless it was a very little amount

 

[Deleted Member 78476]

I told you to break up didnt I

 

[jestr]

rule number one never “hook up” into a relationship
rule number two never date a man that you don’t have nonsexual chemistry with
rule number three never date a man that you don’t have shared friends with
rule number four never date a man who values you above his previous commitments (i.e. if he immediately drops everything for you within a week of knowing each other it’s not healthy)
rule number five never mistake sex with intimacy. related to rule 2. if a man can’t bond with you wholly without sex (my rule is two months for a long term and a month if i cant see it going forever like a semester relationship) then he values you as a sexual object above you as a person and that will always result in codependency and or a cycle of abuse

He checks off all those boxes and is still shitty
Bruh

 

[jestr]

I told you to break up didnt I

shut up im in constant agony fuck you

 

[jestr]

Seems counter-intuitive but stay single until your BPD is under serious control. Don't jump on man to man to fill a void, it will just adds up traumas

Yeah i did that
My bf isn't just to fill a void
It took me SO fucking long to let myself even like someone again bro

 

[Operratoor]

Hey ladies I need love advice
If your not a cel please give me advice
How do I bring myself to leave? And how do I stop finding these shitty men who lovebomb until we get serious and then become like.. fully abusive...?
I have bpd and I literally cant bring myself to leave and my relationships keep ending downright violent and awful and I think

Hey ladies I need love advice
If your not a cel please give me advice
How do I bring myself to leave? And how do I stop finding these shitty men who lovebomb until we get serious and then become like.. fully abusive...?
I have bpd and I literally cant bring myself to leave and my relationships keep ending downright violent and awful and I think I need to get away uhhh now

Give yourself time to focus on healing instead of seeking new relationships, and slow down before you decide to commit to someone and give yourself time to see who they actually are as a person

 

[OsamaBinBallen]

He checks off all those boxes and is still shitty
Bruh

I would just agree with other comments and say you should immediately sever those kinds of relationships until you can control your BPD

 

[Transposon]

Hey, as a fellow woman.
Please get tested for BPD.
And treat love-bombing as you would any red flag

 

[johnfkennedy]

Hey, as a fellow woman.

is ur fatass fr? <3
y-y-y-y-yuo mean yuor' not a stone cold truecel? We can't hav a khhv lavender marriage together?

 

[jestr]

Hey, as a fellow woman.
Please get tested for BPD.
And treat love-bombing as you would any red flag

90% sure your not a woman but ive already been tested for bpd. I have it.
Can you clear something for me, people keep me mentioning bpd, is it in a way trying to make me seem bad or is it yk... the clinging to unhealthy partners thing

 

[OsamaBinBallen]

90% sure your not a woman but ive already been tested for bpd. I have it.
Can you clear something for me, people keep me mentioning bpd, is it in a way trying to make me seem bad or is it yk... the clinging to unhealthy partners thing

literally characterized by unhealthy relationships and behavior.
emotional instability impulsiveness lack of ego etc

 

[jestr]

literally characterized by unhealthy relationships and behavior.
emotional instability impulsiveness lack of ego etc

Yeah i know sadly
Most people online go straight to borderline having a victim complex and demonize them though so I figured I wasnt being taken seriously

 

[Deleted Member 78476]

shut up im in constant agony fuck you

lol warned ya

 

[Deleted Member 78932]

Hey ladies I need love advice
If your not a cel please give me advice
How do I bring myself to leave? And how do I stop finding these shitty men who lovebomb until we get serious and then become like.. fully abusive...?
I have bpd and I literally cant bring myself to leave and my relationships keep ending downright violent and awful and I think I need to get away uhhh now

start dating real men and not some leftist faggots