Discussion how do I get irl friends

[Frax]

title

 

[TonyDr]

By being social and having similar hobbies, you talk to them, they talk to you

 

[Frax]

By being social and having similar hobbies, you talk to them, they talk to you

how

 

[TonyDr]

What are your hobbies ? Did you get invited at parties ? Did you go to the park ? To the bars ?

 

[Frax]

What are your hobbies ? Did you get invited at parties ? Did you go to the park ? To the bars ?

no, I collect LEGO

 

[TonyDr]

no, I collect LEGO

over
Go to a lego convention

 

[Frax]

over
Go to a lego convention

I'm too scared and I stink and idk how to fix my stink

 

[TonyDr]

I'm too scared and I stink and idk how to fix my stink

Force yourself to get out your comfort zone

And buy bar soap, deodorant and fragrance. Shower once per day and change your clothes everyday
What did you eat on a daily basis ? Did you drink alcohol, smoking etc ?
Sinon sur le site Rasage-Classique il y a des deos extras fort et du talc pour les odeurs

 

[Frax]

Force yourself to get out your comfort zone

And buy bar soap, deodorant and fragrance. Shower once per day and change your clothes everyday
What did you eat on a daily basis ? Did you drink alcohol, smoking etc ?
Sinon sur le site Rasage-Classique il y a des deos extras et du talc pour les odeurs

I do all of this, its genes, us french people just stink its a common thing

My 8 Observations About French Stereotypes | The Glossika Blog

Some stereotypes seem to contain a grain of truth, but then these grains are blown up into types... Here are my 8 observations about French stereotypes!

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Stereotypes of French people - Wikipedia

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What do French people think of the popular stereotype that the French are smelly?

Answer (1 of 11): This story comes mainly from 1944, like hairy women and berets . The GIs brought back home what they saw in a country looted by the Nazis, and as Americans never watch foreign movies they keep 70 years old images . Just look as they always write sacrebleu or draw moustaches and ...

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[Aluminineiuemiumeam]

Friends don't really matter as you get older, at least for guys. I don't have any friends at 38, because they all inevitably ask me for help. They do this because they can't control their sphincters IRT spending money, avoiding obvious whores/nutcases/junkies, IRL shitposting leading towards life-ruination, or whatever. I don't know why I'm the only person I know who doesn't make emotional decisions.

It helps in my case because my ability to feel emotions has atrophied over my life, and I have learned how to use my destructive impulses to benefit me. I now am better off hanging out near people who hate me, because then my drive to lash out benefits me and I feel nothing when I harm those who hate me.

Observing other men, they all have their extended family (siblings, uncles, aunts, parents, cousins) and wife/kids, and that's pretty much it. Focus on getting a wife I guess.

This isn't actually an answer to your question though, so I'll try...

What works for me in general when goal-seeking is to determine what my desired end-state is, and then work backwards from that state towards my current state to determine what I must do to get there. Then I break the current step towards that into smaller goals and work on them.

For trivial social skills, I recommend you work on your ability to make small talk in an improvisational manner. Improv in any context is not making up new things out of whole cloth, but making slight impulsive variations on common and popular themes. So for example if you want to train small talk, you could try out various responses to cashiers making forced small talk that either are different in content (respond with "I'm alive"), or make a verbally neutral response but vary the tone and body language. This allows you to practice verbal improv, speaking tone, and body language.

Then from there study what specific every day things you do and improv variations on those. For example, instead of holding open doors for women, open a door and then explicitly close it when a woman is behind you. Study their responses to this, and their responses to variations in facial expressions and body language while you do it.

One thing I've noticed is that a totally neutral tone, speech, body language, and expression is much more stressful to other people than being actively hostile. I think this is because ambiguity stresses people somehow. Maybe it allows them to project their insecurities on you, which if true could make it a useful way to learn what a person is insecure about.

 

[Frax]

Friends don't really matter as you get older, at least for guys. I don't have any friends at 38, because they all inevitably ask me for help. They do this because they can't control their sphincters IRT spending money, avoiding obvious whores/nutcases/junkies, IRL shitposting leading towards life-ruination, or whatever. I don't know why I'm the only person I know who doesn't make emotional decisions.

It helps in my case because my ability to feel emotions has atrophied over my life, and I have learned how to use my destructive impulses to benefit me. I now am better off hanging out near people who hate me, because then my drive to lash out benefits me and I feel nothing when I harm those who hate me.

Observing other men, they all have their extended family (siblings, uncles, aunts, parents, cousins) and wife/kids, and that's pretty much it. Focus on getting a wife I guess.

tldr?

 

[AJis18]

go outside and find your intrest

 

[rand anon]

Only NTs can hve friends

 

[ifsixwasnine]

I do all of this, its genes, us french people just stink its a common thing

My 8 Observations About French Stereotypes | The Glossika Blog

Some stereotypes seem to contain a grain of truth, but then these grains are blown up into types... Here are my 8 observations about French stereotypes!

ai.glossika.com

Stereotypes of French people - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

What do French people think of the popular stereotype that the French are smelly?

Answer (1 of 11): This story comes mainly from 1944, like hairy women and berets . The GIs brought back home what they saw in a country looted by the Nazis, and as Americans never watch foreign movies they keep 70 years old images . Just look as they always write sacrebleu or draw moustaches and ...

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Unless you’re eating fenugreek everyday like an Indian you don’t just ‘ stink ‘. Shower everyday and wear deodorant/antiperspirant. You don’t have to wear the aluminum free deodorant but I think it’s common knowledge that most people who wear aluminum free smell like shit

 

[Aluminineiuemiumeam]

Buy a scrub brush and exfoliate when you shower too.

 

[ragnarok787]

Only NTs can hve friends

Adhd people cant?

 

[ela67]

Unnecessary imo

 

[Kaari]

Only NTs can hve friends

Brutal truthpill for me bud.

 

[Kaari]

Unnecessary imo

I used to be like you but it’ll catch up with you, I learnt that the hard way.

 

[ela67]

I used to be like you but it’ll catch up with you, I learnt that the hard way.

I am an introvert...they don't really seem helpful to me

 

[Kaari]

I am an introvert...they don't really seem helpful to me

I was like you, but when you’re truly left with nothing, you will go insane, especially once you leave school, college, etc.

 

[ela67]

I was like you, but when you’re truly left with nothing, you will go insane, especially once you leave school, college, etc.

I've got a family...I am more than grateful

 

[Kaari]

I've got a family...I am more than grateful

Good, cherish it.

 

[AJis18]

by not being sub 5 and have a good social personality and having a lot of hobbies or going to different culbs if your still in school.

sub 5 will just make everything much much harder

 

[ratedLTN2]

impossibruh!

 

[P4ula]

Get into a sport

 

[rand anon]

ut I think it’s common knowledge that most people who wear aluminum free smell like shit

Not true

 

[ifsixwasnine]

Not true

Eh most people I’ve come across who wear aluminum free smell like onions masked with deodorant. They usually eat slop and smoke carts but think the aluminum is the cause of their downfall

 

[rand anon]

hey usually eat slop and smoke carts but think the aluminum is the cause of their downfall

Some of us eat clean and are sober!

 

[ifsixwasnine]

Some of us eat clean and are sober!

Ur the exception gang