Serious How do I help someone who doesn't want to recover?

[iletheile]

My boyfriend struggles with self harm and eating disorders and, I've talked to him alot about it and he feels guilty but he doesn't want to what do I even do atp what can I even do to help him

 

[chudlite67]

My boyfriend struggles with self harm and eating disorders and, I've talked to him alot about it and he feels guilty but he doesn't want to what do I even do atp what can I even do to help him

the unfortunate truth is that you cant other than trying to support him
if he tries to get better because u want him to, it will not work
he has to want it for himself

 

[SevenColorCrystalBall]

You can't

 

[LeoK]

You can’t it’s up to him to make that change for himself

 

[iletheile]

the unfortunate truth is that you cant other than trying to support him
if he tries to get better because u want him to, it will not work
he has to want it for himself

Yeah, I want the best for him and I'm trying my best to support him and it just makes me worry so much about him that I can't do anything besides that you know? I don't want him to get worse I genuinely just wish the best for him

 

[iletheile]

You can’t it’s up to him to make that change for himself

Yeah, but yk he keeps getting worse and I feel like just standing there and supporting him isn't helping him

 

[chudlite67]

Yeah, I want the best for him and I'm trying my best to support him and it just makes me worry so much about him that I can't do anything besides that you know? I don't want him to get worse I genuinely just wish the best for him

well, how bad is he? u can admit him to a place against his will if it gets bad

 

[iletheile]

well, how bad is he? u can admit him to a place against his will if it gets bad

I don't really know, he doesn't want me to worry so he keeps js avoiding it plus we're 15

 

[chudlite67]

I don't really know, he doesn't want me to worry so he keeps js avoiding it plus we're 15

hm okay
avoiding it could mean either way
how are his parents? loving, maybe?

 

[knightmaxxer]

My boyfriend struggles with self harm and eating disorders and, I've talked to him alot about it and he feels guilty but he doesn't want to what do I even do atp what can I even do to help him

well, ive always been taught “go for the roots, not the stem”. use that as you will

 

[iletheile]

hm okay
avoiding it could mean either way
how are his parents? loving, maybe?

His mum has a eating disorder too so js barely feeds him anything 🫩 his dad no clue he's always at work, he doesn't really like his parents, he has a older brother doesn't get too along with him either

 

[iletheile]

well, ive always been taught “go for the roots, not the stem”. use that as you will

Yeah I guess fair but please be more specific

 

[knightmaxxer]

Yeah I guess fair but please be more specific

i mean like, if hes having trouble with eating disorders the disorder isnt caused by nothing, you have to address the actual root cause. Like if hes doing it cus hes insecure? help him like… stop being insecure… like, idk how in-depth i can go here its pretty self explanatory

 

[LeoK]

Yeah, but yk he keeps getting worse and I feel like just standing there and supporting him isn't helping him

You can encourage him, listen, and let him know you’ll be there, but if he isn’t willing to accept help or make changes there’s only so much you can do. Don’t put the weight of his recovery entirely on yourself. I hope it gets better

 

[chudlite67]

His mum has a eating disorder too so js barely feeds him anything 🫩 his dad no clue he's always at work, he doesn't really like his parents, he has a older brother doesn't get too along with him either

Wtf?? She enables him? That’s horrible

 

[miamigz]

My boyfriend struggles with self harm and eating disorders and, I've talked to him alot about it and he feels guilty but he doesn't want to what do I even do atp what can I even do to help him

js let him hit bro
puh cures dihpression
MARK SOLUTION BTW

 

[dimorph.ic]

My boyfriend struggles with self harm and eating disorders and, I've talked to him alot about it and he feels guilty but he doesn't want to what do I even do atp what can I even do to help him

You can only help those who want to be helped im very sorry about that though. Show as much affection as u can

 

[Bananachip]

My boyfriend struggles with self harm and eating disorders and, I've talked to him alot about it and he feels guilty but he doesn't want to what do I even do atp what can I even do to help him

leave them to die

 

[iletheile]

You can only help those who want to be helped im very sorry about that though. Show as much affection as u can

I'll try as much as I can and maybe even try to distract him

 

[iletheile]

Wtf?? She enables him? That’s horrible

Genuinely like she might not know about it ofc but still feed your kid bro