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[mallamzaaki]

The other day at work I approached some dude that was wearing merch for my favourite band. I’m autistic but I’ve been trying to force myself out of my comfort zone but I still feel like an alien failing to blend in. He didn’t seem interested in talking to me about the band and it was kind of awkward from his end. I went home and told my mum about the interaction because I always overthink and nitpick what I can do better next time. Well my mum knows the dudes friend and brought the interaction up to him. Now I feel like a weird pervert. Not only am I approaching a stranger but I’m also telling my mum about it. I’ve never had an irl boyfriend and I don’t have irl friends either. How do I stop feeling like such a socially inept weirdo? The only human interaction i get is briefly with coworkers, my mum and grandma. I’m 18 years old and I feel like such a loser

 

[isntnotrepellent]

If your not subhuman and hes as high as lmtn you can score

 

[UMTN]

The other day at work I approached some dude that was wearing merch for my favourite band. I’m autistic but I’ve been trying to force myself out of my comfort zone but I still feel like an alien failing to blend in. He didn’t seem interested in talking to me about the band and it was kind of awkward from his end. I went home and told my mum about the interaction because I always overthink and nitpick what I can do better next time. Well my mum knows the dudes friend and brought the interaction up to him. Now I feel like a weird pervert. Not only am I approaching a stranger but I’m also telling my mum about it. I’ve never had an irl boyfriend and I don’t have irl friends either. How do I stop feeling like such a socially inept weirdo? The only human interaction i get is briefly with coworkers, my mum and grandma. I’m 18 years old and I feel like such a loser

lmk when u find out

 

[mallamzaaki]

If your not subhuman and hes as high as lmtn you can score

I’m okay looking idk I’ve been rated mtb-htb on here so it’s confusing. I’m 5’11 so I don’t know if i come off as manly or intimidating to men. From what i remember he was like 6’1 maybe mtn in the face and had acne. I feel like we’re looksmatched im just a bit odd and I couldn’t pull it off

 

[isntnotrepellent]

I’m okay looking idk I’ve been rated mtb-htb on here so it’s confusing. I’m 5’11 so I don’t know if i come off as manly or intimidating to men. From what i remember he was like 6’1 maybe mtn in the face and had acne. I feel like we’re looksmatched im just a bit odd and I couldn’t pull it off

Just seen ur photos u should be able to pull an mtn

 

[meh.guy]

I’m okay looking idk I’ve been rated mtb-htb on here so it’s confusing. I’m 5’11 so I don’t know if i come off as manly or intimidating to men. From what i remember he was like 6’1 maybe mtn in the face and had acne. I feel like we’re looksmatched im just a bit odd and I couldn’t pull it off

Shii, 5'11 don't scare me

 

[Luxe]

The other day at work I approached some dude that was wearing merch for my favourite band. I’m autistic but I’ve been trying to force myself out of my comfort zone but I still feel like an alien failing to blend in. He didn’t seem interested in talking to me about the band and it was kind of awkward from his end. I went home and told my mum about the interaction because I always overthink and nitpick what I can do better next time. Well my mum knows the dudes friend and brought the interaction up to him. Now I feel like a weird pervert. Not only am I approaching a stranger but I’m also telling my mum about it. I’ve never had an irl boyfriend and I don’t have irl friends either. How do I stop feeling like such a socially inept weirdo? The only human interaction i get is briefly with coworkers, my mum and grandma. I’m 18 years old and I feel like such a loser

Idk stop being autistic or get into more social situations

 

[mallamzaaki]

Idk stop being autistic or get into more social situations

Every single time I try to talk to someone they act like I just punched their nan

 

[Luxe]

Every single time I try to talk to someone they act like I just punched their nan

Damn, you need to go trough stuff like that to get good tho

 

[banjo]

Just talk that's it . Don't worry about the outcomes . Just do it .

Good luck

 

[banananutbreadisawesome]

you’re very conventionally attractive so honestly I think they might just be intimidated in this case? I’d also say try and work on your body language because you might look closed off or angry to other people even if you aren’t!!

 

[cassssssss]

you gotta be confident and stop being awkward i dont know how just stop

 

[LYDDAKID]

Hi, I saw your post. Don't worry, it seems like a him problem. Perhaps he didn't actually know the band and felt embarassed, or perhaps he was shy - you just can't know what someone is thinking. It certainly doesn't mean you are weird. You shouldn't assume it is something you did wrong as I doubt that. Well done for putting yourself out there, the more you do it the easier it will become. You don't need to stop being yourself, there are so many people in the world, and some will like you and some won't - its just life, but the more times you approach someone that you think you might have someone in common with to chat, the more you make connections.

 

[mallamzaaki]

Hi, I saw your post. Don't worry, it seems like a him problem. Perhaps he didn't actually know the band and felt embarassed, or perhaps he was shy - you just can't know what someone is thinking. It certainly doesn't mean you are weird. You shouldn't assume it is something you did wrong as I doubt that. Well done for putting yourself out there, the more you do it the easier it will become. You don't need to stop being yourself, there are so many people in the world, and some will like you and some won't - its just life, but the more times you approach someone that you think you might have someone in common with to chat, the more you make connections.

I’m definitely putting too much pressure on the interaction so i appreciate this. This is really solid advice, thank you

 

[thushebecame]

You gonna tell us what band it was orr?

 

[apeals]

Every single time I try to talk to someone they act like I just punched their nan

lowkey felt, when I was at the peak of my horrible social skills as a neurodivergent I would just repeatedly embarrass myself and eventually you just learn not to care anymore