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i’m not trying to be dramatic i just don’t know what to do anymore. i keep trying to figure it out but nothing makes sense. i don’t get how other people do it, like how do you talk to someone without overthinking every word or freezing or sounding weird. i don’t even know if i want to date or if i just want to stop feeling like a broken failure all the time. i keep reading advice but it never actually helps, it just makes me feel more disconnected. i hate being like this. i hate that i keep ending up back in the same loops. it’s like i’m stuck watching my life happen and i can’t make it move forward. i know this is bad. i know i’m wasting time. i just don’t know how to fix it and it’s exhausting.
 
i’m not trying to be dramatic i just don’t know what to do anymore. i keep trying to figure it out but nothing makes sense. i don’t get how other people do it, like how do you talk to someone without overthinking every word or freezing or sounding weird. i don’t even know if i want to date or if i just want to stop feeling like a broken failure all the time. i keep reading advice but it never actually helps, it just makes me feel more disconnected. i hate being like this. i hate that i keep ending up back in the same loops. it’s like i’m stuck watching my life happen and i can’t make it move forward. i know this is bad. i know i’m wasting time. i just don’t know how to fix it and it’s exhausting.
I believe other people do it by just acting on impulse, like doing things without thinking about it 100x, try to lower ur inhib, this will help you not overthink if you just constantly say whatever comes to mind, at first you'll kind of regret it but if you do it over and over you'll get used to it, and be seen as more charismatic.

Finding a woman isn't going to fix you, just like you wouldn't go food shopping when you are hungry, you should go out looking for someone to date when you are desperate, I know it's easier said than done, but you should try heal yourself as best as you can before getting a girl. I don't know if this will mean anything to you but I'm just trying to help.

When you talk about loops and them repeating, you should try to act more on the whim and stop doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results, in summary, I believe being more impulsive will greatly help you. Anyway this could mean nothing but its just what i think will help
 
I believe other people do it by just acting on impulse, like doing things without thinking about it 100x, try to lower ur inhib, this will help you not overthink if you just constantly say whatever comes to mind, at first you'll kind of regret it but if you do it over and over you'll get used to it, and be seen as more charismatic.

Finding a woman isn't going to fix you, just like you wouldn't go food shopping when you are hungry, you should go out looking for someone to date when you are desperate, I know it's easier said than done, but you should try heal yourself as best as you can before getting a girl. I don't know if this will mean anything to you but I'm just trying to help.

When you talk about loops and them repeating, you should try to act more on the whim and stop doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results, in summary, I believe being more impulsive will greatly help you. Anyway this could mean nothing but its just what i think will help
i'm not reading your chatgpt response
 
I believe other people do it by just acting on impulse, like doing things without thinking about it 100x, try to lower ur inhib, this will help you not overthink if you just constantly say whatever comes to mind, at first you'll kind of regret it but if you do it over and over you'll get used to it, and be seen as more charismatic.

Finding a woman isn't going to fix you, just like you wouldn't go food shopping when you are hungry, you should go out looking for someone to date when you are desperate, I know it's easier said than done, but you should try heal yourself as best as you can before getting a girl. I don't know if this will mean anything to you but I'm just trying to help.

When you talk about loops and them repeating, you should try to act more on the whim and stop doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results, in summary, I believe being more impulsive will greatly help you. Anyway this could mean nothing but its just what i think will help
yeahhh this. also the world genuinely isnt gonna end even if youve said some corny shit. i say corny shit all the time and it doesnt even matter. if youre saying these weird things and it puts off other people then theyre not the right people for you. you cant fake it forever, you cant pretend to be someone youre not, you cant suffocate your true self forever yk, so why not just start being open right from the get go??? also i promise you nobodys gonna be thinking about you that much and i know its hard to pull away from the perspective that the world revolves around us but it really doesnt. it really fucking doesnt lmfao nobody gives two shits

so just go out there and be weird and be funny or be so fucking unfunny that the grass around you dies idfk. you can also be annoying im annoying as hell
 
I hve similar mental issues, imo there isn't much that can be done about them unfortunately

The only advice I can offer is to looksmax and then just hope u become attractive enough to compensate for ur high inhib, atleast that's what my plan is
 
I believe other people do it by just acting on impulse, like doing things without thinking about it 100x, try to lower ur inhib, this will help you not overthink if you just constantly say whatever comes to mind, at first you'll kind of regret it but if you do it over and over you'll get used to it, and be seen as more charismatic.

Finding a woman isn't going to fix you, just like you wouldn't go food shopping when you are hungry, you should go out looking for someone to date when you are desperate, I know it's easier said than done, but you should try heal yourself as best as you can before getting a girl. I don't know if this will mean anything to you but I'm just trying to help.

When you talk about loops and them repeating, you should try to act more on the whim and stop doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results, in summary, I believe being more impulsive will greatly help you. Anyway this could mean nothing but its just what i think will help
i read it i was just joking, idk what to respond bud, my brain works different because im too ND I care too much about stuff and I can't switch that off, same thing like being nice I can't act non chalant if I like someone, I can just be nice which probably gives my attention less worth in the other persons mind, so it's over for me bud. and I agree finding a woman won't fix anything, it will be probably even worse than right now so double over bud.
 
i read it i was just joking, idk what to respond bud, my brain works different because im too ND I care too much about stuff and I can't switch that off, same thing like being nice I can't act non chalant if I like someone, I can just be nice which probably gives my attention less worth in the other persons mind, so it's over for me bud. and I agree finding a woman won't fix anything, it will be probably even worse than right now so double over bud.
you just need to find a person with that same strain of tism as you

problem solved
 
i read it i was just joking, idk what to respond bud, my brain works different because im too ND I care too much about stuff and I can't switch that off, same thing like being nice I can't act non chalant if I like someone, I can just be nice which probably gives my attention less worth in the other persons mind, so it's over for me bud. and I agree finding a woman won't fix anything, it will be probably even worse than right now so double over bud.
tuber every time when I read your thoughts I started to get depressed😭
 
Finding a woman isn't going to fix you, just like you wouldn't go food shopping when you are hungry, you should go out looking for someone to date when you are desperate, I know it's easier said than done, but you should try heal yourself as best as you can before getting a girl. I don't know if this will mean anything to you but I'm just trying to help.
Disagree, tons of people with issues are out there dating, OP's issue is that his strain of mental illness just prevents him from doing so

you just need to find a person with that same strain of tism as you

problem solved
the few aspie girls that exist never leave the house, they just use dating apps and are way more selective. If anything he's more likely to get with some normie girl lol
 
tuber every time when I read your thoughts I started to get depressed😭
:copium: life doesn't make any sense bud

woah glad you're having a good time, i restored this account because i started going through withdrawal but honestly i want to quit again💀
idk if it's a good time it's just one more thing to rot on now I can rot on .com and warframe at the same time & why did you recover :pepehands: at least one of us should get rid of this place

the few aspie girls that exist never leave the house, they just use dating apps and are way more selective. If anything he's more likely to get with some normie girl lol
yes, and i think two aspies dating would be kinda annoying over time because both can't read eachother emotions and stuff like that so it will just end up being toxic as fuck imo
 
:copium: life doesn't make any sense bud


idk if it's a good time it's just one more thing to rot on now I can rot on .com and warframe at the same time & why did you recover :pepehands: at least one of us should get rid of this place


yes, and i think two aspies dating would be kinda annoying over time because both can't read eachother emotions and stuff like that so it will just end up being toxic as fuck imo
Bro it's so boring after uni there's nothing to do except rot here😭
 

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