How do i talk with girls bro

[Rias]

title, i'm gonna be 18 in a year and i still haven't flirted with any girl in my life
also idk how to meet them either..


@over0 @Randomized Shame @pompompurino @Spuffy @hannah @Anxietypilled

 

[Rias]

i'm dead serious btw

 

[Schizotypalcel]

i dont flirt i just talk, so idk

 

[Rias]

@RRM @Saint Arminius @tuberculosisinmybal

 

[DonJuanDeMarco]

Talk like u would with any friend.
Flirting is basically letting a girl know you’re
interested in them without making it obvious. Make it fun and playful.

What u say doesn’t rlly matter, its how u say it and the vibe u give off.

 

[Rias]

@tulip @ela67 @Nenestar @Tumor

 

[over0]

Talk like u would with any friend.
Flirting is basically letting a girl know you’re
interested in them without making it obvious. Make it fun and playful.

What us say doesn’t rlly matter, its how u say it and the vibe u give off.

 

[Rias]

Talk like u would with any friend.
Flirting is basically letting a girl know you’re
interested in them without making it obvious. Make it fun and playful.

What us say doesn’t rlly matter, its how u say it and the vibe u give off.

yeah bro i have that truecel aura its over

 

[freakybird]

title, i'm gonna be 18 in a year and i still haven't flirted with any girl in my life
also idk how to meet them either..

@over0 @Randomized Shame @pompompurino @Spuffy @hannah @Anxietypilled

trust your instincts

 

[slopslinger]

bru idk I can't do it either

 

[Rias]

trust your instincts

thanks for the "advice"

 

[hannah]

title, i'm gonna be 18 in a year and i still haven't flirted with any girl in my life
also idk how to meet them either..

@over0 @Randomized Shame @pompompurino @Spuffy @hannah @Anxietypilled

in what setting?

 

[pompompurino]

in terms of meeting them
dating apps work + going out and socializing. it’s easier than u think, u just overcomplicate it in ur head. u can go to concerts, bars, etc. bars and clubs is where it’s normalized to drink, alcohol would lower ur inhibition and make it easier for u to talk to them!

 

[freakybird]

thanks for the "advice"

Idk what else to say, if it's forced it will sound dumb, it should be natural

Learn what girls like (in romantic sense) and just build on top of that

 

[Rias]

in what setting?

in terms of meeting them
dating apps work + going out and socializing. it’s easier than u think, u just overcomplicate it in ur head. u can go to concerts, bars, etc. bars and clubs is where it’s normalized to drink, alcohol would lower ur inhibition and make it easier for u to talk to them!

meeting them mostly, i have never got to a talking stage so

also i have no clue on how to start a conversation without looking weird

 

[Saint Arminius]

@RRM @Saint Arminius @tuberculosisinmybal

bro I haven’t talked to a girl in all my life, how tf am I supposed to help

 

[Rias]

going out and socializing.

going out where? also i don't drink bro

 

[pompompurino]

going out where? also i don't drink bro

libraries, coffee shops, social events, concerts, anywhere where there is ppl bro u know this

 

[cytopathic]

title, i'm gonna be 18 in a year and i still haven't flirted with any girl in my life
also idk how to meet them either..


@over0 @Randomized Shame @pompompurino @Spuffy @hannah @Anxietypilled

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DM them on insta its way easier for me

 

[Rias]

libraries, coffee shops, social events, concerts, anywhere where there is ppl bro u know this

DM them on insta its way easier for me

yeah but how do i start a conversation without looking weird

 

[pompompurino]

yeah but how do i start a conversation without looking weird

compliment something other than the girl’s looks tbh, that gets overdone but if u do wanna compliment her looks be as wholesome as possible, call her cute and pretty not hot
if she is reading a book, ask her ab it. if she is drinking a drink, ask her ab it. if u like her earrings, compliment those. hairstyle? compliment that. u like a keychain on her bag? compliment it.

 

[Rias]

compliment something other than the girl’s looks tbh, that gets overdone but if u do wanna compliment her looks be as wholesome as possible, call her cute and pretty not hot
if she is reading a book, ask her ab it. if she is drinking a drink, ask her ab it. if u like her earrings, compliment those. hairstyle? compliment that. u like a keychain on her bag? compliment it.

i don't think this will work IRL bro, she'll probably give me the death stare and call the cops

nah but seriously how do i make sure the interaction isn't weird, since we don't know eachother complimenting her out of nowhere sounds weird

 

[pompompurino]

i don't this will work IRL bro, she'll probably give me the death stare and call the cops

nah but seriously how do i make sure the interaction isn't weird, since we don't know eachother complimenting her out of nowhere sounds weird

u won’t get anywhere unless u try, the interaction won’t be weird ur legit just complimenting something of hers or asking ab something. like i said, i recommend not complimenting her looks right off the bat

 

[Darkeningstar]

@tulip @ela67 @Nenestar @Tumor

You mentioned 3 people who have no idea how to flirt

 

[Darkeningstar]

compliment something other than the girl’s looks tbh, that gets overdone but if u do wanna compliment her looks be as wholesome as possible, call her cute and pretty not hot
if she is reading a book, ask her ab it. if she is drinking a drink, ask her ab it. if u like her earrings, compliment those. hairstyle? compliment that. u like a keychain on her bag? compliment it.

Boo

 

[DonJuanDeMarco]

DM them on insta its way easier for me

Nah don’t go dming on insta
Unless u alr know the person, talked a bit and got a good ig profile with high quality nt pictures

 

[AuggyDauggy]

You’re gonna have to get some normie hobbies first before anything otherwise im conversation you won’t be able to relate to her at all.

Imo flirting is no different to messing around with a friend. Obviously make it known you have an interest in her from the way you look at her and all but guys make the mistake of thinking “I need to constantly compliment her, I need to always say something good about her; ask her about this and that” When really you can say whatever the fuck, good or bad. It’s about how you make her feel when she’s talking to you.

Say what’s on your mind and talk you’re in a normal convo, tease her, genuinely compliment her if she deserves it. Not just because she exists

Watching videos on this will just make things seem forced

If you’re having fun in the convo, not trying to suck up to her in any way, there’s a likely chance she’ll try to match your vibe too. There’s probably plenty of men who have tried the obvious lovebombing strat on her. If not and she’s signalling not interested well oof

Mb if this doesn’t make sense, it was hard to put it into words. You just get better at it the more you practice

 

[Rias]

You’re gonna have to get some normie hobbies first before anything otherwise im conversation you won’t be able to relate to her at all.

Imo flirting is no different to messing around with a friend. Obviously make it known you have an interest in her from the way you look at her and all but guys make the mistake of thinking “I need to constantly compliment her, I need to always say something good about her; ask her about this and that” When really you can say whatever the fuck, good or bad. It’s about how you make her feel when she’s talking to you.

Say what’s on your mind and talk you’re in a normal convo, tease her, genuinely compliment her if she deserves it. Not just because she exists

Watching videos on this will just make things seem forced

If you’re having fun in the convo, not trying to suck up to her in any way, there’s a likely chance she’ll try to match your vibe too. There’s probably plenty of men who have tried the obvious lovebombing strat on her. If not and she’s signalling not interested well oof

Mb if this doesn’t make sense, it was hard to put it into words. You just get better at it the more you practice

thanks for the advice but the main question isn't how to talk to them tbh the main problem here is how i can get to the talking stage and mainly meet them, i think i would figure out how to talk to her if i got to that stage, but yeah i never get to that stage since i don't really meet women, cold approach sounds weird aswell ngl

 

[DonJuanDeMarco]

Nah don’t go dming on insta
Unless u alr know the person, talked a bit and got a good ig profile with high quality nt pictures

Only go around dm’ing girls on insta if you’re HTN+ btw (in pictures too)
Or the girl seemed rlly interested in u prior.

Plenty of guys try the dm method, too scared to approach irl, ur just gonna seem desperate.

 

[Darkeningstar]

Keep a couple of things in mind:
- you can’t effectively flirt with a girl who is not interested in you
- you have to practise


That said... the first step is to make the girl pay attention to you, much easier in a social circle
You can:
- pay her a light but different compliment (don't directly compliment her physical appearance)
- give her unsolicited help (works great, but needs stricter conditions), not advisable if you don't know her
- talk to her normally and let the conversation flow (recommended if you don’t feel comfortable, you will learn a few things)
- some more advanced things

flirting is an instinctive thing that can be trained, trial and error
You’ll fail initially

 

[DonJuanDeMarco]

thanks for the advice but the main question isn't how to talk to them tbh the main problem here is how i can get to the talking stage and mainly meet them, i think i would figure out how to talk to her if i got to that stage, but yeah i never get to that stage since i don't really meet women, cold approach sounds weird aswell ngl

You have friends? Ones u regularly hang out with?

Try starting from there man. You should already naturally meet women. If not then you probably don’t go out enough.

 

[CtrlAltDead]

title, i'm gonna be 18 in a year and i still haven't flirted with any girl in my life
also idk how to meet them either..


@over0 @Randomized Shame @pompompurino @Spuffy @hannah @Anxietypilled

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I've been approached by 2 girls as a mtn honestly you just have to grab your balls and just man up, take shots for me personally I kinda lay low, hold doors for them and be respectful and clean. Don't be over performative however cus they can sense that shit with lazer eyes yes girls have xray vision and lazer eyes btw so make sure your penis is big as well

 

[DonJuanDeMarco]

Keep a couple of things in mind:
- you can’t effectively flirt with a girl who is not interested in you
- you have to practise


That said... the first step is to make the girl pay attention to you, much easier in a social circle
You can:
- pay her a light but different compliment (don't directly compliment her physical appearance)
- give her unsolicited help (works great, but needs stricter conditions), not advisable if you don't know her
- talk to her normally and let the conversation flow (recommended if you don’t feel comfortable, you will learn a few things)
- some more advanced things

flirting is an instinctive thing that can be trained, trial and error
You’ll fail initially

Another major thing with texting.
U don’t want to do much of it at all, will make u seem needy.
Nothing worse than a guy who does nothing all day and is bugging some girl to talk.

U need to hate texting, if she replies short, reply shorter, if she replies late, reply later.
Your texts NEED to be shorter than hers.

 

[cytopathic]

I've been approached by 2 girls as a mtn honestly you just have to grab your balls and just man up, take shots for me personally I kinda lay low, hold doors for them and be respectful and clean. Don't be over performative however cus they can sense that shit with lazer eyes yes girls have xray vision and lazer eyes btw so make sure your penis is big as well

the girls who usually approach first are usually sluts/whores trying to break mens hearts it's common knowledge

 

[AuggyDauggy]

thanks for the advice but the main question isn't how to talk to them tbh the main problem here is how i can get to the talking stage and mainly meet them, i think i would figure out how to talk to her if i got to that stage, but yeah i never get to that stage since i don't really meet women, cold approach sounds weird aswell ngl

Yeah cold approaching is rarely successful, too many factors working against you

Your best bet would be to befriend coworkers. Then get introduced to friends of friends

Join school clubs and meet new people there

Dating apps could work but again you’ll need to be HTN+ for that

Maybe Yubo could work. I got like 2 dates from there, theyll be around your age too and it’s not like a dating app

It’s kinda hard when you’re not in an IRL social circle

 

[holytruecoper]

you cant talk with girls about anything serious or interesting. just talk some bullshit and flirt thats all

 

[NewFuckingDay]

You legit just wait until they say something provocative lmao, is it this hard

 

[Darkeningstar]

you cant talk with girls about anything serious or interesting. just talk some bullshit and flirt thats all

“I can't flirt”
Reply
“Just Flirt, bro”

Self-declared high iq, of course

 

[Darkeningstar]

You legit just wait until they say something provocative lmao, is it this hard

Yes, it is, like learning a skill

The process that transforms this type of psychological stress into automatism is quite long

 

[NewFuckingDay]

Yes, it is, like learning a skill

The process that transforms this type of psychological stress into automatism is quite long

You can just shrug off what they say. You literally don’t need to say anything just fluff till they literally say shit like “You’re so handsome” “I wanna play-fight in bed with you” “come with us at break” or something more sexual blah blah after acting normal

I just shrug it off then they call me autistic as a response. I have had girls saying they are going to follow me home and I literally act as uninterested as possible with them 24/7. They do get bored/insecure with flirting after a while if you don’t reciprocate any energy, it discourages them. So literally act yourself, they will flirt, then reciprocate lightly.

 

[Grilldaddy83]

Idk tbh

 

[Darkeningstar]

You can just shrug off what they say. You literally don’t need to say anything just fluff till they literally say shit like “You’re so handsome” “I wanna play-fight in bed with you” “come with us at break” or something more sexual blah blah after acting normal

I just shrug it off then they call me autistic as a response. I have had girls saying they are going to follow me home and I literally act as uninterested as possible with them 24/7. They do get bored/insecure with flirting after a while if you don’t reciprocate any energy, it discourages them. So literally act yourself, they will flirt, then reciprocate lightly.

A male can't be so passive

 

[NewFuckingDay]

A male can't be so passive

They can, passiveness is literally key to anything until it starts to go. Just act passive, I don’t act though I am just that way naturally and disregard everything. Women will always try to bring you closer if they are actually attracted to you, they will question you a lot on stuff, tell you to follow them or vice versa, compliment you and stuff. It is much more frequent when they are in groups.

 

[Darkeningstar]

They can, passiveness is literally key to anything until it starts to go. Just act passive, I don’t act though I am just that way naturally and disregard everything. Women will always try to bring you closer if they are actually attracted to you, they will question you a lot on stuff, tell you to follow them or vice versa, compliment you and stuff. It is much more frequent when they are in groups.

elo67

 

[NewFuckingDay]

elo67

ela67?

 

[Nenestar]

I can only flirt if the girl is interested. It should be obvious when that's the case.

You just look in to her eyes and play into her imagination. Rarely be direct but talk in a way that could imply something, and then tease about it etc.

To get to this point in the first place, you should try to get into friend groups where there's a lot of girls, i guess.

 

[Darkeningstar]

They can, passiveness is literally key to anything until it starts to go. Just act passive, I don’t act though I am just that way naturally and disregard everything. Women will always try to bring you closer if they are actually attracted to you, they will question you a lot on stuff, tell you to follow them or vice versa, compliment you and stuff. It is much more frequent when they are in groups.

Your answer is a misinterpretation of taoism, sort of

Passivity is not good, not forcing things is
You can multiply your possibilities if you are proactive

 

[NewFuckingDay]

Your answer is a misinterpretation of taoism, sort of

Passivity is not good, not forcing things is
You can multiply your possibilities if you are proactive

you are actually very correct

 

[Tumor]

@tulip @ela67 @Nenestar @Tumor

I don't know man

 

[tulip]

title, i'm gonna be 18 in a year and i still haven't flirted with any girl in my life
also idk how to meet them either..


@over0 @Randomized Shame @pompompurino @Spuffy @hannah @Anxietypilled

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practice with girls my age (15-17) then try the ones your age