How do I tell her "look we need some space" without hurting her feelings or making her feel insecure. I dont wanna say stuff like that but sometimes I

[Deleted Member 61353]

How do I tell her "look we need some space" without hurting her feelings or making her feel insecure. I dont wanna say stuff like that but sometimes I come home and I just feel really tired. These classes are hard and the lectures are boring. When I'm stressed all I want to do is sleep.

I entire my apartment and the first thing she does is help me bring my back to my room and lead me there. Then she insists that we order lunch from this food delivery service. Whatever, its normal.

While waiting, she wants to cuddle and willingly oblige. The food comes, we eat, have talks, whatever. We clean the dishes, throw out the trash and replace the bin lining and close all the windows because as it slowly gets dark moths might fly into the light of the pantry area.

By this time she insists we just spend more time talking and cuddling, like why? I don't think I have the heart to say no. If the roles were reversed and she straight up tells me, I'd feel REALLY insecure.

"This was how she felt all this time?"
"Am I the annoying one?"
"Is it falling apart"

These thoughts will enter my mind and I'm sure it'll enter hers. I really do like her so can someone please tell me what and what not to do?

Thanks.

 

[Deleted Member 59374]

dnr

tell her “dnr”

 

[Nairod]

Tell her to go ER

 

[Deleted Member 61353]

dnr

tell her “dnr”

One of the best posts you've made

Which says a lot

 

[slopslinger]

acknowledge it and offer reassurance. very important to convey that your need for space is about you and your shit not her. also make clear that it's only temporary.

 

[Deleted Member 61353]

acknowledge it and offer reassurance. very important to convey that your need for space is about you and your shit not her. also make clear that it's only temporary.

Thx, this is a really good answer

 

[doll]

you dont

 

[Deleted Member 43211]

dnr

tell her “dnr”

Sorry why did you get diagnosed with rabies?