How do u actually become happier

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sorry i know that this is long i am just ranting

I dont know if my story here just proves or disproves the bp but its my life and its been a constant thing that is reoccurring throughout my life since abt the age of 13/14. generally ive been pretty unhappy and i am really lost on the way that i will find happiness, ive been happy for periods of time but nothing that has ever really lasted an extended period of time. Im 5'8 and not the best looking but i dont honestly know if its my looks bc i used to be a lot uglier and a lot smaller throughout my teenage years and i was relatively abt the same when it comes to my mental health, ive dealt with phases and episodes of depression where i have serious sucicidal thoughts. I came here bc i thought that this was the key bc my treatment has gotten better since ive become better lokking and ive noticed that but im still dealing wth the same issues. Just today i found out that the girl ive been talking to for a month or so today was trying to get my friend over to her house before she was asking me and it sent me into a complete breakdown. I feel like my friends view me as a second option, as well as girls, and even my family to an extent. If anyone has anything that could help or just wants to talk i would love to bc im really lost and im scared at what im going to do to myslef if i have a bad episode. Am i just coping and should i try to ascend or should i really try to reach out and who should it be bc it seems like no one really cares anyway.

 

[Ghoultune]

Nothing matters (in a good way)

 

[Deleted Member 80538]

just drink water and be yourself

 

[Deleted Member 91009]

focus less on relationships my bro, most ppl are dickheads. live your life, treat urself w kindness, set urself goals n do them. fk other ppl my bro

 

[Darkeningstar]

Fucking brutal

It’s difficult to give advice in this case

 

[vespertine]

date jews

 

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Fucking brutal

It’s difficult to give advice in this case

lol this is the biggest ropefuel response jfl

 

[Newday]

I am constantly baseline

 

[Deleted Member 91357]

sorry i know that this is long i am just ranting

I dont know if my story here just proves or disproves the bp but its my life and its been a constant thing that is reoccurring throughout my life since abt the age of 13/14. generally ive been pretty unhappy and i am really lost on the way that i will find happiness, ive been happy for periods of time but nothing that has ever really lasted an extended period of time. Im 5'8 and not the best looking but i dont honestly know if its my looks bc i used to be a lot uglier and a lot smaller throughout my teenage years and i was relatively abt the same when it comes to my mental health, ive dealt with phases and episodes of depression where i have serious sucicidal thoughts. I came here bc i thought that this was the key bc my treatment has gotten better since ive become better lokking and ive noticed that but im still dealing wth the same issues. Just today i found out that the girl ive been talking to for a month or so today was trying to get my friend over to her house before she was asking me and it sent me into a complete breakdown. I feel like my friends view me as a second option, as well as girls, and even my family to an extent. If anyone has anything that could help or just wants to talk i would love to bc im really lost and im scared at what im going to do to myslef if i have a bad episode. Am i just coping and should i try to ascend or should i really try to reach out and who should it be bc it seems like no one really cares anyway.

do something you can pour ur heart into

 

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do something you can pour ur heart into

genuinely have no interest im a massive loser im naturally bad at everything and im such a depressed lazy bum to actually give anything my all, ik that sounds bad but i dont know what i can even do, i just want to be happy man

 

[TonyDr]

If anyone has anything that could help or just wants to talk i would love to bc im really lost and im scared at what im going to do to myslef if i have a bad episode. Am i just coping and should i try to ascend or should i really try to reach out and who should it be bc it seems like no one really cares anyway.

1/ Don't be attached too much to women. Sure you can enjoy the time being with them BUT you need to accept deep down, that it ends at any time. Don't over obsess into one woman and talk to multiple women until you found THE one.

2/ You need to occupy your mind with something.
Hobbies, even if you're bad at it, it's not really a competition, you need to improve for yourself. Could be a sport, repairing stuff, theater classes, pottery, crochet, anything that could makes you more social toward people
You can also work, to earn money and build social skills, or/and doing something you like at School.

 

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1/ Don't be attached too much to women. Sure you can enjoy the time being with them BUT you need to accept deep down, that it ends at any time. Don't over obsess into one woman and talk to multiple women until you found THE one.

2/ You need to occupy your mind with something.
Hobbies, even if you're bad at it, it's not really a competition, you need to improve for yourself. Could be a sport, repairing stuff, theater classes, pottery, crochet, anything that could makes you more social toward people
You can also work, to earn money and build social skills, or/and doing something you like at School.

thanks man really appreciate this hopefully i can find something that i enjoy and your advice will help, again really appreciate the help ur a good dude man <3