How do you socialmax

[HXLPME18]

Help me

 

[slopslinger]

get a "hobby" ig, u have to genuinely be interested tho to connect with people in whatever niche

 

[Bl00dFlowxr]

Smoking and drugmaxxing helped me

 

[HXLPME18]

get a "hobby" ig, u have to genuinely be interested tho to connect with people in whatever niche

I feel like the things I like doing are solo things so like I have to just change it all ?

 

[HXLPME18]

Smoking and drugmaxxing helped me

I smoke a lot but in the end it just makes it so I don’t just have blank stare at someone not really with me being able to talk or anything

 

[pogdude]

I feel like the things I like doing are solo things so like I have to just change it all ?

yes. get involved in a group activity. You dont have to actually like it, just make sure you like the people you are doing it with.

 

[LASACRKO]

U gotta talk to ppl

 

[rolling stone]

if you have to ask this it’s already over man

 

[draftLexy]

I feel like the things I like doing are solo things so like I have to just change it all ?

try to get into some sorta groups,events or workshops even if they dont intrest you all that much

 

[HXLPME18]

try to get into some sorta groups,events or workshops even if they dont intrest you all that much

The thing I struggle with is like after I say hi my name is how are you it’s like damn I really got nothing else to say or like I don’t know how to just casually talk

 

[draftLexy]

The thing I struggle with is like after I say hi my name is how are you it’s like damn I really got nothing else to say or like I don’t know how to just casually talk

one thing you need to always do witch makes easy canvo is ask questions, like why are you here do you come here often its my first time can you tell me about this place ect ect questions help keep the canvo going and it develops more natrually afterwards

 

[HXLPME18]

one thing you need to always do witch makes easy canvo is ask questions, like why are you here do you come here often its my first time can you tell me about this place ect ect questions help keep the canvo going and it develops more natrually afterwards

First person to actually give me words to say instead of saying yeah man you just talk dumbass

 

[draftLexy]

First person to actually give me words to say instead of saying yeah man you just talk dumbass

i know its hard and akward to talk to people at first but keep just asking questions and from those questions there will be more questions and yk boom eassy

 

[HXLPME18]

i know its hard and akward to talk to people at first but keep just asking questions and from those questions there will be more questions and yk boom eassy

Thank you

 

[delilahjones]

go into a sauna at the gym and talk to sweaty old nighas to begin with, worked for me

 

[HXLPME18]

go into a sauna at the gym and talk to sweaty old nighas to begin with, worked for me

I can’t tell if that’s like actually a thing that you went through or if this is jokes like the one guy asking me to turn into femboy

 

[galaxygirl]

yes. get involved in a group activity. You dont have to actually like it, just make sure you like the people you are doing it with.

team sports if ur athletic. vball helped me so so much cuz 2 of my teammates went to my school and from there it was bbq chicken

 

[galaxygirl]

i know its hard and akward to talk to people at first but keep just asking questions and from those questions there will be more questions and yk boom eassy

another thing is ask for really small favors!! like for a really specific example "hey the teacher asked me to get ___, idk where it is could you walk me there?" it forces you two to spend a really small amt of time together, and in that time you can talk about things that you have in common(ask someone yk u have smt in common with or at least looks like it)

or i might just be spitting bs idk it worked for me man

 

[galaxygirl]

another thing is ask for really small favors!! like for a really specific example "hey the teacher asked me to get ___, idk where it is could you walk me there?" it forces you two to spend a really small amt of time together, and in that time you can talk about things that you have in common(ask someone yk u have smt in common with or at least looks like it)

or i might just be spitting bs idk it worked for me man

on second thought this might only work for girls. sorry buddy

 

[HXLPME18]

on second thought this might only work for girls. sorry buddy

Thanks for trying lol

 

[delilahjones]

I can’t tell if that’s like actually a thing that you went through or if this is jokes like the one guy asking me to turn into femboy

nah i’m serious u can get some good conversations in, helps if you know about sports/gym stuff but not necessary

 

[HXLPME18]

nah i’m serious u can get some good conversations in, helps if you know about sports/gym stuff but not necessary

Got a j*b at grocery store to force myself to have to say hi to people and stuff it worked but in the end I kinda just have a feeling of throwing up all day from like having everyone constantly stare at me well I work

 

[ragnarok787]

Smoking and drugmaxxing helped me

nope this is the worst shit u can do

like others said connect through having things in common, ideas opinions humor interests hobbies its the easiest start
after time u will gain some idea how to talk to people and it will come more naturally
dont talk too much about yourself, i cant find anything more painfull than just listening to one sided conversation when one guy or girl talks nonstop about themselves , my brain start to zone out

 

[cindythetvisleaking]

Help me

You don't, everybody is retarded and ugly except me is the way i am thinking and i got nothing wrong with that

 

[HXLPME18]

You don't, everybody is retarded and ugly except me is the way i am thinking and i got nothing wrong with that

I think every looksmaxer thinks they are the best but that’s why they have psl scale to prove you are hot prove that if someone says otherwise it’s cope

 

[cindythetvisleaking]

I think every looksmaxer thinks they are the best but that’s why they have psl scale to prove you are hot prove that if someone says otherwise it’s cope

Well idk i am mentally ill but i never observe other person's opinion but i also think other people who are not like me don't deserve to exist

 

[machineovercooked]

Help me

join a frat or sorority or something you're into

 

[HXLPME18]

join a frat or sorority or something you're into

Problem is I be in my room or at work I don’t do school just work get high play video games and then like slay some girls if the game is boring

 

[HXLPME18]

Well idk i am mentally ill but i never observe other person's opinion but i also think other people who are not like me don't deserve to exist

Well that depends what does a person have to be to be like you? As long as you don’t have some crazy nonsense shit that they have to be then like who cares you think what you want well the rest of the world thinks what they want me personally I love the attention of girls now telling me I’m 7.5 and more and never getting a low rating of 4 again

 

[2R0I2P0]

Help me

To me what helped, is to me actively look to push yourself, ask questions. They might not be a point in it just getting to know the other person.

The reasoning behind this is that you have to assume that almost no one likes what you like, just as an useful axiom. So make the topic of conversation about the thing that i am certain they will be interested in talking about "themselves".

Normally, when you start the convo you might start about the clothes they are wearing or their beautiful dark chocolaty brown eyes, the latter being a joke. But normally asking for something that they are wearing is a good conversation starter. And then ask, in regards to the inspo, and such. Eventually probe with jokes that you like; to see where the point of convergence is, basically making memes irl.

Apart from that, the path to social maxing is to accept that you are not one that everyone will want to talk to you. That being said, the important thing is not to come up as an ass, just likeable .

My point being, as christ accepted that he would die in getsemani, you have to radically accept that not everyone will like you as you wish to.

 

[ragnarok787]

To me what helped, is to me actively look to push yourself, ask questions. They might not be a point in it just getting to know the other person.

The reasoning behind this is that you have to assume that almost no one likes what you like, just as an useful axiom. So make the topic of conversation about the thing that i am certain they will be interested in talking about "themselves".

Normally, when you start the convo you might start about the clothes they are wearing or their beautiful dark chocolaty brown eyes, the latter being a joke. But normally asking for something that they are wearing is a good conversation starter. And then ask, in regards to the inspo, and such. Eventually probe with jokes that you like; to see where the point of convergence is, basically making memes irl.

Apart from that, the path to social maxing is to accept that you are not one that everyone will want to talk to you. That being said, the important thing is not to come up as an ass, just likeable .

My point being, as christ accepted that he would die in getsemani, you have to radically accept that not everyone will like you as you wish to.

Make them feel like they are interesting and heard they will fucking love u, dont judge

 

[ccj9399]

Learning to make friends

I always felt lonely in my life, but I always struggled with socializing with others, as a consequence I'm unable to make any friends. Can I have some recommendations for books on socialization, making friends, social engineering, manipulation, etc in order for me to be able to make friends and...

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[CtrlAltDead]

Help me

What helped me is just to go to AnimeCons and talk with people. It's diverse in there. Just make sure to wear hygiene products ofc

 

[HXLPME18]

What helped me is just to go to AnimeCons and talk with people. It's diverse in there. Just make sure to wear hygiene products ofc

I’ve got a j*b at fast food and work register so I have to say hi and all that and I’ve even started talking to girls more irl then snap and stuff and like am slowly not so reclusive in my room 24/7