How to get better at socializing

[danielcheese]

i always stumble over my words and never say what i mean
sometimes interactions have brought me to tears how do i fix this

 

[Darkeningstar]

Brutal

 

[ebony enjoyer]

Lol i have perfect social skills but im gatekeeping how to get them

 

[draftLexy]

Why need social skills fuck people

 

[Darkeningstar]

no magic pill, unless you want “external” support

 

[delilahjones]

wank in public to erase fear

 

[delilahjones]

walk into a barbers and scream then run away or some shi exposure therapy

 

[Nitwit]

i always stumble over my words and never say what i mean
sometimes interactions have brought me to tears how do i fix this

xanax + pregab

 

[Diavolo]

Is there a way to fix this? I wonder too...

 

[bruhtoobrutal]

pregab

 

[DarkAscender]

U just gotta practice it really.
It's gonna keep sucking until u get decent at it.

 

[recai]

there is no practice there is no "getting better at socializing" if you ever at some point needed to self improve to live a normal life you are a genetic failure

 

[Logicmaxxer]

1. modifying your genes
2. changing your memories
3. changing environment
I hope I have helped

 

[danielcheese]

1. modifying your genes
2. changing your memories
3. changing environment
I hope I have helped

gonna do this in my next life thanks

 

[repented]

Stumbling over your words seems to be a sign of nervousness. I’m assuming you struggle with anxiety?

If you never say what you mean, trying thinking before you speak so everything can come out smooth and nicely. That way, you’ll allow yourself to say how you truly feel and you won’t stutter.

 

[Decay]

Learn to calm down first of all, you probably panic in every social situation

 

[tt4r3wr122t]

i always stumble over my words and never say what i mean
sometimes interactions have brought me to tears how do i fix this

Relax. Take deep breaths. You need to really think of what you’re going to say before you say it. Don’t say anything to people before you’ve said it to yourself in your head.

 

[danielcheese]

Stumbling over your words seems to be a sign of nervousness. I’m assuming you struggle with anxiety?

If you never say what you mean, trying thinking before you speak so everything can come out smooth and nicely. That way, you’ll allow yourself to say how you truly feel and you won’t stutter.

i do think before i speak and i think thats the issue because i overthink it and it never comes out right, yes i do have anxiety but i dont take anything for it

 

[CJ Central]

i always stumble over my words and never say what i mean
sometimes interactions have brought me to tears how do i fix this

Start spending more time where people are at. Sometimes I go tumbling around in the park for hours. I've had lots of great conversations.

 

[Decay]

i do think before i speak and i think thats the issue because i overthink it and it never comes out right, yes i do have anxiety but i dont take anything for it

You could take pregab

 

[Decay]

i do think before i speak and i think thats the issue because i overthink it and it never comes out right, yes i do have anxiety but i dont take anything for it

I always hate giving advice on this, because someone will inevitably mock my simplification. But it really is this simple; stop caring so much about how people perceive you, unless there is a long term benefit for it

 

[prosperity]

i always stumble over my words and never say what i mean
sometimes interactions have brought me to tears how do i fix this

ive never understood people like this.

stop caring so much about what other people think

tmr, just stand on a table in public and start screaming and shouting, the more you do it the less anxious u will feel

 

[2R0I2P0]

i always stumble over my words and never say what i mean
sometimes interactions have brought me to tears how do i fix this

It's difficult but getting in the position to do so or in other ways exposing yourself to something that makes you feel anxious everytime is whtat ultimately makes it better

What you have to do is what @BlendedBlade, recommended when discussing how to lower cortisol the 5 senses exercise, That is to bring down the process of rumination, an remember that you are here .

It's start's with the question what are my arms feeling, what am I'm tasting, what am i hearing and you finish with the five senses basically.

What also works, at least for me is repeating a soothing mantra, in my case due to me being a tad religious is "jesus is within me", you can use whatever or going down on lists. Or any other TIP's skill, look them up i'm lazy right now.

Lastly, i don't know what's your native language but look up enunciation guides or exercises' and also remember that you cannot speak as fast as you think so speak more slowly, slow portrays confidence.

But yeah, just get out there champ.

 

[2R0I2P0]

gonna do this in my next life thanks

Ah as well, sidenote;

You are an anxious person, so if you have time have some mental notes prepared of conversations you would like to have and plan for contingencies, this an advice for the first few times, you have to get better at doing that on the fly.

 

[¿Mandy]

Lowering stress or overall baseline cortisol levels. If that dosen’t work then you couldn’t change your brain chemistry then you’d have to blast pregabalin or any kind of other thing.

 

[DarkAscender]

You could take pregab

literally don't

 

[derm1255]

there is no practice there is no "getting better at socializing" if you ever at some point needed to self improve to live a normal life you are a genetic failure

This!

 

[Abdullahm06]

by doing it more

 

[raviolium]

Hello. There is little background information, so my best is a projection of my own experience.
Stuttering is normal, but if it often interferes with your speech, you need to practice. Especially if the language is not your native one: any deviation of the interlocutor from your prediction of verbal and non-verbal communication (people who are afraid to talk or are inept often do this - how to approach, what to do, etc.) can knock you out and prevent you from formulating a response. Stress is noticeable, even if it seems that everything is under control.

I don't quite understand what is meant by “never say what I mean”.
Are you unable to express your thoughts concisely? Or do you get anxious and start rushing and say things that others find offensive?
If the first is the case, practice writing your stream of thoughts on paper in full and then abbreviating it on another sheet of paper.
If it's the latter, try slowing down to find the right words. With experience, there will be fewer mistakes.
You should also expand your vocabulary by reading books, listening to podcasts, etc.

Try to practice your communication with people you don't like or dislike (remember to be safe and polite) - you'll feel more confident. As a rule, it is easier to communicate with people you don't care about than with those who are “above” them in your mind. At the same time, you will realize that a significant part of people are indifferent (in a good way).

You can also practice in front of a mirror.

If you're in a small town, not a metropolis, you shouldn't go out and “shout”: there can be consequences, and if you don't understand why you're doing it, no one will understand you, and you won't understand yourself either.

Consultation with a speech therapist idk but we call them logopedist.

Have a nice day!

 

[Craven]

Lsd + pregab and force ur self to socialize and get good interactions
It will rewire ur brain