How to give love to yourself?

[tuberculosisinmybal]

I care so much about other people and especially animals I need to feed every stray I see and give them attention and love but I can't force myself to be nice to myself

 

[𐲀 𐲢 𐲠 𐲀 𐲇 𐲰]

or touch urself

 

[Deleted Member 108588]

hug yourself, never tried it but i will from now on.

 

[tuberculosisinmybal]

or touch urself

No this not the way gooning is made up by Israel

 

[dominantchad]

I care so much about other people and especially animals I need to feed every stray I see and give them attention and love but I can't force myself to be nice to myself

Goon

 

[tuberculosisinmybal]

hug yourself, never tried it but i will from now on.

Maybe I'm gonna try to hug a train

 

[ilovelaura]

Forgiveness

 

[marblesoup]

jerk off to your reflection

 

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jerk off to your reflection

Why does this work?

 

[marblesoup]

No this not the way gooning is made up by Israel

never goon

 

[marblesoup]

Why does this work?

works like a charm

 

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never goon

There's no negatives to it

 

[marblesoup]

There's no negatives to it

sure bro

 

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sure bro

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Name one

 

[marblesoup]

Name one

the guilt that guys say they have after

there’s no real downside as a woman so i guess i actually wouldn’t know but i hear guys complain about their addiction all the time

 

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the guilt that guys say they have after

there’s no real downside as a woman so i guess i actually wouldn’t know but i hear guys complain about their addiction all the time

There is no guilt lol anyone who says that is retarded or im just different since I dont get stressed as easy

 

[marblesoup]

There is no guilt lol anyone who says that is retarded or im just different since I dont get stressed as easy

built different

 

[zygosmasher]

I care so much about other people and especially animals I need to feed every stray I see and give them attention and love but I can't force myself to be nice to myself

mirin seeing you here

 

[tuberculosisinmybal]

Why did this turn into gooning

 

[tuberculosisinmybal]

mirin seeing you here

Hi bhai

 

[Deleted Member 66953]

I care so much about other people and especially animals I need to feed every stray I see and give them attention and love but I can't force myself to be nice to myself

what you described is a great example of deep empathy. the problem is that your brain somehow isn’t categorizing yourself as deserving of care in the same way.

sometimes this happens when you derive value from what you give instead of who you are. but, this is just a silly rule your brain made up and it can be unlearned.

Think about it this way: you feed animals even though they’re not perfect.
you feed them because
a) they’re hungry
b) they’re alive
c) they’re deserving of care regardless of conditions

that’s kind of a simple model you can adapt for yourself. it takes a bit of getting used to, but once you recognize your need just respond without judgement (ie- you wouldn’t yell at a stray for being scared, and you wouldn’t withhold food until they earn it)

start by noticing what it is you’re lacking. are you hungry? do you feel safe? do you feel overwhelmed?
It might help to pair an act of kindness for yourself with one you already do. maybe you comforted someone that day, so take five minutes to write down or say out loud some things you like about yourself. affirming positive thoughts reinforces that behavior in the future.

your brain might feel guilty for taking more time to think about your needs and it brings up discomfort so you learned to avoid it. it’s not bad, just might feel emotionally loaded. it’s almost like your brain confuses self love with selfishness. selfish people take at others expense, and ignore harm they cause. neither of those two things apply to you. self love with help meet your needs so you don’t feel as burnt out.

give yourself permission to act the way you treat others. you are a lovely person. set some boundaries so you finally view yourself the way others see you

 

[Duchesse]

I care so much about other people and especially animals I need to feed every stray I see and give them attention and love but I can't force myself to be nice to myself

Tell that to your mum tbh , you should be close to your parents

 

[tuberculosisinmybal]

maybe you comforted someone that day, so take five minutes to write down or say out loud some things you like about yourself. affirming positive thoughts reinforces that behavior in the future.

This just reminded me that I had a gratitude journal a few years ago, I'm gonna pick up writing down things every day which I was grateful for cuz I also wrote down things I did myself for me, it might help me to do more things for myself which I can write down.

give yourself permission to act the way you treat others. you are a lovely person.

And I appreciate it, thank you and you're too


Thanks for putting in the effort writing that down I'm really grateful for that